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Dear Marjorie,
 

        We are always Thinking of you and wishing BJ a quick return to the very
best of health.
 

        The Ize Family.
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Date:         Sun, 15 Feb 1998 09:59:13 -0800
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From:         Robin MacDonald <macdonal@GOLDEN.NET>
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I am wondering, on average, at what age children have begun to notice
the physical differences that they have? Our daughter if 5 and a half
and has really taken notice of the differences in fingers and toes.
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Hi everyone,

I have got a question that I hope maybe someone has some insight into...

Recently - between 2 and 3 weeks ago, Brenna has started gagging on
everything.  We have had to stop using bibs because she just gaggs
uncontrollably until she has herself in tears.  It even happens when we
change her shirts.  When we pull anything over her head and neck, the
sensation of something touching her neck causes her to choke.  Also when
she gets upset, and cries - not very often - usually only when she gets
hurt, she starts to gagg in the worst way.  It starts immediately as she
starts to cry.  The gagging is a little more invoved when she is crying.

When we went to the ENT last week, he said that her tonsils are starting to
grow, and that we will have to have her tonsils and adenoids removed in the
near future.  He wants to wait though until they absolutely have to come
out.  I am wondering if there is a conection???  I asked him about it, but
he had never had this association before.

Anyways, I am baffled!!!  ;-/  Brenna woke up real early this morning (from
an apnea spell, or tummy ache or bad dream???) crying real hard and gagging
for almost 20 minutes until I got her to settle down again.  She never
actually throws up anything, but I am beginning to get concerned.  She does
have some sleep apnea that seems to be getting worst lately.  I probably
wouldn't be as concerned if this gagging were "normal" behavior for her.
But, it just started up a few weeks ago???

Has anyone had, or heard of other children who do this?  Any insight or
opinions would be really appreciated!!!

Hope you all had a nice Valentines day- hopefully with lots of Chocolate!!!!
Hugs, Robyn Jonhston
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From:         Scott Pengelly <scottp@EUGENE.COM>
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Good morning, all:

        Marjorie, David, BJ, Joshual,Jacob and Katie:

You remain in my prayers and in my heart. Please rest
when you can.

All the best,
Love, Scott
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Robyn,

My son Andrew has just started the same thing whenever he eats or drinks
anything.  He will even gag when he is drinking from his bottle.  It isn't
just juice liquid, but milk as well.  Its not a choking thing, its an
exaggerated cough or gag.  Our hand and foot surgeon, said that sleep apnea is
very common in Apert.  Also, our craniofacial surgeon said that it is very
typical that Apert children need to have their tonsils and adenoids removed.
He said that it is usually done when the child is around three years old.  Our
ENT has told us that he will also wait until necessary to do it, but I feel
that it is time.  I will be calling his ENT on Monday to discuss this and make
an app.

Now I have a question.  I was reading Dr. Upton's book and it says that Reflux
is very rare in Apert.  Is this true?  Does anyone out there experience Reflux
with their children or has an older Apert adult out there still experience
this?  I am real curious, because the book says that the spitting up and
coughing are due to the inflamed tonsils and adenoids.  Does anyone out there
have any information to share with me?

I hope that BJ and Jordon are doing well and I am looking forward to their
updates.  Both are in our prayers.

Love to all,

Lynn
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Dear Harmon family:

I just wanted to wish you all well and let you know you are in our prayers.
We're hoping that BJ improves daily and is not in too much pain.

Thanks for the update.

Jenn, Joe and Jordan:

Hope Jordan is recovering nicely from his surgery, and Mom and Dad, too.

Anyone else having surgery best wishes to you also.
 

Janine Krebs
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Date:         Sun, 15 Feb 1998 20:46:48 -0500
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Lynn,

I have some knowledge of reflux. When Billy was two months old and had his
bowel repaired the doctors put in a g tube for feeding and insisted that
they do a Nissen fundoplication, which is basically rapping them stomache
around the esophagus to prevent reflux. We did not want them to do this but
were told that reflux is sometimes a problem with aperts. They felt that
this whould help him from having a problem gaining weight. WE agreed and let
them do it. Because our four year old who was three months premature had
relux for the first 10 month of her life and it was very un plesant and she
did gain weight but not as fast as she could have. We felt this was a good
move.It has proven to be a good move although he can eat all of his food by
mouth and not have a problem but when given any liquid by his tube once he
takes 3 1/2 ozs. he will start to gag. So we have to wait and give him
atleast 45 minutes be fore he can tolerate any more. When he starts to gag
we hold him upright and rub his back and that seems to help. The doctor do
not seemed concerned and is weight gain has been pretty good so far.

There are medicines that the doctor can give for reflux and sometimes that
helps but ussually the child will out grow relux in most cases by the time
they reach 1 year old. Holding them upright ussually work best if it is just
relux. However if the problem is the tonsils  I dont think that is reflux.
 

We are sending our prayers to BJ and his wonderful family and pray he will
be stronger everyday.

Also thinking of Blake and Jordon and hopping their recovery is going well.
Billy is off to get his sitches out tomorrow. I have to say he is a much
happier boy these days and doing better everyday.

Karen
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From:         Laurie Ann Bailey <jkb@ELPASO.NET>
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My name is Laurie Bailey. My son, Jacob, is 21 months old and is
currently undergoing his finger separations. He has already taken an
interest in how his hands are different from mommy's and daddy's.

Laurie Bailey
jkb@elpaso.net
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Sonya,

So glad to hear how well everything went for you guys.  I hope we have as good
of luck.  We did find out that the reason George's blood didn't work was
because his was CVS positive.  Which means he had the antibodies for
Chickenpox, etc.  Because Jonathan was so young with his first cranial surgery
the order was for CVS negative.  However, they didn't do any lab work before
surgery which I consistently asked about since I've had a number of surgeries
myself and have always had preop stuff.  They couldn't get a vein the morning
of surgery on Jonathan so they decided to wait until he was under to do the
blood match.  We had no idea there would be a problem with George's blood not
working.  It was never mentioned as a potential possibility.

Anyway, I don't know anything about the neuro surgeon that Dr. Salyer works
with.  Have you heard anything about him since you selected the other NS.  We
love our NS here in Houston and hate the thought of using someone else.  He
actually left his practice here for a year to go study with the guys in Dallas
awhile back.  I feel I should call him and let him know what we are going to
do and see what his reaction is to this other neurosugeon.

Was Blake's surgery at Columbia?  We had a bad experience at the Columbia
hospital here when Jonathan was born.  I hope they're not all run the same
way.  I think Columbia owns just about all the hospitals now.  Did you guys
stay in a hotel or camp out at the hospital? This may sound silly, but was
there a shower in Blake's room when he was moved from ICU?  The last time
Jonathan was at Texas Children's I stayed with him the entire time and it was
a battle trying to find an unoccupied shower in the hospital.  I think they
had a total of 3.  It sounds like everything was positive for you all.  I'm so
glad.  The surgery is scheduled for March 24th but we will make a trip up
there before with new CT scans and a general visit.  This will have to be in
between his hand surgery on 2/23 and the healing.   Also I think George and a
friend are going to fly to Dallas and donate within the 2 week timeframe
before surgery.  It's going to be a hectic next few weeks.  Maybe we will be
in Dallas at the same time.  Let me know when Blake's followup appt. is.
Thanks for the info.

Continued best wishes for Blake's full recovery,

Brenda
Houston
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Dear Marjorie:  you, BJ and your family have proven to have a great
strength and lots of patience! You are our inspiration! Keep up!! (I
know it is easier to say than to do).  You are in our prays.

To all the list friends:  Just to share a little good new,  the American
Consulate gave us the Visa... so hopefully we will be travelling to PA
by this weekend or the next.

I will let you know the exact day of our travelling,

Best regards,

Elizabeth
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        Good morning all:

        Elizabeth de Silva, you and your family are in
my thoughts and prayers as you prepare for your journey.
All the best,
love, Scott
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From:         Jim and Kelly Younkin <JimandKelly@YOUNKIN.COM>
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Elizabeth,  Best wishes for your trip here!  I'm sure you have a lot to do
right now to get ready!  How long do you plan to be here?  As I said
before, we only live a very short distance from where you'll be.  Where
exactly will you be staying?  Let us know if you know the name of the place
or have a phone # so that we can reach you.  Our # is (717)524-0865 if
you'd like to call us when you get a chance.  We'd love to be able to meet
you!  Take care!  Kelly
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Hi Brenda,  Hope your day is going well.  Sonya has all three boys home today
and working on a painting order.  Glad I'm a grandmother!
I read your email to her.  There are four neurosurgeon at the clinic and not
sure which one works with Dr. Salyer.  Blake was down there for two days of
preop:  specialists, sleep study, blood work up, MRI, etc.  Sonya recommends
you call Angie Buckmeyer, clinic coordinator, @972-566-6760 or 1-800-227-2424.
(The 800 number is hard to reach.)  Angie worked on the floor for several
years and has good experience.
Sonya and family stayed at the Ronald McDonald House 214-631-7354.  They found
this very satisfactory.  When we were there we stayed at the AmeriSuites since
we had so many people there.  There is a tub/shower available in the room and
another shower on the floor.  Don't think you will have a problem.  We were as
pleased with Medical City Dallas as any other hospital, I guess.  Personally
I'm not crazy about any of them.  We really can't complain.
Have you met with a team?  Blake's follow-up is in April.  If you would like
Sonya to call you, let us know your phone number and she will be glad to do
so.

Good Luck
Gaylann
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Dear Resa and Mark,
Hope you have been reading the messages back and forth from Sonya and Brenda.
There is info about Dallas that you will probably be interested.  Let us know
if we can be of further help.

Take Care,
Gaylann
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Dear Kelly:

> Elizabeth,  Best wishes for your trip here!

Thank you!  I do not know yet when our trip is going to be or where are
we going to stay.  I will have to phone tomorrow Dr. Perlmutter in order
to let him know that we are all set, so he can let us know when to go
and where in PA.

We will be so happy to meet you and have some friendship support over
there. If I know in advance phone numbers I will let you know,  if I do
not get them in advance I will call you from there.  Thank you again for
your support.

Is it still very cold there?

Warm regards,

Elizabeth
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From:         "J. G. Lindamood" <chanan8@JUNO.COM>

Hello!

I have been reading about parents donating blood prior to your children's
surgeries.  I donate blood on a regular basis as my "Good Samaritan"
gesture. When I went to donate today, I asked the nurse if I could donate
on behalf of one of you.  She told me that if your local blood center
charges for the blood you might receive, it would benefit you for me to
do so.  You would not be charged for that pint.  The blood center here
would send a credit voucher to your local center.  So, what I am getting
at is if your child is scheduled to have surgery and you know that your
local blood center charges for the pints of blood, NOT the services the
hospital charges for to receive the blood, I cannot alleviate those
bills-sorry!  Let me know and the next time I go, in April,  I will let
them know it's for you and ask them to send a credit voucher.

Joanne in Ohio

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From:         "J. G. Lindamood" <chanan8@JUNO.COM>
Subject:      Safe Trip!

Elizabeth!

I had been wondering about you and your daughter!  I hope your trip to
the states is a safe one and that your daughter's surgery goes well.  You
will be in my prayers.  I don't know what the weather is like in
Pennsylvania, but it has been unseasonably warm this winter.  30-40
degrees.

The same goes to BJ, Jordan, Blake and Billy.  You are all constantly
prayed for!

The job search saga continues.  God is picking this time to teach me many
things (or perhaps I am picking this time to learn many things from Him?)
 I am at peace.

Warm wishes to all

Joanne, in Ohio

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First of all, we would like to thank Cath and Don Sears for all their
efforts re: Teeters Page and everything they have done to inform
Aperts' families that they are not alone and support is at hand.  As
new members to the Listserve, we would like to introduce ourselves -
Angela and John Brumfitt from Rainhill near Liverpool, England.  We
have four children, Anna 18, John 11, James 9 and Helen 8.
James has Aperts syndrome.  We have been following some of the most
recent news from the members, with great interest, espesially that of
B J Harmon, our thoughts and prayers go out to them all at this very
worrying time, ( may God bless them).  We have followed the amount and
types of surgery done in America, it seems to differ somewhat from our
English system.  James has had only one major surgery to the skull and
the debate is on as to the best time to do something for his mid-face.
Our surgeons like to wait until children are 16, so the mid-face op.
possibly only needs to be done once and yet some of us as parents feel
the children would be better served cosmetically if a mid-face
correction was performed prior to the puberty years.  Thus possibly
easing stresses from teasing and staring from other people.
James has had numerous amounts of surgery done to his hands and it is
still ongoing.  His hands were very severe, he has three fingers and a
thumb on each hand.
We would like to thank Joanne in Ohio, for her lovely personal
thoughts and views of her life, which we would like to print in our
local newsletter for  the Craniofacial Support Group, of which I ,
Angela am on the Executive Committee, if Joanne consents.
We feel this is long enough for our opening letter, however I would
like to say that coincidentally, my maiden name is Harmon and my mum's
christian name was Marjorie .
Best Wishes to all - Angela, John and family.
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Wanted to drop a short note to let everyone know how we are doing. BJ's
condition is the same as last report. The dialysis they are using to clean his
blood is doing about the same. He has a recurrent fever that the doctors are
trying to stay on top of. They have done a good job of that. The doctors have
changed the G-Tube and gone to more frequent but smaller feedings. We are
hoping to eliminate some of the nausea and vomiting this way. BJ seems to be
in a considerable amount of pain and the pain meds are not alway effective in
controling it.

About the only good news is that BJ has been consious for several hours at a
time. The doctors are wanting us to meet with the hospice team in the morning
before we make anymore long term decisions.

JOANNE, as far as the blood goes for BJ our blood bank does not charge for
Blood, This is a great thing as much blood as BJ has needed over the past six
months. The fellow fire fighters and EMT's fDavid's station have been more
than generous to donate bllod as often as possible. David and I have also
given blood 3 times. I would like to encourage those that can to go ahead and
give blood. I know that our blood bank has run very low on several occasions.

Enough preaching from me. I again want to thank everyone for all they have
done for our family. I will always pray for God to bless each of you.

Marjorie Harmon
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Welcome to the Brumfitt Family!

I have three children, Tyler 9, Erin 8, and Devin 10 months.  Devin has
Aperts.  I am sure that you are more experienced than I re: Aperts but I
have found that just being connected to the ListServe is quite a relief.  To
know that their are more people out there who can answer your questions (of
which we have many) from their experiences is a blessing.  Good Luck with
your upcoming hand surgeries and God Bless.

Kerri Hedinger
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Date: Monday, February 16, 1998 3:31 PM
Subject: New Subscribers,England
 

>First of all, we would like to thank Cath and Don Sears for all their
>efforts re: Teeters Page and everything they have done to inform
>Aperts' families that they are not alone and support is at hand.  As
>new members to the Listserve, we would like to introduce ourselves -
>Angela and John Brumfitt from Rainhill near Liverpool, England.  We
>have four children, Anna 18, John 11, James 9 and Helen 8.
>James has Aperts syndrome.  We have been following some of the most
>recent news from the members, with great interest, espesially that of
>B J Harmon, our thoughts and prayers go out to them all at this very
>worrying time, ( may God bless them).  We have followed the amount and
>types of surgery done in America, it seems to differ somewhat from our
>English system.  James has had only one major surgery to the skull and
>the debate is on as to the best time to do something for his mid-face.
>Our surgeons like to wait until children are 16, so the mid-face op.
>possibly only needs to be done once and yet some of us as parents feel
>the children would be better served cosmetically if a mid-face
>correction was performed prior to the puberty years.  Thus possibly
>easing stresses from teasing and staring from other people.
>James has had numerous amounts of surgery done to his hands and it is
>still ongoing.  His hands were very severe, he has three fingers and a
>thumb on each hand.
>We would like to thank Joanne in Ohio, for her lovely personal
>thoughts and views of her life, which we would like to print in our
>local newsletter for  the Craniofacial Support Group, of which I ,
>Angela am on the Executive Committee, if Joanne consents.
>We feel this is long enough for our opening letter, however I would
>like to say that coincidentally, my maiden name is Harmon and my mum's
>christian name was Marjorie .
>Best Wishes to all - Angela, John and family.
>
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Hello,

It's me again with another question.  I started brushing Andrew's teeth many
months ago, but just recently (past week or two) Andrew has started to cry
everytime I go to brush his teeth.  I have read somewhere that Apert teeth are
so jam packed in their mouths sometimes, that is can be painful to brush their
teeth.  Andrew's teeth have been coming in straight so far with no signs of
lack of space.  Has anyone else had this problem, or could it just be that
Andrew is 18 months old and has quite a temper?
 

Marjorie,

I'm glad to hear that BJ is doing a little better than before.  He is a true
fighter and an inspiration to all Apert out there.  We will keep you in our
prayers and sending lots of love your way.  Keep your chin up!

Lynn Thornquist
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This message is from Laurie Bailey. I have a 21 month old son with
Apert's. His name is Jacob. I have been keeping up with your story for
some time now. I want to wish you all well and to remind you: any little
improvement is a huge step toward BJ getting well. I know you probably
already know that, but sometimes it's nice when others realize it too.

Laurie Bailey
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jkb@elpaso.net
1-309-527-4496
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From:         "J. G. Lindamood" <chanan8@JUNO.COM>
Subject:      Hello England!

Angela, John and family,

First of all, Welcome to the Family! I hope you can find all of the love,
acceptance and understanding I have found within these messages.  I hope
you are prepared to be blown away with all of the energy the people on
this list will give you!  It is astronomical!

YES!  Please!  If my words can be echoed in other forms, and help someone
else, Please do so.  I only ask that my name is attached and if possible,
if I could receive a copy of the newsletter my information is printed in?
 I can send my personal snail mail to you.  Thank you!

I want to send my thoughts to James.  It is my hope that he knows he is
not alone and that deep within himself is everything he needs to find the
stamina to ignore the stares and teasing.  I only wish I knew this when I
was his age.

MARJORIE:  I am glad to hear David's colleagues are helping you out!  You
are all in my prayers, especailly tomorrow morning.  Hope all goes well.

Joanne, in Ohio
 

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Subject:      just a note
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Good Morning to all,
    Just to let you all know that this will be a hectic week for me =
(Mark).  Michele and Kayla are in Pittsburgh all week for evaluations =
and testing.  Which, since I cant be there this time, makes me a single =
dad again this week.  No surgeries, just testing.  Since I used all of =
my vacation from work last year when Kayla had surgery I have to be at =
work.  My employer is allowing me to work  around having to be here for =
Megan.  I usually start about 2-3 am.  But this week it is more like =
8-8:30.  So I am not getting home till late, like last night was 9 pm.
    So I still have one here at home to try and take care of.  I am =
amazed at all the stuff Michele does that I don't do around here.  I =
dont know where she finds all the time.  So I am doing my best to stay =
on track here.  I apologize in advance if I dont mention everyone.
    Elizabeth, the weather here this week is scheduled for rain most of =
the time, off and on for the entire week.  I hope that your trip here is =
educational and profitable, please let us know when you will be here and =
if possible a number where you can be reached at.  Michele would like to =
call you, and possibly meet you when she is down there.
    The Harmons,  keep your chin's up.  Long road with many turns as you =
weel know.  Our prayers are with you.
    Angela, John, Anna, John, James, and Helen,  welcome to the list.  =
Spent a lot of time in Europe in the service, 9 1/2 years, but never got =
over to England.  Wish I would have traveled more.  Oh well, to late now =
I guess,  again welcome to our Family.
    Lynn, we have never had any problems with Kayla brushing her teeth.  =
She enjoyes it and loves to brush when her big sister is also.  Best of =
Luck.
    Well my friends, it is time to get ready for work again.  I hope =
that I have not missed anyone in my ramblings.  I know it is with great =
jpride that we all talk about our little ones.  May you all have a great =
day and the sun be shining in your part of the world
    Sincerely,  Mark

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at home to=20
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don't do around here.&nbsp; I dont know where she finds all the =
time.&nbsp; So I=20
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James, and=20
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the=20
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have=20
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Hi Lynn,

Brenna has always had a tough time with Brushing her teeth also.  It has
been a struggle for my husband and I to say the least.  It is one area we
try not to slack on though because we have been told by so many of her Dr's
that good hygeine in the teeth is important.  On the average, these kiddo's
are going to have lots of other dental problems to worry about.  There are
nights where she is obviously in pain from teething.  Her teeth, which are
very crowded, have come in very sporadically and sometimes several at a
time.  We try to be gentler during those times.  The top teeth seem to be
more sensitive than the bottom ones.  Basically we all brush our teeth
together and try to have fun.  We sing songs and goof off together with the
toothbrushes and it seems to work.  We also give her 2 toothbrushes so she
can handle one while we actually brush.  We have found one that has softer
bristles, a long handle and a small head which works well.  It is made by
OralB and it has Elmo on it.  I believe we got it at Toys R Us.  Even
though it is not the funnest thing in the world, Brenna doesn't seem to
mind to much.  It has become part of her nightly ritual.  Does Andrew have
a favorite toy or stuffed animal that could have it's teeth brushed at the
same time?

Good luck, and don't give up!  It has taken us many months and lots of
persistance to get her in this routine.

Hugs, Robyn & the Plum
 

At 09:23 PM 2/16/98 EST, you wrote:
>Hello,
>
>It's me again with another question.  I started brushing Andrew's teeth many
>months ago, but just recently (past week or two) Andrew has started to cry
>everytime I go to brush his teeth.  I have read somewhere that Apert teeth
are
>so jam packed in their mouths sometimes, that is can be painful to brush
their
>teeth.  Andrew's teeth have been coming in straight so far with no signs of
>lack of space.  Has anyone else had this problem, or could it just be that
>Andrew is 18 months old and has quite a temper?
>
>
>Marjorie,
>
>I'm glad to hear that BJ is doing a little better than before.  He is a true
>fighter and an inspiration to all Apert out there.  We will keep you in our
>prayers and sending lots of love your way.  Keep your chin up!
>
>Lynn Thornquist
>
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Hello to everyone..no didn't get kidnapped in cyber space..although I wish I
had at different points this past week..my abducters at least would have let
me sleep!!!!!!
 

Well, Jordan is finally home..YEAH!!! Last night was our first night back..I
really had to harrass our overprotective doctors to let us go. It was at the
point where I think they were thinking about restraining orders against me.
bUt they agreed if the labs were good we could go..and they were, so we did!!

He has done wonderfully. Our biggest problem were his skewed labs. For no
reason 2 days post op his PT and PTT (these have to do w/ bleeding & clotting
time) skyrocketed, then returned to normal?????? then his White count jumped,
w/ no real fever..then went back to normal????? Some odd events to keep in
mind for his future surgeries. They extubated him on his first day post-op,
and I was paronoid he would decide he was to lazy to breath..but he didn't and
what a happy mom I was to see his sats at 100% all the time!!! That will make
me sleep better a night, and get me off Joes back about Jordan not "breathing
right"

He went to the floor on his 3rd day, monitor free, and has been doing well. He
threw up a few times, which concerned us b/c it was after his 2nd day..and it
was projectile  big-time w/ everything he had eaten his enire life going all
over me..hey..I neded a shower anyway...luckily the hospital always has
clothing on hand, so I was given a complimentary pair of scrubs. Then other
parents kept asking me where stuff was..like I worked there!! Anyway, I think
his vomiting was a result of his tummy being tiny and Jordan eating too much
too fast..and the last episode from a coughing fit..he caught a URI
there..LOVELY!!!

He looks ok..a little like ET..his temporal egion on the right side is still
puffy, b/c he lays on that side so I think the swelling pooled a bit..his eyes
have been open since day 2, but really opened day 3..to never shut again might
I add. No, really last night was a good night..he went to sleep around 8 and
woke at 5..ate played a bit then slept for another 21/2 hrs..So I can't
complain b/c I passed out cold the moment his head hit the bed. He got ZERO
sleep in the hospital..too much activity going on..so he was tired as well.
His disposition is ok..today should be better b/c he had some rest. He's
smiley and happy..but I must say I think he looks a little funny. All the docs
and nurses keep telling me he will "grow into" his face. I know they advanced
him 18 mm..which is a lot, but they didn't want to have to it again in a few
yrs. But that smile is a great sight to see..I must say, I didn't think I'd be
sitting here one week post-op w/ a happy baby!! They are all amazing little
creatures. I'd still have my PAC pump going!!

Anyway..AS I ran out of the hospital before our doctors could change their
mind, I was not given one important piece of ingo...when do the stiches come
out?????? I am sure Jordan would appreciate me finding out !!!

Again, thank you all so much for your ongoing support and guidance
through all of this. I feel like I went into it w/ my eyes wide open, thanks
to ya'll, and that really helped when we went to see him for the first time,
and through the healing process.

Now its off to do laundry, pay bills, bathe neglected Alex (gee..has he even
been outside to potty all week???) and try to get back to some level of
normalacy.

Thanks again, and its good to be back

Jenn (Tampa/St. Pete)
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Robyn,

Thank you for the information.  Andrew has the same toothbrush, but his has
cookie monster on it.  As for a favorite stuffed animal or such, he has never
bonded to anything.  Unfortunately, he is not a self pacifier.  But I will try
getting another toothbrush for him to hold while I brush his teeth.  The top
teeth are also more sensitive than the bottom ones.

So far, Andrew's teeth are not crowded, although they do come in sporadically.
He got his top two teeth first, then the bottom two, then one on the top left
and now finally one on the bottom right.  I never know where they are going to
come in next.

Thank you again for the info.  Talk to you soon.

Lynn
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Jenn,

Glad to hear that Jordon is doing great.  Andrew had a tough time sleeping his
first nights home, but not as bad as in the hospital.  I believ that the
sutures should come out 10-14 days post-op.  With Andrew's first surgery he
had to have his in longer because of his necrosis, but his other surgeries,
the sutures were out sooner.  I'm so glad your back with us and it is really
nice to hear from you.

Give Jordon a big hug for me, and I'm happy everyone is home and well.

Lynn
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Our 3 year old daughter Ceci has had a slightly different gagging
problem.  Since she was born, if she gets very upset while crying she
gags and throws up.  Also, small, hard foods like nuts and carrots cause
her to gag sometimes, and of course, throw up.  The doctors explained it
as being related to the physical differences in Aperts that require some
children to need feeding tubes. Ceci doesn't have sleep apnea or any
airway problems - just a very sensitive gag reflex.

Ceci seems to have realized that her hands are different, but rarely
focuses on it since she always seems to figure out a way to do what she
wants with them.  She understands that her hands are different enough to
prevent her from wearing her brother's gloves ("my hands not fit - I
need mittens") or putting her fingers into small holes, such as the
lollipop holes on her Valentine cards, like her brother does ("my
fingers too fat").

Chris Kilner, Alexandria VA
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Hi Robin,

I have been meaning to say hello - thought it would be nice to hear from
another Albertan!  We live 45 minutes west of Edmonton and our daughter,
Amy, is 2 1/2 months younger than Lindsay.

Amy started making comments on her hands just before she turned five.
She has three fingers and a thumb and can count consistently up to
39 but would skip numbers when she counted her fingers to get 10!
I think as her fifth birthday approached she wanted to show people
five fingers when they inquired how old she was going to be.  It was
on the way to the airport for her midface surgery that she finally
asked us why she only had four fingers!  Since then she hasn't really
dwelt on it - although she loves to play with our hands, opening them
up and folding the fingers shut in a way that she can't do herself.

Amy has never commented on her feet and hasn't really noticed others when
they take a second or third look at her.  She is in an incredible early
intervention program and we are now making decisions regarding her grade
one placement.

Hope to hear from you,
Leanne
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Subject:      Gagging

From: Horning Bob on Tue, Feb 17, 1998 12:10 PM
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To: Apert Listserver

When I started seeing the posts on gagging I breathed a sigh of relief....I don't remember that Krista had any trouble with that.  But after a couple days it's finally struck me that she does have a little trouble swallowing certain foods (she's 10 now).  It's not serious, and it helps for her to eat a bite of the difficult food, then a bite of another food, etc. to get it down.  I wonder if it is a response to the same basic problem of small passages.  The foods that are the worst are those that are tough or stringy.  Some examples: steak, green beans (if they are a little over-ripe), carrots some times, apples with the skin left on (especially if the skin is a little tough), etc.  I'm not sure if this is related to the gagging that many of you are reporting, but perhaps...

Bob Horning
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Well..since Jordans surgery he too has been gagging and throwing up whenever
he gets upset. I don't know if this is permanent and new..or just because he
has a cough and now when he gets upset..he REALLY gets upset, gags between
coughing and crying and then the inevitable. Not too often though. Strange,
when he was first born they tried to tell us he had no gag reflex..If they
only saw him now!!

Jenn (Tampa/St. Pete)
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Just wanted to let everyone know that I have spoken to Andrew's ENT and they
said that it sounds like he is going to need to have his tonsils and adenoids
removed pretty soon.  They also asked me if he was snoring, and I told them
that its not horendous (sp.), but has progressivley gotten worse over time.  I
will be seeing Andrew's pediatrician today, to have Andrew's legs looked at
because I believe he got an allergic reaction to the tape that had been around
his legs from his toenail surgery.  I intend to have his pediatrician take a
look down his throat and see if Andrew's tonsils are enlarged.  I will let you
all know.

I guess we're not done for a year afterall.  Isn't that always the way!!

Something we never mention is how wonderful how pediatricians are.  We talk
about all the other doctors and what great things they do and have done for
our kids, but what about those wonderful pediatricians.  If it weren't for our
pediatrician, we may not have ever met Dr. Upton.  He had an app. for us to
see Dr. Upton two hours after Andrew was born, and we had a geneticist, Dr.
Nowak, who works with Dr. Murray Feingold @ the National Birth Defects Center,
in to see Andrew the morning after he was born.  So hats off to all those
wonderful pediatricians.

Talk to everyone later.

Lynn
(Holliston, MA)
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Lyn,
>  Andrew's teeth have been coming in straight so far with no signs of
> lack of space.  Has anyone else had this problem, or could it just be that
> Andrew is 18 months old and has quite a temper?

    It's probably just the age.  My 2.5 year old sometimes gives me a
fit about brushing his teeth. Matthew doesn't have Apert syndrome.

    One good thing about toddlers crying when you brush their teeth
-- the mouth is generally wide open and it's easier to brush them.
Commenting on how much easier it is to brush with the mouth wide open
like that seems to calm Matthew. It also helps if I let him "brush"
his teeth  before I brush them. Then I just "check" them with the
toothbrush to get rid of the "cavity creeps".  He usually opens wide
once I mention the cavity creeps.

Judy
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Dear Mark,  I think this is going to be a good experience.  I am sure
you will do a great job taking care of  Megan.

I will let you now phone numbers (as soon as I get them) and date of my
staying at PA.  I hope I can meet you there.

Good luck as a "single father".   : )

Elizabeth
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Elizabeth, Glad to hear you'll be coming soon!  Anything we can do to help,
we will.  It isn't very cold today, but usually in PA it is still very cold
this time of year.  Be prepared for weather in the 30's and we've had a lot
of rain this year.  Take care!  Kelly
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Mark,  It's hard to keep track of everyone sometimes.  I know that your
wife and daughter are in Pitt right now, but where do you all live?  We
just moved back to central PA and we're still trying to get our bearings as
to who lives close to us now.  Thanks in advance--I'm sure you posted this
info once before but I couldn't find it when I looked back!  Kelly Younkin
and family
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Tim has had difficulty with certain foods and tends to stay away from them by
choice.  Steak is difficult for him, even when cut into small pieces.  I think
that the eating issues are caused by a variety of things including, the
misalignment of his upper and lower teeth, his small mouth and arched palate,
and his tendency to be a mouth breather .  Tim also doesn't like certain
consistencies; for example, he really dislikes jello and grapes.  Overall, he
has a great appetite and is a good sized sixteen year old; so, I don't worry
too much anymore about his food intake.  When he was a baby that was a totally
different story.  Feeding was a major issue (cleft palate and all) and weight
gain during the first year was sporadic at best.  So, to all of you with
little ones, this too shall pass.

Beth Tolson
Boston
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Hello to the the family in England.  It's good to have you with us.  There is
so much info on this list serv.  Welcome!

Joanne in Ohio....that is a great idea on donating blood for others.  If
anyone out there needs help, I'm sure they can find it here.

To the Harmon Family... my prayers are with your family.  This is such a
difficult time you are going through.  Keep up the good work.

dsprado@PENN.com...for some reason my screen is colored and cannot read your
messages.  Do anyone out there know why this happens?

Jenn...so glad Jordan is getting along.  Sounds just like Blake.
 

Gaylann in Tennessee
Blake's grandmother
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Dear Jenn:

Glad to hear Jordan is home and doing well, also you and Joe.  I know for us
it was a really tough week, and the week afterward also.  Emily got her
stitches out the week after at the plastic surgeon's office.  One layer was
dissolving stitches inside and the top layer he took out a week later.
Believe it or not, there was one stitch that was a dissolvable one that was
supposed to dissapear that didn't and stuck out the top and needed to be "dug"
out later on.

I have to say that 4 months later and she has healed beautifully.
I also thought she looked funny.  Her doctors said the same thing, she will
grow into her face.  You know what, she looks totally different than she did
right after surgery.  The bone is not protruding out so much already.

Anyway, glad to hear things went so well for you guys.  Now you can rest a
little bit, anyway.

Take care,
 

Janine
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Marjorie:

Thank you for the update on BJ.  I'm sorry that he is in so much pain.  It
must be very difficult for you to see him suffer like that.

You are a strong, amazing woman, and I say a prayer for your family every day.
My thoughts continue to be with you all.

Janine Krebs
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In the first days after Ceci's birth, the most comforting news we
received was from our pediatrician, Dr. Trabert.  While all the other
doctors were throwing around terms like "mentally retarded" that they
had read in 1970s-era textbooks and telling us about all of the possible
problems Ceci might have, he told us about a boy with Apert's that he
knew who was enrolled at the University of Colorado - and after checking
in on Ceci, his advice was to start saving for college! It was exactly
what we needed to hear at that point in time.

He has been wonderful with Ceci ever since and we've been fortunate
enough to only have to see him a few times other than check-ups.

Chris Kilner

>Something we never mention is how wonderful how pediatricians are.  We talk
>about all the other doctors and what great things they do and have done for
>our kids, but what about those wonderful pediatricians.
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Welcome Brumfitt family from England.   My name is Janine Krebs and I have two
children, Nicholas and Emily, who has Aperts.  She is almost 7 months old, so
I am still getting used to this syndrome.

I am sure you will find this listserve as supportive and helpful as I have.

Best wishes,

Janine Krebs (NY)
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Jenn:

Lynn's letter reminded me that it was 2 weeks and not 1 week when Emily's
sutures came out.  See, I told you it was all like a dream.  I think somebody
else actually lived through that period of time.

Janine
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Hey! Laurie Bailey here.
I'm glad to hear that you are home with a happy baby. Sometimes when our
kids have surgery, we wonder, "Are we doing the right thing?" And when
they come out smiling, we know that we are.

Just a warning, RSV (respiratory virus) is going around in my neck of the
woods. Jacob contracted it sometime last Thursday or Friday. Lots of
nebulizer treatments and TLC going on here.

As always,
Laurie Bailey (El Paso, IL)
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Hello everybody,

We are Jack and Raquel Miller from Weston/Ft. Lauderdale, Florida.  On
October 3, 1997 our daughter was born with Apert Syndrome.

We have already been to several doctors who will be treating Nicki.  As
a matter of fact, today we were at the Neurosurgeons office.  Nicole is
tentatively scheduled for her first cranial expansion when she is 6
months old (in or about April 98).  The neurosurgeon explained what he
and the plastic surgeon are going to do.  However, as parents we would
appreciate any advice/input that you can give us.  Since most of you
have already been through this, your advice is very valuable.  We have
total faith in Nicki's doctors, but only the parent(s) can really
appreciate what it is like to have a child go through what our children
must go through.

We are very glad we registered and we hope to hear from all of you soon.

Jack & Raquel Miller
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From:         "J. G. Lindamood" <chanan8@JUNO.COM>

Hello all!

Mark, my thoughts are with you this week.  I hope you will be able to
find a moment of peace here and there to get you through!  It's nice to
hear a husband recognizing the hard work their wives do when taking care
of the children!

Welcome home Jordan!  I was ready to contact all of my alien friends (I
do have some personal contacts!) to see if they have seen your mother!
Thrilled to hear you are home and basking in your parent's love!  That's
the best medication!

I was talking to a friend last week about the lottery, $35 million here
this week.  He asked me if I played and I said no.  I would rather be
poor than have the problems money can't fix.  Thanks to my family, I'm
not poor, nor am I finacially independent at this time, but I do have my
blessings and you all are on that list!  We are all wealthy with
blessings!

Hope all is dry, warm and well.

Joanne, if I didn't know better, it's typhoon season, in Ohio!

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Laurie,

RSV is running rampid here in Va. also.  Devin, my 10 month old who has
Aperts was hospitalized this past week.  He was put in isolation because
they said that it is so contagious.  Boy it really knocked him for a loop.
He didn't need the nebulizer treatments but he sure was a sick little boy.
I got it from him but it reacted on me like a cold.  The doctors said that
in children younger than 2 it will go directly to the lungs but in adults it
will only be like having a cold.
Devin was dehydrated on top of that.
We had 5 other children on the Ped's floor with RSV.
Devin is feeling much better now.  It took almost 2 weeks for him to get
over it and he still has some wheezing in his lungs.  They said the wheezing
could last up to 5-6 weeks.
Hope that Jacob feels better real soon!

Kerri
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From: Laurie Ann Bailey <jkb@ELPASO.NET>
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Date: Tuesday, February 17, 1998 4:13 PM
Subject: Re: An Update
 

>Hey! Laurie Bailey here.
>I'm glad to hear that you are home with a happy baby. Sometimes when our
>kids have surgery, we wonder, "Are we doing the right thing?" And when
>they come out smiling, we know that we are.
>
>Just a warning, RSV (respiratory virus) is going around in my neck of the
>woods. Jacob contracted it sometime last Thursday or Friday. Lots of
>nebulizer treatments and TLC going on here.
>
>As always,
>Laurie Bailey (El Paso, IL)
>
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Kia Ora Robin

Hard to remember exactly but I think Amy REALLY became aware of her differences around 4-5 years old.  Like Leanne's Amy she enjoys playing with my hands (they are her "babies") and often after a long play session with them she will say "I wish I had hands like yours" which is really heart-rending.

For a long time she just stared back at children - probably because "everyone" stared at her she thought that was the right thing to do.  Now, at nearly 7 years these stares and comments are becoming painful to her and I think this year is going to be our toughest (so far!).  She has figured out that if she wears shoes people will notice her hands, and if she wore gloves they would just concentrate on her face.  I feel so sad for her, but apart from acknowledging her inner wish to be the same as others I try not to let her dwell on it, otherwise she will not learn to accept herself for the very special person that she is.

One thing to keep in mind was a piece of research that reported that children with facial differences were less affected by teasing than children who were overweight.

And she certainly has a happier smile, bigger brown eyes (and that is saying something with our high Polynesian population!) and more open nature than a lot of children in her school.  We will work on keeping it that way.

All the best
Ann
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Hi Janine

>Believe it or not, there was one stitch that was a dissolvable one that was
>supposed to dissapear that didn't and stuck out the top and needed to be "dug"
>out later on.

We have had experiences like this.  I just love the nurses that stand there and firmly state "No, it can't be, it is a dissolving stitch!" when you know darn well it is a stitch that just ain't gonna dissolve.  And then they don't apologise when they investigate and find it is one.

But oh dear, I am just a mother, so how should I know!

I don't think they realise just how many times some of us go through this process.  Maybe one thing they need to teach in nurse and doctor training is to read the notes and keep a mental note of the number of operations the child has gone though that the PARENTS have also gone through, and give us credit for some experience.

Great to hear of the successful surgeries - well done guys and gals.  And good luck to those who are about to "front up".

Ann
NZ
>
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Welcome to the Miller Family!!

It really sounds like you are on top of everything.  At some point and time
all of us need this family to help us learn and understand our
children and what they must go through.  You came to the right place to get
answers!!!!

I have a 10 month old son, Devin, who is scheduled for his first cranial on
March 5th.  We have had to postpone the surgery twice because of illness.
It's quite frustrating but the support here really helps you.

Good Luck and God Bless,

Kerri
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Date: Tuesday, February 17, 1998 6:13 PM
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>Hello everybody,
>
>We are Jack and Raquel Miller from Weston/Ft. Lauderdale, Florida.  On
>October 3, 1997 our daughter was born with Apert Syndrome.
>
>We have already been to several doctors who will be treating Nicki.  As
>a matter of fact, today we were at the Neurosurgeons office.  Nicole is
>tentatively scheduled for her first cranial expansion when she is 6
>months old (in or about April 98).  The neurosurgeon explained what he
>and the plastic surgeon are going to do.  However, as parents we would
>appreciate any advice/input that you can give us.  Since most of you
>have already been through this, your advice is very valuable.  We have
>total faith in Nicki's doctors, but only the parent(s) can really
>appreciate what it is like to have a child go through what our children
>must go through.
>
>We are very glad we registered and we hope to hear from all of you soon.
>
>Jack & Raquel Miller
>
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This will have to be short because I need to get to the hospital again.
 

Well David and I met with the hospice team this morning. They advised us not
to attempt to take BJ home again. They feel that BJ's pain level is increasing
so much that the hospital is the only place we can even attempt to keep him
comfortable. The doctors, hospice team and medical ethics board sat down with
us this morning and gave us the latest set of bad news. It seems that BJ is
going through Kidney failure, the dialysis will work for a while, but the
doctors don't know rather or not they can fix it. His liver is still
functioning and that is good news, but that too is unpredictable. His
breathing is being sustained by the ventalator but is stable.

Where we go next is hard to say. The doctors are only giving him miniscule
odds of a recovery. I guess I knew this was coming but it is still hard to
beleive. The doctors have asked us to begin thinking about how we want this to
end. I don't know what to do next so I guess I will leave that up to God.
David has asked for a second opioinion and we are trying to see if BJ is
stable enough to be flown to Dallas Children's Hospital, If not we have to fly
in a team of doctors from either Pittsburgh or Miami. I know it is a long
shot, but David says he wants to do it.

I better get going now. I am sorry if this update offends anyone, I have tried
to put this update in the most upbeat terms possible. It may be a couple days
before I can post another update but will try to do so as soon as we have some
better news to report

Marjorie Clare Harmon
Proud mother of Benjamin Joel Harmon 1-16-87
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Welcome home to Jordan.Glad to hear you and yours are doindg well!

Also welcome to the Brumfittsand the Millers. We are the Fosters from Pa.
and we have seven children, our youngest Billy who will be 1 year old on
March 4th has Aperts. He just had his first cranial surgery on Feb 3rd. and
is doing very well.
You have found a wonderful place here filled with warm loving people who
truley care and support each other.

Hope BJ is feeling better and hope everyday gets better for him and his family.

I wanted to sound off to anyone who is listening. It has nothing to do with
Billy or Aperts but it is something I am fumming about. One Friday my 14
year old daughter Shawna came home from school, she is a freshman in high
school and she showed us her coat. It was burned all up the back. A boy who
sits in back of her had been playing around with a lighter and caught her
coat on fire. ThankGod she has only a small burn on her back. But the school
felt there was no need to call me and tell me about this. Well I was on the
phone early this morning and her principal said that because the boy has
been in alot of trouble this year and has really been making an effort to do
better they decided not to inform the police or me and NO susension . He
will however replace the coat and have to tell his parents about what
happened. I can not beleive how they handeld this incident.

I don't feel this should be the end of it but my husband thinks we should
just drop it. Anyone out there who agrees with him? The things that go on in
schools today are really sad. And I for one have a hard time accepting it.

Billy got his stiches out yesterday and things look very well. He was
watching me on the phone today and was looking at me as if to say hay mom
remember me. Of course I felt for the first time in along time that things
were going good for him and I could concintrate on other problems and that
felt good..

Karen
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Marjorie, God give you the strength to carry you through this.  We are
praying for you, David, BJ and your family.  I hope and pray that the new
team of doctors may shed some answers for you.

Best of wishes to you all,
Robyn Johnston
 
 

At 11:05 PM 2/17/98 EST, you wrote:
>This will have to be short because I need to get to the hospital again.
>
>
>Well David and I met with the hospice team this morning. They advised us not
>to attempt to take BJ home again. They feel that BJ's pain level is
increasing
>so much that the hospital is the only place we can even attempt to keep him
>comfortable. The doctors, hospice team and medical ethics board sat down with
>us this morning and gave us the latest set of bad news. It seems that BJ is
>going through Kidney failure, the dialysis will work for a while, but the
>doctors don't know rather or not they can fix it. His liver is still
>functioning and that is good news, but that too is unpredictable. His
>breathing is being sustained by the ventalator but is stable.
>
>Where we go next is hard to say. The doctors are only giving him miniscule
>odds of a recovery. I guess I knew this was coming but it is still hard to
>beleive. The doctors have asked us to begin thinking about how we want
this to
>end. I don't know what to do next so I guess I will leave that up to God.
>David has asked for a second opioinion and we are trying to see if BJ is
>stable enough to be flown to Dallas Children's Hospital, If not we have to
fly
>in a team of doctors from either Pittsburgh or Miami. I know it is a long
>shot, but David says he wants to do it.
>
>I better get going now. I am sorry if this update offends anyone, I have
tried
>to put this update in the most upbeat terms possible. It may be a couple days
>before I can post another update but will try to do so as soon as we have
some
>better news to report
>
>Marjorie Clare Harmon
>Proud mother of Benjamin Joel Harmon 1-16-87
>
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First of all, Jenn and Joe, I am glad to hear that Jordan is doing well.
He is a little trooper.  I always swear that the kiddo's fare better than
the parents in these surgeries!  :-)  Glad you all made it through!

Karen, glad to hear Billy is doing well after his stiches removal.
Brenna's stiches were all dissolvable.  Eventually they all worked their
way out.

I am with you Karen on the coat burning incident.  I would be pretty upset
at the way school handled it too.  Unfortunately, I do not have much
experience in this area yet, so I'm not sure the proper channels to take.
I feel that child should not be in a classroom though, if he is endangering
other childrens lifes, not to mention the whole school!  I can not believe
they did not reprimand him at all.  Isn't it amazing some school districts
will suspend kids for passing out asprin, but stuff like this is
overlooked!  Good luck on handling this.

Welcome to all the new people on the list!

Hugs, Robyn Johnston
 
 

At 11:57 PM 2/17/98 -0500, you wrote:
>Welcome home to Jordan.Glad to hear you and yours are doindg well!
>
>Also welcome to the Brumfittsand the Millers. We are the Fosters from Pa.
>and we have seven children, our youngest Billy who will be 1 year old on
>March 4th has Aperts. He just had his first cranial surgery on Feb 3rd. and
>is doing very well.
>You have found a wonderful place here filled with warm loving people who
>truley care and support each other.
>
>Hope BJ is feeling better and hope everyday gets better for him and his
family.
>
>I wanted to sound off to anyone who is listening. It has nothing to do with
>Billy or Aperts but it is something I am fumming about. One Friday my 14
>year old daughter Shawna came home from school, she is a freshman in high
>school and she showed us her coat. It was burned all up the back. A boy who
>sits in back of her had been playing around with a lighter and caught her
>coat on fire. ThankGod she has only a small burn on her back. But the school
>felt there was no need to call me and tell me about this. Well I was on the
>phone early this morning and her principal said that because the boy has
>been in alot of trouble this year and has really been making an effort to do
>better they decided not to inform the police or me and NO susension . He
>will however replace the coat and have to tell his parents about what
>happened. I can not beleive how they handeld this incident.
>
>I don't feel this should be the end of it but my husband thinks we should
>just drop it. Anyone out there who agrees with him? The things that go on in
>schools today are really sad. And I for one have a hard time accepting it.
>
>Billy got his stiches out yesterday and things look very well. He was
>watching me on the phone today and was looking at me as if to say hay mom
>remember me. Of course I felt for the first time in along time that things
>were going good for him and I could concintrate on other problems and that
>felt good..
>
>Karen
>
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Karen

I am a teacher outside of Boston and am in the process of getting my master's
degree in administration so I have lots of thoughts about schools and how they
are run.  I am also a parent of three and have never been hesitant to confront
issues which raise red flags...and this is a red flag issue!!  I was outraged
when I read of your daughter's incident in school.  I would definitely press
charges against the boy and would consider pressing charges against the school
for not enforcing some kind of safety code for their students.  Use of fire in
school is nothing short of dangerous and grounds for expulsion, especially if
this is not a first time incident for the boy involved.  If this kind of
behavior is condoned, what next?  Replacing the coat is not the issue
here...school safety is the issue.  My two cents worth....

Beth
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In a message dated 98-02-17 22:50:31 EST, you write:

<<      APERT@LISTSERV.AOL.COM >>
to all on this list.  I am a nurse in the Chicago land area, and I work with
medically fragile children.  I couple of nurses and I have gotten together and
we are working on a text book geared toward healthcare providers.  This text
will hopefully assist nurses, doctors, technicians etc., on caring for  the
families and children  who have a
severe medical problem.  One of the things we want to include is concerns of
parents and solutions from parents.  We ( the nurses working on this book)
believe it has to be a team effort with anyone involved in the childs care
giving input and understanding all plans of care.  What I would like to ask
you as a group, is if I develop a questionaire, would you be willing to take a
few minutes ( I know your all busy) to fill it out.  We would like to include
some of the answers in the text, so I will have you sign consents to release
the info.  Other things we are interested in is how your needs change as your
child grows older.  One thing I have seen, is that parents mourn the loss of
"normal development".  Such as one mom I worked with was really upset when she
realized that her 16 year old would never drive a car.  That wasn't an issue
two years before that.  Anyway, anyone interested please e-mail me privately
and I will send out consents and hopefully we will have the questionare
completed in the next two months or so.
I have also noted that there are individuals who seem to range in age from
teenagers to adults who have Aperts, I would be interested in hearing from you
on how you should be involved in your health care and what we as health care
professionals can do to make you part of the team.  I strongly believe that
the individual being treated has every right to be involved in decision
making, but that doesn't always happen.   Any assistance would be appreciated.
Thanks
Karen Kirby-Hall RN
e-mail Unclbennie@aol.com
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Marjorie,  I do not know what to say... you and your family are part of
our hearts, minds, life.  We will continue praying for BJ, and asking
for strength and wisdom for you and David.  I think it is a good thing
to obtain a second opinion, as long as BJ fights you have to do the same
( I know it is easier to say than to do so).

All our love and our prays are with you.

Elizabeth.

> Marjorie Clare Harmon
> Proud mother of Benjamin Joel Harmon 1-16-87
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>

Karen,

> I don't feel this should be the end of it but my husband thinks we
> should
> just drop it. Anyone out there who agrees with him? The things that go
> on in
> schools today are really sad. And I for one have a hard time accepting
> it.

I totally agree with you.  I can not believe the schooll is doing
nothing!! This boy could have hurt your girl!! If we feel our children's
safety is in danger we have all the right to fight for it.  Replacing
the coat and leave things as they are is not the solution.  Now, it was
the coat... and the next thing will be, other kid hurted? the schooll
damaged or burned??  I think you must consider asking his separation
from schooll.

> Billy got his stiches out yesterday and things look very well.

I am so glad to hear Billy is okay!!

Warm regards,

Elizabeth
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Good morning Marjorie, David, BJ, Jacob, Joshua and Katie:

        I have just read your news. I am sorry. I am
sorry to learn of this news, which none of us
wanted to hear.  I am sorry. I am sorry to learn
that the odds appear to be against your love. That
this is possible is an outrage.  That we may survive
our children is painful and unimaginable. I am with
you. I carry your message with me. You
are especially in my heart, on my mind and in my
prayers.

Love,
Scott
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>

Welcome to the Miller Family!!

I am Elizabeth from Guayaquil, Ecuador.  I have found so much comfort,
support, friendship, love in this list.  I am sure you will find the
same. (By the way,  I have a daughter-9 years old- named Nicole too.
Isn't that a beautiful name?!!).

Welcome again,

Elizabeth
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Marjorie,

Hang in there, BJ is a fighter and so are you.  All my love and prayers go out
to you, BJ, David and the rest of your family.  Have you thought about writing
a letter to the doctors in Dallas about BJ's history and seeing if maybe they
would come at their own free will and cost.  If in fact you do pay for their
tickets, some airlines give big discounts for children and families with
disabilities and in cases like BJ's.  I believe that it is American Airlines,
but I could be wrong.

Try to take comfort in the fact that God is watching and loving BJ everyday.
Our prayers and hopes are with you that BJ will come through this with flying
colors.  You are amazing parents, I would probably have crumbled a long time
ago.  Love to everyone and give hugs and kisses from the Thornquist Family.

Lynn
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Karen,

I agree with you all the way, and I know my husband would as well.  That is
the problem with kids today, we don't repremand them appropriately.  I'm not
saying that we should hit our kids to teach them a lesson, but MY GOD, nothing
happened to this boy.  The police should definately be involved and if it were
my child, I would contact the police myself.  I would let the school board
know that I was going to do this before hand, but would do it.  This boy is
obviously not trying to change in the least bit, because why would he be
lighting a lighter or flame in a school classroom in the first place.  I don't
blame it all on the boy and the school, I believe that his parents just as
responsible.  If I were you, I would not let it rest, but it is something that
you, your husband, and your daughter need to discuss.  Because if you pursue
this, it may get ugly with the school and the other kids parents.  What should
first happen is the principal should be FIRED!!!!!!  You should have been
notified.  Any parent should be notified if their child catches on fire, I
mean be real.  The school has a leagal obligation to contact you.  They would
contact you if your daughter skipped class or something, and I feel this is
far worse.  Your daughter got burned for God sakes.

Well, I could go on about this, but I am getting really mad!!!!!  Schools just
aren't taken responsiblity for their kids anymore.  It makes me afraid to send
Andrew into the public school system.  I wish I had the money to send him to a
private school.

Good luck with everything.

Lynn Thornquist
(Holliston, MA)
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My 9-year-old Joseph also has what has been described as a very sensitive
gagging reflex.  It has made dentist visits very tricky.  The only way we
have been able to get x-rays of his teeth is when he is under anesthesia.
He will need braces and they would like to put in a permanent retainer to
help correct a sub mucus cleft, but cannot do any work that requires
putting something in his mouth without causing him to gag and throw up.

Has anyone experienced any strategies that work?

Thanks.

Kathy
 

At 12:55 PM 2/16/98 -0500, you wrote:
>Our 3 year old daughter Ceci has had a slightly different gagging
>problem.  Since she was born, if she gets very upset while crying she
>gags and throws up.  Also, small, hard foods like nuts and carrots cause
>her to gag sometimes, and of course, throw up.  The doctors explained it
>as being related to the physical differences in Aperts that require some
>children to need feeding tubes. Ceci doesn't have sleep apnea or any
>airway problems - just a very sensitive gag reflex.
>
>Ceci seems to have realized that her hands are different, but rarely
>focuses on it since she always seems to figure out a way to do what she
>wants with them.  She understands that her hands are different enough to
>prevent her from wearing her brother's gloves ("my hands not fit - I
>need mittens") or putting her fingers into small holes, such as the
>lollipop holes on her Valentine cards, like her brother does ("my
>fingers too fat").
>
>Chris Kilner, Alexandria VA
>>
>
>
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In a message dated 98-02-17 20:14:17 EST, you write:

<< ust a warning, RSV (respiratory virus) is going around in my neck of the
 woods. Jacob contracted it sometime last Thursday or Friday. >>
RSV is an epithet in our house. Evan has rarely been hospitalized without
contracting RSV or influenza. He's even brought it home and shared it!!  RSV
is a tough "bug" requiring lots of attention, breathing treatments and
sleepless nights!! As we send kudos to our pediatricians, I'll add one to our
new one, Dr Jeanne Vadhanasindhu (Dr Jeannie to old and young!). She recently
treated Evan on my clinical findings instead of having me bring him in as
there was a lot of RSV around and she didn't want him to pick it up in the
office waiting room!! What a gem! In addition, she has given us her voice mail
and e-mail and returns calls very promptly. When I needed a letter in support
of a request to postpone a professional recertification exam for a year on the
basis of Evan's "medical adventures" , what she wrote almost made me weepy!
All in a very few months!!

Glad to hear the kiddos and families are doing well after surgery!! It's a
wierd time warp while you're going through it. Sutures in the scalp are
generally in for 10-14 days. Our craniofacial folks in Pittsburgh always used
absorbable suture, but Evan has managed to "spit" them out every time. A few
weeks later, we'd have to start "stitch patrol" to dig out the remaining parts
which were venturing towards the surface. I keep wishing they'd use staples or
a running nylon suture which can be pulled out. Beautiful plastic surgery
closures tend not to be so beautiful after all the sutures spend weeks working
their way to the surface!

Welcome to out new British friends. Since you are in the Craniofacial Study
Group, may I reiterate my request to publish the text of Dr Barry Jones speech
on the wwweb page?? i read the first half in the newsletter and it was very
good- have I missed the second part??

Marjorie Clare, (That is also my daughter's middle name- she's Katherine
Claire)
PLEASE do not EVER apologize for the tenor of any posting. We ask for updates
because we love you and BJ and your family and pray for and think about you
all regularly. You are an inspiration to so many of us . I, for one heartily
appreciate the time you take in keeping us updated so we can try to share the
ups and downs with you all and offer whatever love, friendship, and
consolation can be expressed by words on a screen. You and your family have
given us all so much. Be brave, we're all in there praying and sending our
love to your valiant boy and the whole family.

And to share a bit of good news..Evan saw his cranio and hand surgeons last
week(was it that long already?? I just finished a 5 night stretch at work and
barely know what day it is) Everyone was pleased with his progress and no
surgeries are planned anytime soon!! We all need the break- so if the shunt
behaves itself.....we could get spoiled!! Tomorrow he has his OT/PT eval and
may actually get services started again. We keep moving along a small step at
a time.

It's getting very late- I'm driving 5 first-graders to a performance of
Rumpelstiltskin in the AM so I'm off to sleep!!

Marianne
in temporarily sunny California
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Hi everyone!!!

Tonite is ApertCrouzon Chat Nite!!  So let's get acquainted with each
others.  :-)  Keep in mind that some people will show up alittle later
than the time started.     Please join us!!!   :-)

 Date To Meet On:  Wednesday, February 18, 1998

 IRC Server: ChatNet (Any locations)

 Port Setting:  6667

 Channel:  #ApertCrouzon

 Time: 11:00pm AT/10:00pm ET/9:00pm CT/8:00pm MT/7:00pm PT/5:00pm HT

If you haven't had a chance to download the mIRC for Windows 3.x and 95
or IRCle for MAC users.  Please go to download from one of these below.

 To check out the mIRC Help Page for Windows 3.x and Windows 95 users at:
        http://www.qni.com/~kristib/mirc1.html
 You can download mIRC 5.31 there.

 For MAC Users:  Please download IRCle at:
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If anyone needs help or have questions on accessing the chat on ChatNet.
please email to Kristi at either:

        mailto:kristib@qni.com

Or for a quicker assistance, you can reach Kristi on AOL IM (AOL Instant
Messenger) and she will be available to assist you - see below:

Kristi's screen-name:  LilOneB  (anytimes)

You can download the AOL IM (AOL Instant Messenger) at:
        http://www.aol.com/aim

You don't have to be a member to join AOL IM and it is free!
AOL IM is an one to one online chat.

Hugs,  Penny

http://home.earthlink.net/~hwy2heaven/

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Dear Marjorie, David and BJ and family,
I have been silently reading the list and watching for each of your
messages.  Your last message has been so hard to read.  I wish there was
something we all could do to stop the clock and delay the very hard
decisions that you and David have to make.  May you both find the strength
and the courage to do what is best for BJ.  I can't even imagine what you
must be going through and how hard it must be to hear what the doctors have
to say.  Thinking of all of you every day from up here in Calgary.
Pat and the Peach
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IM: onlypeach
shake and shake the ketchup bottle. none will come and then a lot'll ... unknown
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From:         "J. G. Lindamood" <chanan8@JUNO.COM>
Subject:      Re: Nicole

Hello!

I just wanted to extend my "welcome to the family"!  I am Joanne, I'm 33
(and proud of it) and I have Apert's.  Although I say this all the time,
I have found out that there are people out there who don't catch that I
am an adult with Apert's.  Even though I was born before a lot of the
technology and information available today and don't know a stitch about
all of it, I do have 33 years of experience I am willing to share.  In
fact.. I have been invited to speak to a group of Brownies tomorrow night
and share with them my life and what it has been like.  They are earning
a badge that focuses of physical and  mental differences.  I am really
excited!  This is my dream becoming reality!  All I have ever wanted to
do is help people and share my life!

Okay, I am off of my soap box.  Hope all is well and warm.

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Dear Harmons,
Our prayers are with you and yours as you travel this road. We will put
you in a prayer chain that is familiar with Apert's kids and other
children that are critically ill.

The Baileys
Laurie, Kevin, and Jacob
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Date:         Wed, 18 Feb 1998 19:05:26 -0800
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J. G. Lindamood wrote:
>
> Hello!
>
> I just wanted to extend my "welcome to the family"!  I am Joanne, I'm 33
>I found your comments very encouraging..I often wonder what our daughter is going to think some 30 years from now..and I think you have answered it.

One question.... what has been your greatest challenge so far?

thanks very much..
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The Harmon Family,

We are very sorry to hear about BJ.  Our thoughts and prayers are with
your family.

You mentioned in your email that you were thinking of coming to Miami
for a second opinion.  I don't know if you were referring to the
University of Miami/Jackson Memorial Medical Center, but I just happen
to work there.  I work for the Pathology department but can try to
obtain any information that you may need/want.

Just let me know if there is any specific information that you would
like to have and I will try and get it for you.  Again, God bless and
remember that through God all things are possible.

Jack & Raquel Miller
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Date:         Thu, 19 Feb 1998 14:46:28 +1300
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From:         Howard & Ann <howrdnan@IHUG.CO.NZ>
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Hi Karen

I can understand your reaction to the way the school handled the burning of Shawna.  I can also understand the school wanting to keep a positive light on the boy's progress.  However, I cannot condone their disregard for the rights of Shawna and you as her parents.

>I don't feel this should be the end of it but my husband thinks we should
>just drop it. Anyone out there who agrees with him? The things that go on in
>schools today are really sad. And I for one have a hard time accepting it.

I can't speak for Howard of course (he is a "let things lie" person as well, but he is strong on taking responsibility for one's behaviour) but I agree with you, I don't think it should stop there.

My suggestion is AT LEAST that Shawna (and you of course) meet with this boy and talk about it, making him aware of the effect it has had on her.  If he is learning about responsibility for his actions, then I believe it is important that he front up to the people to whom he has caused trauma, learn about the effects of his behaviour, and hopefully acknowledge the injury and provide some form of apology and compensation.  It may be doing your lawns for the next month or whatever - maybe in your winter that isnt such a good suggestion, but you will get the point.

>Billy got his stiches out yesterday and things look very well. He was
>watching me on the phone today and was looking at me as if to say hay mom
>remember me. Of course I felt for the first time in along time that things
>were going good for him and I could concintrate on other problems and that
>felt good..
Well done Billy.

Good luck,
Ann
NZ
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Our thoughts are with you.  And you could not offend.

Ann, Howard and Amy
NZ
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Subject:      Trying to stay on top
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Thanks for all the encouragement.  Well we made it through Wednesday.  =
Just 2 more days.  Wow.  Elizabeth, thanks for the kinds advice.  It =
wouldn't be so bad, but now after work I have to run and get Megan at =
Grandma's house.  Take her/pick her up from Church or any other =
activity.  Then when I get home I have to get my dinner, check the phone =
messages, check the email, get the dog walked (cage cleaned up), and our =
puppy is now a little lady so we have to be careful there and Megan is =
really disgusted by it.
   =20
    Jenn, glad to hear that everything is well and that Jordan is =
finally home.  Get your sleep.  You can fill us in when you can.

    About gagging.....Kayla seems to need her Chicken cut up into really =
small bits, and as well as her string beans.  I think it has something =
to do with the way that her teeth line up.  Not to good for really =
chewing her food as well as we do and she tries to swallow it all at one =
time.  So if we don't watch it she will gag but has never thrown up.  =
Sometimes she just refuses to eat until everything is cut up nice.  =
Maybe that will help?

 Jim and Kelly...we live in the NW corner of Pennsylvania....Warren .. =
Warren County...Just 15 minutes/15miles south of Jamestown NY.  I hope =
that this helps you to locate us.  About 45 miles West of Bradford PA.  =
Thanks for asking.  No Problemo.

Jack and Raquel Miller.....A Big welcome to our Family.  I am sure that =
you will find more information thank you will know what to do with from =
all of our experiences.  As well as being able to contribute your own.  =
Keep us informed and updated on your special little one.

Marjorie and David...my heart goes out to you.  Your entire family is in =
my prayers tonight and every night.  We all know that only God can make =
the "correct" decision, even after all of our thought out decisions.  =
You and yours are in good hands.  You can depend on us and God to help =
you through your times.  Take care my friends.

Karen...no....sometimes the best advice is our own.....do just what you =
think you should...only then will you know that at least you have tried. =
 A boy in school that has been so much trouble and now who is harassing =
other students should not be allowed to be at that school.  Sorry folks, =
 let his parents find a school that is more appropriate for him.  Called =
the school of hard knocks!!!!!  He looses.

    Beth...couldn't have said it any better.  You go girl!!!

My Friends, it is getting late.  Michele told me that Kayla got to go =
swimming last night and was able to play bingo tonight.  She even won =
$1.85.  She was so proud that she even told me she had lots of money =
now.  I had almost 50 emails to get to tonight so....I hope I am not =
rambling.  All our friends...take care.  God Bless.   Mark
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<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000>Thanks for all the encouragement.&nbsp; Well =
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have to=20
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Church or=20
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check=20
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up), and=20
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is=20
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<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Jenn, glad to hear that =
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bits, and=20
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minutes/15miles south of Jamestown NY.&nbsp; I hope that this helps you =
to=20
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asking.&nbsp; No Problemo.</FONT></FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000 size=3D2><FONT =
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<DIV>Jack and Raquel Miller.....A Big welcome to our Family.&nbsp; I am =
sure=20
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own.&nbsp;=20
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family is=20
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can make=20
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decisions.&nbsp; You and yours are in good hands.&nbsp; You can depend =
on us and=20
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tried.&nbsp; A=20
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other=20
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folks,&nbsp;=20
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Called the=20
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<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Beth...couldn't have said =
it any=20
better.&nbsp; You go girl!!!</FONT></DIV>
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got to go=20
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I accidentally deleted the e-mail message that was asking if any of us were
interested in filling out a questionarre concerning the dealings with
children with problems.  If someone could send that to me I would
appreciate it.

Hope everyone is recovering well!

Marjorie,
I pray for you to have strength to guide you and your family through this
time.  I know it has been a long road for you and you will fight till the
end if you have too.  If it is the Lord's will to bring BJ to be with him,
I hope you know that BJ knows how much you love him and have done for him.
I will continue to pray for a miracle for your family.  God Bless!!
 

                                        Denise Graham
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Date:         Wed, 18 Feb 1998 19:29:55 -0800
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Howdy Brumfitts!!!  We are the Wittenburgs of Arizona..Mark, Kathy, Jen,
JR and Jackie Lynn.......our little Jackie has Apert's and that is how
we found this wonderful network.  We have found this to be a great
source of information and comfort, and hope you will too.  It is
interesting to compare notes from all the families, and get different
points of view from all the different doctors.  Just wanted to say
welcome!!!!    Kathy
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Mark Wittenburg                                           Senior Network
Engineering Specialist
City of Tempe
http://www.tempe.gov/
602-350-8237
markwi@tempe.gov

> ----------
> From:         John Brumfitt[SMTP:john@BRUMFITT.DEMON.CO.UK]
> Sent:         Monday, February 16, 1998 4:14 PM
> To:   APERT@LISTSERV.AOL.COM
> Subject:      New Subscribers,England
>
> First of all, we would like to thank Cath and Don Sears for all their
> efforts re: Teeters Page and everything they have done to inform
> Aperts' families that they are not alone and support is at hand.  As
> new members to the Listserve, we would like to introduce ourselves -
> Angela and John Brumfitt from Rainhill near Liverpool, England.  We
> have four children, Anna 18, John 11, James 9 and Helen 8.
> James has Aperts syndrome.  We have been following some of the most
> recent news from the members, with great interest, espesially that of
> B J Harmon, our thoughts and prayers go out to them all at this very
> worrying time, ( may God bless them).  We have followed the amount and
> types of surgery done in America, it seems to differ somewhat from our
> English system.  James has had only one major surgery to the skull and
> the debate is on as to the best time to do something for his mid-face.
> Our surgeons like to wait until children are 16, so the mid-face op.
> possibly only needs to be done once and yet some of us as parents feel
> the children would be better served cosmetically if a mid-face
> correction was performed prior to the puberty years.  Thus possibly
> easing stresses from teasing and staring from other people.
> James has had numerous amounts of surgery done to his hands and it is
> still ongoing.  His hands were very severe, he has three fingers and a
> thumb on each hand.
> We would like to thank Joanne in Ohio, for her lovely personal
> thoughts and views of her life, which we would like to print in our
> local newsletter for  the Craniofacial Support Group, of which I ,
> Angela am on the Executive Committee, if Joanne consents.
> We feel this is long enough for our opening letter, however I would
> like to say that coincidentally, my maiden name is Harmon and my mum's
> christian name was Marjorie .
> Best Wishes to all - Angela, John and family.
>
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-----Original Message-----
From: Karen Kirby-Hall <Unclbennie@AOL.COM>
To: APERT@LISTSERV.AOL.COM <APERT@LISTSERV.AOL.COM>
Date: Wednesday, February 18, 1998 8:59 AM
Subject: Questions
 

>In a message dated 98-02-17 22:50:31 EST, you write:
>
><<      APERT@LISTSERV.AOL.COM >>
>to all on this list.  I am a nurse in the Chicago land area, and I work
with
>medically fragile children.  I couple of nurses and I have gotten together
and
>we are working on a text book geared toward healthcare providers.  This
text
>will hopefully assist nurses, doctors, technicians etc., on caring for  the
>families and children  who have a
>severe medical problem.  One of the things we want to include is concerns
of
>parents and solutions from parents.  We ( the nurses working on this book)
>believe it has to be a team effort with anyone involved in the childs care
>giving input and understanding all plans of care.  What I would like to ask
>you as a group, is if I develop a questionaire, would you be willing to
take a
>few minutes ( I know your all busy) to fill it out.  We would like to
include
>some of the answers in the text, so I will have you sign consents to
release
>the info.  Other things we are interested in is how your needs change as
your
>child grows older.  One thing I have seen, is that parents mourn the loss
of
>"normal development".  Such as one mom I worked with was really upset when
she
>realized that her 16 year old would never drive a car.  That wasn't an
issue
>two years before that.  Anyway, anyone interested please e-mail me
privately
>and I will send out consents and hopefully we will have the questionare
>completed in the next two months or so.
>I have also noted that there are individuals who seem to range in age from
>teenagers to adults who have Aperts, I would be interested in hearing from
you
>on how you should be involved in your health care and what we as health
care
>professionals can do to make you part of the team.  I strongly believe that
>the individual being treated has every right to be involved in decision
>making, but that doesn't always happen.   Any assistance would be
appreciated.
>Thanks
>Karen Kirby-Hall RN
>e-mail Unclbennie@aol.com
>
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Mark,
        Thank you for sending the letter to me.

                                        Denise Graham
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From: DMB1109@aol.com
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        bll4857@unix.tamu.edu, TTUHOTTIES@aol.com, TTUGirls97@aol.com
Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
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From: Clarkent97@aol.com
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Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
Date: Wed, 18 Feb 1998 02:56:22 EST
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love ya

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From: Linz1297@aol.com
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        MIKEMACK81@aol.com, Sjkov@aol.com, TKPurple13@aol.com
Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
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From: Clytie2327@aol.com
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        Megan_King@mail.okbu.edu, GINAEVA@aol.com, 104434.1306@compuserve.com,
        m000168@nadn.navy.mil, Linz1297@aol.com
Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
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From: JoeSmall3@aol.com
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Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
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From: Ejh98@aol.com
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Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
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From: Futon97@aol.com
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        DAISEY8955@aol.com, Stepha3690@aol.com, Shaw851131@aol.com,
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Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
Date: Mon, 16 Feb 1998 17:11:51 EST
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From: Tuinkles@aol.com
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        Wolffe@aol.com, Futon97@aol.com, BridgetLuv@aol.com, Spyderes@aol.com,
        Phaeron@aol.com, VicMD311@aol.com, Jocker9898@aol.com
Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
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From: Zzoom97@aol.com
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Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
Date: Mon, 16 Feb 1998 16:36:10 EST
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From: Nina7@aol.com
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Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
Date: Sun, 15 Feb 1998 16:23:15 EST
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From: Raven1337@aol.com
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        Yarah15@aol.com, Gretxed@aol.com, BballNT23@aol.com, Nina7@aol.com,
        TRACK71224@aol.com, AREFIDEA@aol.com
Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
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From: Gretxed@aol.com
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        Thunder19@aol.com, Bugs475618@aol.com, WhiteT6096@aol.com,
        Saradex@aol.com
Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
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From: IceAngel27@aol.com
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Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
Date: Thu, 12 Feb 1998 15:56:55 EST
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From: Ellskids5@aol.com
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        tony5jen@spartanburg.net
Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
Date: Thu, 12 Feb 1998 15:33:20 EST
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From: Jazzi09024@aol.com
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To: CKGrlNC@aol.com
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Subject: Fwd: 1 friend to another
Date: Thu, 12 Feb 1998 09:44:09 EST
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From: Jazzi09024@aol.com
Return-path: <Jazzi09024@aol.com>
To: Jazzi09024@aol.com
Subject: Re: 1 friend to another
Date: Thu, 12 Feb 1998 09:32:23 EST
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In a message dated 98-02-11 16:10:59 EST, you write:

<< My friend:  Hope your day is good for you.

      >>>>                    love love lo                 ve love love lo
      >>>>               ve love love love            love love love love
      >>>>            love love love love l         ove love love love love
      >>>>            love love love love love     love love love love love
      >>>>           love love love love love l  ove love love love love lov
      >>>>           e love love love love love love love love love love lov
      >>>>           elove love love love love love love love love love love
      >>>>            love love love love love love love love love love love
      >>>>             love love love love love love love love love love lov
      >>>>               e love love love love love love love love love lov
      >>>>                e love love love love love love love love love
      >>>>                   love love love love love love love love l
      >>>>                     ove love love love love love love love
      >>>>                        love love love love love love lov
      >>>>                          e love love love love love lov
      >>>>                            e love love love love love
      >>>>                              love love love love lo
      >>>>                                ve love love love lo
      >>>>                                 ve love love love
      >>>>                                   love love love
      >>>>                                      love love
      >>>>                                        love lo
      >>>>                                          ve
      >>>>
      >>>>    Send this to five or more people who mean the world to
you--brighten
      >>>>someone's day--let them know that you care! :)  Send this back to
      >>>>the person who sent it to you!
      >>>>
      >>>>
      >>>>
      >>>> < grins >  have a great day one and all !!!!!!!!!!!
      >>>>
      >>>> Happy Friendship Week has come to this computer for about a month
      >>>> now.
      >>>> Everyone Have a Happy What Ever :)
      >>>>
      >>>>                :         )
      >>>>        .~ ~ -.\       /.- ~~ .        Happy Online Friendship
Week!!
      >>>>        >       `.   .'        <
      >>>>        (         .- -.         )          Here's a flower from me
to you,
      >>>>        `- -.-~  `- -'  ~-.- -'            Just in case your feeling
blue.
      >>>>           (        :        )           _ _ .-:Know that someone is
thinking
      >>>>            ~--.    :    .--~        .-~  .-~  } of you dearly,
      >>>>                ~-.--.-~.\_      .~  .-~   .~     Daily, monthly
yearly.
      >>>>                          \ \'     \ '_ _ -~        So smile for me.
      >>>>                           `.`.    //                And let the sun
shine
      >>>>              . - ~ ~-.__`..`-.//                  through,
      >>>>           .-~   . - ~ }~ ~ ~-.~-.                 For there's
someone,
      >>>>       .' .-~      .-~       :/~-.~-./:             Somewhere,
      >>>>     /_~_ _ . - ~                 ~-.~-._           Watching
overyou.
      >>>>
      >>>> @~~~->@~~~->@~~~->@~~~->@~~~->@~~~->@~~~->@~~~->
      >>>> @~~~->

      >>>>THIS MESSAGE HAS BEEN SENT TO YOU BECAUSE YOU MEAN
      >>>>SOMETHING TO SOMEBODY.....TO  KEEP THE FRIENDSHIP OR
      >>>>RELATIONSHIP GOING,  PLEASE SEND IT TO YOUR FRIENDS AND
      >>>>THOSE THAT YOU LOVE.  IT WILL KEEP YOUR FRIENDSHIP OR
      >>>>RELATIONSHIP GOING ON AND ON.

           *Hug*      *Hug*    *Hug*     *Hug*       *Hug* *Hug*
            *Hug*      *Hug*    *Hug*     *Hug*     *Hug       *Hug*
             *Hug*      *Hug*    *Hug*    *Hug*      *Hug*
              *Hug       *Hug*     *Hug*    *Hug*      *Hug*
               *Hug*      *Hug*     *Hug*     *Hug*     *Hug*
                *Hug*      * Hug*    *Hug*     *Hug*      *Hug*     *Hug*
*Hug*
                 *Hug* Hug* Hug*     *Hug*     *Hug*      *Hug*    *Hug*
                   *Hug*       *Hug*      *Hug*     *Hug*      *Hug*    *Hug*
                    *Hug*       *Hug*       *Hug*     *Hug*      *Hug*
*Hug*
                     *Hug*       *Hug*        *Hug*   *Hug*        *Hug*
*Hug*
                       *Hug*       *Hug*        *Hug* *Hug*           *Hug*
*Hug
                         *Hug*      *Hug*             *Hug*
*Hug*
 

      >>>>>>>>   Keep scrolling down...
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>   The Universal Rx
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>   No moving parts, no batteries.
      >>>>>>>>   No monthly payments and no fees;
      >>>>>>>>   Inflation proof, non-taxable,
      >>>>>>>>   In fact, it's quite relaxable;
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>   It can't be stolen, won't pollute,
      >>>>>>>>   One size fits all, do not dilute.
      >>>>>>>>   It uses little energy,
      >>>>>>>>   But yields results enormously.
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>   Relieves your tension and your stress,
      >>>>>>>>   Invigorate your happiness;
      >>>>>>>>   Combats depression, makes you beam,
      >>>>>>>>   And elevates your self esteem!
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>   Your circulation it corrects
      >>>>>>>>   Without unpleasant side effects
      >>>>>>>>   It is, I think, the perfect drug:
      >>>>>>>>   May I prescribe, my friend,... the hug!
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>   (and, of course, fully returnable!)
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>      THIS IS AN ELECTRONIC HUG.  YOU'RE
      >>>>>>>>      UNDER NO OBLIGATION TO PASS IT ON.
      >>>>>>>>      FOR ONCE, NO BAD LUCK WILL BEFALL YOU
      >>>>>>>>      IF YOU DON'T WANT TO OR DON'T HAVE
      >>>>>>>>      TIME TO KEEP THIS THING MOVING.
      >>>>>>>>      HOWEVER, MOST PEOPLE HAVE SOMEONE
      >>>>>>>>      THEY WANT TO HUG.  SO, WHY NOT TAKE THIS
      >>>>>>>>      OPPPORTUNITY TO MAKE SOMEONE FEEL A
      >>>>>>>>      LITTLE BETTER?
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>      THIS CAN BE SENT TO SOMEONE WHO YOU
      >>>>>>>>      KNOW NEEDS A REALLY GOOD, WARM
      >>>>>>>>      HUG... OLD BEST FRIENDS, NEW BEST
      >>>>>>>>      FRIENDS, PARENTS, ANYONE...
      >>>>>>>>      IN THIS
      >>>>>>>>      DAY AND AGE OF BOMBINGS, GUNFIGHTS,
      >>>>>>>>      DEADLINES AND HATRED, I THINK THAT
      >>>>>>>>      MOST PEOPLE COULD USE A GOOD HUG.
      >>>>>>>>
      >>>>>>>>      SO SMILE... YOU'VE JUST
      >>>>>>>>      BEEN E-HUGGED FROM SOMEONE WHO
      >>>>>>>>      CARES ABOUT YOU!!  :) :) >>

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Date:         Thu, 19 Feb 1998 10:12:55 EST
Reply-To:     Information exchange and Internet safe haven for Apert Syndrome
              and other craniofacial anomalies <APERT@LISTSERV.AOL.COM>
Sender:       Information exchange and Internet safe haven for Apert Syndrome
              and other craniofacial anomalies <APERT@LISTSERV.AOL.COM>
From:         Jennifer Graham <Jenngram@AOL.COM>
Subject:      Re: help
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 First I want to let the Harmons know that we are praying for notonly BJs
recovery, but for some answers to some tough questions to come their way. I do
know American Airlines offers special fares..as does Delta, for medical
reasons that is..I think you should see if the docs will come to you.

Welcome to the Brumfittsands and Millers. We are from Tampa/St. Petersburg,
FL..Hey..I was born in Ft. Lauderdale!!! Jordan is 5 mos. and just had his
first surgery..Feel free to e-mail me (jenngram@aol.com) w/ any questions you
may have..with it being real fresh in our memory and all..

Which bring me to my problem..JORDAN will not eat and its driving me
nuts!!!!!!!!!!! He'll eat his first feeding in the morning, after that its a
battle, and if I get 2 oz in him I am doing good. We thought it was b/c he had
an URI and this is what he does when that happens..but we've given him meds
and that seems better. Now he just won't eat..I force the issue, he gets
upset..gags..and throws up..he has a real sensitive gag reflex since
surgery..ET tube????? I knw before they pulled the tube he was gagging,
coughing and struggling quite a bit..has he developed an oral aversion????? He
does like the pacifier though..Any experience???? Ideas??? I'm calling speech
therapy today..as much as I don't really get along with them..I am desperate.
We go to OT today for our initail eval, and since all Jordan will eat is a sip
here and there I am sure he has no energy to "perform" for them.

Oh, his sutures were dissolavable..except for one where the drain was..we took
that one out yesterday. The steri-strips were suppose to stay on until Mon.,
but have started to peel off over night. Tahnks for the input on that
issue..and the feeding one in advance.

Jenn (Tampa/St. Pete)
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Hello everybody

Well I have just found out that I am pregnant and am expecting in
October.  Im very excited but also very very scared.  I want to think
positive through this.

Will see my doctor in 3 weeks to see if I am able to have every test
available under the sun so I can cover at least a few things, this is
what I am most scared of as they say the risks of losing the baby with
some of these tests is fairly high bur I couldn't go through any major
problems again.

Being nearly 38 this year I know I am at a greater risk but I also know
there are many out there who have babies later on in life now.

Well Ill see what the doctor says in a few weeks and we'll see whats
best.  Has anyone else got any advise on this?

Bye for now
Carol
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Carol,

Congratulations..Oct. is a wonderful month.....my b-day is 10-28!!!!! I am
sure you will sail through w/ no problems..Do whatever you need to to ease
your mind..pregnancy is hard enough w/o added fears!!! I do know a level 4
ultrasound will show just about everything..but I guess that means waiting
until everything is formed!!! Pretty late in the game. Good luck to you..and
all those other expecting mommies and daddies out there!!! And I know there
are a few!!!!!

Jenn (Tampa/St. Pete)
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I love it!  I love it!  I love it!
Welcome to the World of the Mother, Mark!
Ann
NZ

At 09:28 PM 18/02/98 -0500, you wrote:
>Thanks for all the encouragement.  Well we made it through Wednesday.  Just 2 more days.  Wow.  Elizabeth, thanks for the kinds advice.  It wouldn't be so bad, but now after work I have to run and get Megan at Grandma's house.  Take her/pick her up from Church or any other activity.  Then when I get home I have to get my dinner, check the phone messages, check the email, get the dog walked (cage cleaned up), and our puppy is now a little lady so we have to be careful there and Megan is really disgusted by it.
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Carol:

Congratulations!!!  Hope you are feeling well and good luck with the tests.
 

Janine
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Mark:

Sounds like you are doing a wonderful job staying on top.  Keep up the good
work.  They'll be back soon.
 

Janine
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From:         "J. G. Lindamood" <chanan8@JUNO.COM>
Subject:      challenge

Brenda - did you ask this question?

One question.... what has been your greatest challenge so far?

Wow!  What a question.  My immediate response to that was developing
stable relationships.  Then I thought about how hard it has been to get a
decent job, but from what I am hearing I'm not the only one in that boat.
 

 It just so happened that I bought a book today titled: " How To Start A
Conversation And Make Friends" by Don Gabor.   What intrigued me was one
of the last chapters is on how to remember names.  I have such a hard
time remembering names.  It's embarrassing!  Especially at work!  This
Gabor guy nailed me to the wall!  He said the biggest reason we o not
remember names is interference. Without quoting the whole chapter he goes
on to explain that interference can be a mental thought like >my words<
"Are they going to reject me because of my differences?" I am thinking
this as the person's name is being said and I lose the name.  It makes
sense to me!  Now, I want to read the rest of the book and try to
overcome any other obstacles I have with developing relationships.   I
have put a lot of emphasis on relationships mainly because of the way my
parents raised me, especially my dad.  "Mr. Perfectionist"  didn't quite
know how to handle a child with such "imperfections" so he didn't handle
me at all.  So, I am trying to make up for what I didn't get as a kid.

I am also learning, very slowly, not to put so much emphasis on outside
relationships, but to depend on myself and God for my needs.  It's not
easy.

I hope this helps.  I will continue to ponder your question, for now, I
feel comfortable with this answer.  Relationships have been my biggest
challenge.

Joanne, in Ohio
 
 

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Marjorie and David's life.  I hope that little BJ has seen it safely =
into another morning and shed his wonderful smile into his parents =
hearts.  My prayers go out to all of you this morning as you still =
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    Does anyone have a telephone number where we could get in contact =
with our friends The Harmons.  Either at the hospital or their home =
phone number.  I have tried to find a number but am not very successful =
and my time at home this week is very limited.

    Thank you in advance for any assistance that any of you can render.  =
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Mark

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Welcome to the Miller family

My name is Janine Krebs.  I have two children, Nicholas and Emily, 7 months
old with Aperts.  She had her cranial surgery at 3 months old.  Please feel
free to e-mail me directly if you have questions on the surgery.

I am sure you will find this list and supportive and helpful as we have.

Welcome again,

The Krebs Family (NY)
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Dear Marjorie and David:

Well, what do I say?  What you are going through I am sure is the hardest
thing any parent would ever have to go through.  I try to imagine it but
cannot.

My thoughts and prayers are with your whole family and BJ.  Know that God will
do the right thing for all of you.

Janine Krebs
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Carol,

I too am Pregnant - with our second child.  He is due March 26th - not to
far away!!!   I also was/am worried that there could be something
(anything) that would affect our unborn child.  I think every parent
worries about that.  It is normal!  Especially if you have had one child
with special needs.  I was like you in that I wanted to be tested for
anything out of the ordinary.  I was advised by several doctors that the
chances of having this happen are extremely small.  I did go through all of
the standard tests (for major deficiencies) and a very long and detailed
ultrasound which all came back fine.  Talk to your OBGYN and discuss what
options are available to you and do what you feel is comfortable.

Good luck with your pregnancy and enjoy it - That is if you dont have
morning sickness ;-)  If you have any more specific questions I would be
happy to answer them.

Robyn Johnston,
Eugene, OR
 

At 06:04 PM 2/19/98 +1100, you wrote:
>Hello everybody
>
>Well I have just found out that I am pregnant and am expecting in
>October.  Im very excited but also very very scared.  I want to think
>positive through this.
>
>Will see my doctor in 3 weeks to see if I am able to have every test
>available under the sun so I can cover at least a few things, this is
>what I am most scared of as they say the risks of losing the baby with
>some of these tests is fairly high bur I couldn't go through any major
>problems again.
>
>Being nearly 38 this year I know I am at a greater risk but I also know
>there are many out there who have babies later on in life now.
>
>Well Ill see what the doctor says in a few weeks and we'll see whats
>best.  Has anyone else got any advise on this?
>
>Bye for now
>Carol
>
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Jenn,

I'm sorry, but Andrew didn't have a problem eating after surgeries.  Actually
that's not true.  After his plates were removed, he wasn't big on eating for
about 1 1/2 weeks.  He would nibble here and there, but no big meals.  The
best thing is to not push the issue.  Do not force him to eat if he does not
want to because then you will cause him to not want to eat even more.
Nibbling is ok, you will go through more bottles in a day, but its better than
nothing.

Good luck and I'm sure that Jordon will go back to normal within the next
week.  Try to remember it is only nine days post-op.

Lynn
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Carol,

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!  I'm so happy for you!

Andrew's doctor, Dr. Upton has told me that he has not seen two Apert in the
same family in about 25 years or so (ones he knows of).  Our geneticist has
told us there is a test for it when your about 11 weeks, but as you said, it
comes with risks.  Don't worry about your age because there is a woman I work
with who is 50 and she has a 12 year old daughter.  She is just as active as
her daughter so she is able to keep up, and I think that is one of the most
important things.  Remember, love is all that matters.

This a special time for you and try not to worry (easier said than done).  I
have posed the question out there, if anyone had other kids after their Apert
child and most of them said yes.  And there have not been any problems.  My
husband and I will be trying to have another baby in about a year or so, and
I'm sure I will be worrying as much as you are.  It is human to think what
your thinking.

Lots of luck!

Lynn Thornquist
(Holliston, MA)
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I would love to have the Harmons address if anyone knows it!!!

Thanks!

Lynn Thornquist
(Holliston, MA)
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Well I guess that Congratulations are in order for Robyn as well.  I feel
really bad that I did not know already so I am extending my GOOD LUCK now!!!
Spring is a wonderful time to have a baby.  Do you know what sex it is?

Lynn Thornquist
(Holliston, MA)
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Hi Lynn, thanks for the congrats.  I think I mentioned I was pregnant when
I first found out.  A while ago.  Yes, he is a little - er- I mean a big
boy!  There is no privacey in the world anymore.  During our ultrasound, he
sat right on the lense - so there was no mistaking the "outdoor plumbing".
I am not real big, but it looks like I have a watermelon under my shirt!
The long way!!!  he he he :-)  I swear he is a linebacker too.  He is so
active he will move my whole belly - you should see the looks I get when I
am sitting down in public and my whole shirt is rocken and rollen!  :-)
Now if the little stinker would just do a flip.  He is still breach.

I am excited to have him, but a little scared too.  I guess I have given so
much of my life to the Plum, and all she has been through, that I am having
a hard time imagining anyone else in my arms.  I am sure this will pass
once he is born.  They will be 22 months apart - I think we are in
trouble!!!  :-)

Thanks again Lynn
and again congrats and Good luck Carol!!!

Hugs, Robyn Johnston
 
 

At 12:29 PM 2/19/98 EST, you wrote:
>Well I guess that Congratulations are in order for Robyn as well.  I feel
>really bad that I did not know already so I am extending my GOOD LUCK now!!!
>Spring is a wonderful time to have a baby.  Do you know what sex it is?
>
>Lynn Thornquist
>(Holliston, MA)
>
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Hello everyone,

When Martha was born,  the Genetics Department at Cedars-Sinai Medical
Center had Martha's blood checked to see her chromosome pattern.  When I
was pregnant with my second child I had an amnio and a few ultrasounds.
With the amnio, two tubes of fluid were taken.  One was to check the
baby for Aperts and the other was to run a regular check.  The center
where I was sent for my second child said that if my second baby had
Aperts that it would be the same pattern as Martha's and that's what
they checked him for.  I was also told that the chances for having a
second Aperts baby (when the mutation was sporadic, meaning neither
parent has the syndrome) was less  than 1%.

The type of ultrasounds I had were of higher levels than an ordinary
ultrasound.  With this type of ultrasound, we could clearly see separate
finger bones moving, opening, closing.  The doctor said that if the
fingers were webbed by skin that would not be detected.

Regardless of all the tests, I was still nervous until the day Eddie was
delivered.  When the doctor held him up and said everything was alright,
I couldn't hold my tears back.

Best wishes to everyone.

Laura
from sunny some days, gloomy and/or rainy & flooded on other days
Los Angeles, California
(copycat to Joanne Lindamood's closings) :-)
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Congrats to Carol and Robyn

I was 29 when Tim, our son with Aperts was born.  He was our second child, the
first being our daughter, Kathleen. (She is a freshman at Suffolk University
in Boston)  We had our third child, Kevin, when I was 37.  For sure, we
worried more because of all we had been through with Tim.  We were assured
that our chances were very slim of having another child with Aperts.  But
spending time at Children's made us painfully aware of how many other problems
there can be.  My pediatrician kept saying, remember 97% of the babies are
perfectly normal.  In other words, our perspective was, shall we say, a bit
warped.  So...I understand how scary the pregnancy can be.  Our third child,
Kevin, was normal and healthy.  Our appreciation for such a healthy baby was
enhanced by our experiences.  We have enjoyed every minute of his babyhood and
never worried too much about the little stuff.  He has completed our family
and we are so happy that we decided to have another child.  We all have a
place at the table and it feels so right.

Beth Tolson
Boston, MA
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Dear Carol & Robyn

Congrat's on your pregnancy.  I hope all goes well.  By the way, Andrea is a
very beautiful name for a girl.  (Just teasing)

-Andrea
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Hi everyone!  Just a quick question.  We've finally finished the exhausting
round of evaluations for Sara's new Early Intervention program (Marianne-I
can certainly sympathize with you on this one!) and she starts with her new
physical therapist tomorrow.  The goals this new team has suggested are
much more aggressive than the ones proposed by our first team, but that's
OK.  The part I'm uneasy about is that both the PT and her supervisor have
mentioned that most of the kids start screaming and run the other way when
she sees them coming.  She seemed to take great pride in telling me that
they usually don't like her because she works them so hard.  She seemed to
be taken aback when I told her that I wouldn't put up with Sara crying for
a whole hour that she's here every week.  We've never tried to make Sara
feel that she's different from our 2 other kids and I certainly have no
objection to setting higher goals for her.  I also understand that for
someone recovering from an injury or illness PT is rough, painful work.
But I don't understand why PT for a 2 year old with a slight low muscle
tone problem should have to be so rigorous that the child spends the whole
hour crying!  Have any of you ever experienced problems with your kids
being that opposed to their PT sessions?  It doesn't sound right to me, but
I'm willing to throw the question out there to all of you in case the
problem is that I just don't know enough about it!  Of course, in either
case, I'm always right there during her PT sessions anyway, but I'd still
like to be updated by some of you first in case I feel the need to do
battle--the mother lion syndrome sets in!! :)  Thanks in advance!  Kelly
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Congratulations to all who are pregnant!  (It's so hard to keep track of
everyone sometimes!)  Try to relax and take care!  The Younkins
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Marjorie, David, BJ and family--Our prayers are with you constantly.  May
you feel God's peace no matter what happens.  With love, The Younkins
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Kelly,

Hi, just wanted to put my 2 cents in regarding PT...

I feel these kiddos should be helped to develope as typical as possible for
their situation, and PT is a good thing.  It certainly has helped us
tremendously, but ongoing negative experiences starting at such a young age
tends to send up a warning to me.  Certain styles work for some people
while not for others.  Every situaion is different.  It might be ok to try
to give this PT a chance, but if she is too intense, I personally would see
about requesting another PT with a more nurturing positive disposition.
This has really worked for us.  You might also get some names of other
families that she works with for refereces and call them to get their
opinions.  Maybe she is real successful???  Maybe she just exxagerated a
little about her reputation???

A couple of questions I would ask (myself)...  just to ponder on...

If needed, can you request another PT?
What are the long term goals?
Will her long term goals be jeapordized if she proceeds at a slower pace?
What is gained by being intense vs proceeding slower?
Do you want to/can you  - have a positive overall experience with PT?

Good luck,
Robyn Johnston
 
 

At 03:46 PM 2/19/98 -0500, you wrote:
>Hi everyone!  Just a quick question.  We've finally finished the exhausting
>round of evaluations for Sara's new Early Intervention program (Marianne-I
>can certainly sympathize with you on this one!) and she starts with her new
>physical therapist tomorrow.  The goals this new team has suggested are
>much more aggressive than the ones proposed by our first team, but that's
>OK.  The part I'm uneasy about is that both the PT and her supervisor have
>mentioned that most of the kids start screaming and run the other way when
>she sees them coming.  She seemed to take great pride in telling me that
>they usually don't like her because she works them so hard.  She seemed to
>be taken aback when I told her that I wouldn't put up with Sara crying for
>a whole hour that she's here every week.  We've never tried to make Sara
>feel that she's different from our 2 other kids and I certainly have no
>objection to setting higher goals for her.  I also understand that for
>someone recovering from an injury or illness PT is rough, painful work.
>But I don't understand why PT for a 2 year old with a slight low muscle
>tone problem should have to be so rigorous that the child spends the whole
>hour crying!  Have any of you ever experienced problems with your kids
>being that opposed to their PT sessions?  It doesn't sound right to me, but
>I'm willing to throw the question out there to all of you in case the
>problem is that I just don't know enough about it!  Of course, in either
>case, I'm always right there during her PT sessions anyway, but I'd still
>like to be updated by some of you first in case I feel the need to do
>battle--the mother lion syndrome sets in!! :)  Thanks in advance!  Kelly
>
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To those that are having one of those days...............

A Poem for Moms and Dads
Now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray my sanity to keep.
For if some peace I do not find,
I'm pretty sure I'll lose my mind.
I pray I find a little quiet
Far from the daily family riot
May I lie back--not have to think
about what they're stuffing down the sink,
or who they're with, or where they're at
and what they're doing to the cat.
I pray for time all to myself
(did something just fall off a shelf?)
To cuddle in my nice, soft bed
(Oh no, another goldfish--dead!)
Some silent moments for goodness sake
(Did I just hear a window break?)
And that I need not cook or clean--
(well heck, I've got the right to dream)
Yes now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray my wits about me keep,
But as I look around I know--
I must have lost them long ago!
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Hi everyone,

Just a short note to let you all know how we are doing. We have arranged for a
team from San Fransico to fly in to examine BJ and give us a second opinion.
They will be here sometime Friday Night. I don't know if I can bare to hear
this news again. All in all BJ is unchanged from Yesterday. They are doing a
better job at controlling his pain and that has helped me relax a little.
Right now everything is still hectic and I will admit I am a little numb. I am
still waiting for all this to sink in. We are doing the best we can, and have
used the nights spent in the waiting room to really talk. It helps to know
that David and I are growing closer through all this.

I want to thank each of you for all the kindness and prayers shown to BJ,
David, the kids and myself. I can never begin to explain what it has meant to
me. I better go, I can't even bring myself to talk about all this yet.
Marjorie Harmon
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I decided to take care of some neglected ends while we are being barred from
the hospital. They have the nerve to tell us that spending 8 consecutive days
and nights at the hospital is not good for us. They made us leave to get some
sleep and food. Well we left, got the food but couldn't sleep. 2 out 3 ain't
that bad.

I wanted to say welcome to all the New families. I am sorry I don't remember
all the names. You have found a very great group of people. Who for the most
part write letters that don't make you cry. They listen to your ups, and your
downs. They are quick to share information to help calm your fears. But most
of all they are simply there so that you do not have to go through this alone.
They don't even mind if you seem to ramble on.

To everyone who is pregnant Congratulations and try to enjoy it. I know it is
hard. I worried so much through each of my 3 pregnancies after BJ's birth. It
doesn't do a lot of good to worry but it does keep you busy.

To Mark I know you will do fine on your own. But if you learn any big secrets
of how to do it, do share.

To Cat and Don, I was wondering if BJ's pictures ever made it to you.

To everyone I appreciate the concerns and wishes to call and write. I would
prefer not to give out my phone number at this time. I know it sounds selfish
but please forgive me. If you would like though I will give you my address at
work. I would like to ask in advance that we please not ask to send gifts of
flowers. If and when this ends we plan on having a quiet ceremony with just
David myself and the kids, and a few other family members. I can only pray
that you all can understand and forgive us.

Please do not be sad, BJ's life is such a blessing and he has always been such
a happy child. I would not want anyone to remember BJ with such sad and empty
hearts. I haven't thought about life without BJ much yet but I can only hope
that it would be with the same joy and love he has always lived with.

I know this is a lot of rambling but please bear with me. There is something I
need to ask. I know dearing the past 6 months I haven't always kept up to date
with how everyone else is doing and I am sorry about that. But if things
should turn out like the doctors are thinking they might, I would like to know
that David and I are still welcome to participate in the list. I know our
situation will haave changed and that we won't be able to give as much
information on what to expect from surgeries, school ect but it would still be
nice to know that we can come and chat and check up on some of our other
"Special Angels".

Please don't be in any hurry to respond, but I just needed to voice it. Well I
guess I better go this is getting long for even one of my ramblings.
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>Date: Wed, 18 Feb 1998 22:13:47 -0500
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>Subject:every mom needs this one, get a tissue!
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>One of these days, you'll shout, "Why don't you kids grow up and act your
>age! "And they will. Or, "You guys get outside and find yourselves
>something to do...and don't slam the door!" And they won't.
>You'll straighten up the boys' bedroom neat and tidy: bumper stickers
>discarded, bedspread tucked and smooth, toys displayed on their shelves.
>Hangers in the closet. Animals caged. And you'll say out loud, "Now I want
>it to stay that way." And it will.
>You'll prepare a perfect dinner with a salad that hasn't been picked to
>death and a cake with no finger traces in the icing, and you'll say, "Now,
>there's a meal for company." And you'll eat it alone.
>You'll say, "I want complete privacy on the phone. No dancing around. No
>demolition crews. Silence! Do you hear?" And you'll have it.
>No more plastic tablecloths stained with spaghetti. No more bedspreads to
>protect the sofa from damp bottoms. No more gates to trip over at the top
>of the basement steps. No more clothespins under the sofa. No more playpens
>to arrange a room around. No more anxious nights under a vaporizer tent. No
>more sand in the sheets or Popeye movies in the bathroom. No more iron-on
>patches, rubber bands for ponytails, tight boots or wet knotted
>shoestrings.          Imagine. A lipstick with a point on it. No
>baby-sitter for New Year's Eve. Laundry only once a week. Seeing a steak
>that isn't ground. Having your teeth cleaned without a baby on your lap. No
>PTA meetings. No car pools. No blaring radios. No one washing her hair at
>11 o'clock at night. Having your own roll of Scotch tape.
>Think about it. No more Christmas presents made out of toothpicks and
>library paste. No more sloppy oatmeal kisses. No more tooth fairy. No
>giggles in the dark. No knees to heal, no responsibility.  Only a voice
>crying, "Why don't you grow up?" and the silence echoing,
>"I did."
>~Erma Bombeck
>
 
 

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Sonya,

Thanks so much for the info.  I hope we're making the right decision going
with Dr. Salyer.  I recently talked to our neurosurgeon and he mentioned Dr.
Bruce too.  He did say though that he trained with Dr. Shapiro and liked him
very much.  That is who will be working with Dr. Salyer.  We are scheduled to
meet everyone on 3/10 and the surgery is set for 3/25.  They have ordered 2
units of blood and so we're trying to find another donor other than George.
I'm not sure why he can't do 2 units.  Maybe there's not enough time since it
has to be within 14 days of surgery.  I'm working on the specifics now so we
can figure out what to do and where.  I can't think of any questions right now
but I'm sure I will before the 25th.  Glad to here everyone is doing well.
Bye for now.

Brenda
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To the Brumfitts--

Welcome to the group.  Our son Jonathan has had both pinkies released and is
scheduled for surgery on monday to release his left index finger. The middle
fingers are joined at the tips so I'm not sure what will be the end result.
We see the hand surgeon tomorrow.  We look forward to sharing information with
you.

The Sieberts
George, Brenda, Melissa and Jonathan
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Kelly,

As I am just hours from our first OT session, I only know what she told
me..and thats if they cry..its a negative experience, and don't force the
issue. So, an hour full of crying seems a bit excessive, and nontheraputic.
And I wouldn't force a toddler into anything that may turn into a negative
experience..then you'll NEVER get cooperation.

I was very pleased with our OT, and her philosophy..although she did say she
was one of the more conserative therapists. For what its worth I think your
right in not promoting tourture sessions. I know I wouldn't.

Jenn (Tampa/St. Pete)
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Jack and Raquelle-

Welcome.  Please let us know if we can help in any way.  Our son Jonathan was
born on 12/6/96 and had his first cranioplasty when he was 6 months as well.
It went very well and I'm sure yours will too.  Let us know when the surgery
is scheduled.

Best Wishes,

The Sieberts
George, Brenda, Melissa and Jonathan
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Marjorie,

I hope you know that you and the rest of your family are always part of this
extended one. Like any other family, you're feelings, thoughts, and even
ramblings are safe with us. I do hope that all of you are doing well, you
sound as if you have found some peace. PLease know, reardless of the
outcome..BJ has touched all of our lives, he is, and always will be an
inspiration to all. Our thoughts and prayers continue for all of ya'll.

Jenn (Tampa/ St. Pete)
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Marjorie,
      How could you ever not be welcome here?  You've added so much
-- wisdom, humor, love.  You are all always in my prayers.

Judy
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> Well I have just found out that I am pregnant and am expecting in
> October.  Im very excited but also very very scared.  I want to think
> positive through this.

    Congratulations!  I'm sure you're anxious -- but you'll feel
better once the test results are in.
>
> Will see my doctor in 3 weeks to see if I am able to have every test
> available under the sun so I can cover at least a few things, this is
> what I am most scared of as they say the risks of losing the baby with
> some of these tests is fairly high bur I couldn't go through any major
> problems again.

     Actually, the risks aren't so high in the right hands.  Yes,
there's a risk, but probably less than you think.  Your doctor will
fill you in.

> Being nearly 38 this year I know I am at a greater risk but I also know
> there are many out there who have babies later on in life now.

   I was 41 when my youngest was born.  It makes the pregnancy more
of a challenge (both for mom and doc), but if you take care of
yourself, things should go well.  BTW, your risk of gestational
diabetes is significantly higher this time around.  Consult a
dietician BEFORE that crops up.  You may be able to avoid it -- or at
least to control things with diet.  I know, one more thing to worry
about.  OTOH, there's good evidence that careful attention to diet
can prevent many maternal complications as well as giving the baby
the best possible start.

Judy
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Brenda,

You have to wait a month before you can donate the second unit of blood. We
had that problem w/ Jordan..Joe could only donate 1 unit b/c direct donors
have the 10-14 before their blood is used...so we crossed our fingers on the
blood bank...Sheesh..the day of Jordans surgery it took them over an hour to
find the unit Joe did donate. You should have seen me..I was nuts!!!!!

Good luck on the upcoming event!!!! I know you'll be glad to put it behind
you!! SEE, I can say that now b/c I have done it myself!!!! ha!!ha!!

Jenn
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Joanne,

It wasn't my question, but I loved your answer as I  enjoy all your posts.
You really should be a journalist.  You really have a special talent for
communicating on paper.  I wouldn't mind reading this book too.

Brenda
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Hi Jennifer

For what it's worth - Amy went through a stage where she would start to feed (breastfeed) then bellow.  My initial thought was that she had colic - we heard so much about colic at that stage I was sure Amy was going to suffer from it.  So I mentioned it to our Plunket Nurse (unmarried, no kids = no experience) and she agreed it was probably colic.  Suggested I give her some brown sugar - I just looked at her and asked sweetly "You are telling ME to give my child BROWN SUGAR?!" so her next suggestion was prune juice.  In retrospect I really can't recall what these remedies were meant to achieve.

Anyway, I asked my big sister (3 strapping boys worth of experience) and she just blithely said "Maybe she isn't hungry."  So, when Amy next bellowed at me I cuddled her and put her back to bed and she was fine.  When I offered her her next meal she had it quite happily and we had no further problems.

I'm not certain, but I think she was probably about the same age as Jordan at that time.

Bye
Ann
NZ
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Date:         Fri, 20 Feb 1998 14:59:53 +1300
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From:         Howard & Ann <howrdnan@IHUG.CO.NZ>
Subject:      Re: Physical therapy
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Find another therapist!

Ann
NZ

>OK.  The part I'm uneasy about is that both the PT and her supervisor have
>mentioned that most of the kids start screaming and run the other way when
>she sees them coming.  She seemed to take great pride in telling me that
>they usually don't like her because she works them so hard.  She seemed to
>be taken aback when I told her that I wouldn't put up with Sara crying for
>a whole hour that she's here every week.
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Date:         Thu, 19 Feb 1998 21:33:55 EST
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From:         Frank & Annette Contrino <contrino@BUFFNET.NET>
Subject:      Re: Trying to stay on top
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>
>My Friends, it is getting late.  Michele told me that Kayla got to go
swimming last night and was able to play bingo tonight.  She even won $1.85.
She was so proud that she even told me she had lots of money now.  I had
almost 50 emails to get to tonight so....I hope I am not rambling.
 

Speaking of 50 emails...

I don't know how the rest of you feel, but I'd like to suggest we do a
little something to cut down on the amount of messages from the list server.
By that I mean, limit the amount of replies to a message which go to the
server by replying directly to the poster.  If we all included our personal
email address at the end of our messages, the person replying could post
directly to the originator of the message instead of to the list.  I
mentioned to Don around Christmas time that I was considering unsubscribing
from the list because there is no way I can keep up with the volume of
messages posted.  I've resisted saying anything because I didn't want to
offend, and I usually only lurk and don't post.  The traffic is getting
worse as more people join the list.  Lately, the list is averaging 20 or
more messages per day.  With my whimpy little 486 and 14400 modem, it takes
me forever to try to download and read through all the messages.  A good
majority of the messages are specific replies for a specific person.  I'm
not suggesting that someone not post a message which they think is relevent
to the group, nor am I suggesting that anyone not reply to something.  I'm
just asking that when you compose a message which starts off like  "To
so-and-so...", you reply directly to them.  I believe this would help us all
since I presume I'm not the only one that works long hours, has a family,
and has a child who likes to monopolize the PC.  Also, if you would delete
all but the relevant parts of a message which you are replying to, it would
speed up downloading of messages for us all.  Thanks for reading.

Frank Contrino
contrino@buffnet.net
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Date:         Thu, 19 Feb 1998 21:54:52 EST
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From:         "<George Siebert>" <GSieb91515@AOL.COM>
Subject:      Re: An Update
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Marjorie and David,

We are glad to hear there is another team coming to give a second opinion.  No
matter what the outcome, please know that your precious BJ is being looked
after by our almighty Lord.  You and your family will continue to be in our
prayers and we will "always" be here for you.  We respect your privacy and
just want you to know how much we love all of you.  Your incredible strength
continues to inspire me but please try to get some rest.

With all our hearts and positive thoughts,

The Sieberts
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Date:         Thu, 19 Feb 1998 23:04:31 EST
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From:         "J. G. Lindamood" <chanan8@JUNO.COM>
Subject:      Harmons

Hello!

Marjorie,

You, David and the family are and always will be a part of this family.
Please don't feel you ever have to leave us!  We are all connected and
will forever will be!  as always, you are in my prayers.

Joanne, in Ohio

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Date:         Thu, 19 Feb 1998 20:53:24 -0800
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From:         Lark Jarvis <lark@INVOLVED.COM>
Subject:      Re: Physical therapy
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At 02:59 PM 2/20/98 +1300, Ann wrote:
>Find another therapist!

Amen.  Speaking as a massage therapist, here--based on what I learned in
school and experienced based on my own experience as a former patient--for
a kid's developing nervous system--if what the PT is doing is painful, and
there's no attempt made to AVOID it being painful (and the therapist seems
to take some kind of weird GLEE in it being painful?!), then your child's
developing nervous system is going to be affected adversely--fight or
flight responses, autocontractile pain responses, that sort of thing.  It
is difficult (though not impossible--very little is impossible when you're
talking developing neurology!) to override these neurological responses
later on (I know, because I have them left over from my own childhood--the
fight or flight and autocontractile pain responses in particular . . . They
do leave, but it takes effort . . . so much better if you can avoid them to
begin with).  BTW, so much has happened in these kinds of fields over the
past few years that if the therapist in question hasn't done a heck of a
lot of outside training to keep up, they may be using outdated techniques
that run totally counter to what the current prevailing philosophy is.

BTW, I highly recommend a book called _Uncommon Voyage:  Parenting a
Special Needs Child in the World of Alternative Medicine_, by Laura Kramer.
 It does a really good job of talking about what other options are out
there besides what the conventional, hospital-based therapists are doing.
Available in most bookstores . . .

Good luck,
Lark Jarvis, LMT
Portland, OR
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Date:         Fri, 20 Feb 1998 02:03:10 EST
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From:         "Donald A. Sears" <CatnDon@AOL.COM>
Subject:      The Harmons
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Dear Harmons,

Never, never, never, never, never, NEVER think you will not be welcome in this
family.  Our home will always be your home.  The same goes for all of you!!!
Now I want to make sure everyone understands ---  any questions!?!?!?  And
remember, it's not over until it's over.

BJ's pictures have been posted and I will be writing the pages sometime
tomorrow, along with pages for the following families:  The Hornings (the long
lost Krista photos!), The Neimis (non-internet),  The Grahams (Jennifer), The
Baileys, The Fosters (I need your snail mail address, must have tossed the
envelope by mistake) and The Krebs.  I'm also going to return all the photos
from those families in the mail (plus the Wallenius photos) tomorrow, so look
for them next week.  Please forgive me if my notes in the return envelopes are
brief, I'm kinda swamped with tax stuff at the moment, but I did want to get
all of these great pictures and stories out there, and believe me I have
enjoyed each and every one as I know you all will.

What I don't get done tomorrow will be done sometime this weekend.  If you
want to look at the pictures RIGHT AWAY, just follow the following example.
Your pictures will be at www.apert.org/yourfamily/yourkid01.jpg then 02.jpg
03, etc. as in the following example:

http://www.apert.org/harmon/bj09.jpg
http://www.apert.org/graham2/graham04.jpg

For most kids I used their first name, but for some reason I sometimes used
the last name.  Try one, if it does not work, try the other!
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Date:         Thu, 19 Feb 1998 23:23:46 -0800
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From:         Robyn Johnston <robyn@ORDATA.COM>
Subject:      Re: An Update
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Margorie, David and your family.  As everyone has said before, you are part
of the "family" so please continue to be here.

You all are in our hearts.  I am glad you and David are able to be together
through this tough time.  Like Brenda said, please try to get some rest
when you can though.  WE are praying for you and your little trooper.
Thank you for keeping us posted.

Hugs, Robyn Johnston
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Date:         Fri, 20 Feb 1998 06:53:44 -0500
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From:         Mark Smith <dsprado@PENN.COM>
Subject:      my two cents worth
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Good Morning My friends,

Well, we made it through the week alright.  Michele will be home this =
evening and I'm sure she has lots to say.  I have tried to keep her =
posted as best as I can on all the email that we have been receiving and =
everyone's situation.
    Marjorie, David, and family:  Our hearts are with you, your wishes =
will be kept.  We will always welcome you with open arms.  Our home is =
your home.  Our prayers are with you.
    Congratulations Ladies.  Best of Luck.
    Trying to keep this short, running a little late and a little on =
empty this morning.  I was going to update all on Kayla's progress from =
all of her tests, but, Michele will be home tonight and I'm sure she =
will be able to do a much better job at it than I.
    May the sun be shining in your part of the world, and in your =
hearts.  Mark

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<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000>Good Morning My friends,</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000></FONT>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000>Well, we made it through the week =
alright.&nbsp;=20
Michele will be home this evening and I'm sure she has lots to =
say.&nbsp; I have=20
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been=20
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<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Marjorie, David, and =
family:&nbsp;=20
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with=20
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<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Congratulations =
Ladies.&nbsp; Best=20
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running a=20
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tonight and=20
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Date:         Fri, 20 Feb 1998 11:47:13 -0500
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From:         Don Sears <dsears@SCRS.STATE.SC.US>
Subject:      Adding my thoughts to Frank Contrino's
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As I've mentioned previously (and recommended to Frank), if you are
experiencing problems with the volume of messages, and you only read
your email once a day, I suggest the 'digest' option.  The digest option
gives you ONE email per day which combines all of the messages processed
by the listserv for that day.  You won't get each message separately,
but you will still get to read everything said during the day.  It's a
very convenient way to limit your time retrieving email.

To convert your subscription, send the following in the BODY of a
message to listserv@listserv.aol.com

SET APERT DIGESTS

If you ever want to convert back and receive all the messages, then send
the following to the same address:

SET APERT NODIGESTS

You'll get a confirmation message shortly after sending either of these.

----Don
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Date:         Fri, 20 Feb 1998 12:12:19 -0500
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From:         "Wendy S. Pak" <Wendy_S._Pak@RIDLEY.ON.CA>
Subject:      Messages on the listserver
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I agree with Frank.  I have been meaning to write about the same thing.  A
lot of messages are in reply to a specific person so e-mail them directly.
Not everyone needs to read about it.  I end up deleting almost all the
messages because they are not relevant - like happy birthdays, or good luck
wishes etc.  I am not saying I don't appreciate those messages, but like
Frank said it gets cumbersome with the amount of mail going through.  My
purpose is to find out about get togethers and dealing with the adult
issues.  My sister has already gone through the surgeries and all the stuff
most of the listserver is about so I just delete the messages.  I finally
read a message I can relate to.  Anyway, I know I can unsubscribe.  I do
enjoy keeping up to date about BJ however.  I know Don and George have
written about the same thing before - e-mail people directly unless you
want the whole listserver to know something that can help a lot of people
and not a select few.

I am just re-inforcing what Don, George, and Frank have said.

Let's keep the listserver for what is intent was.  We have all met a lot of
people on the server and can talk/e-mail them outside the server.

Take care all,

Wendy Pak
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Date:         Fri, 20 Feb 1998 09:36:26 -0800
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From:         Penny Halverson <phalvers@U.WASHINGTON.EDU>
Subject:      IRC's Chat Tonite! 02/20/98
Comments: To: Crouzon Syndrome Support Group & Other Craniofacial Anomalies
          <crouzon@u.washington.edu>
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Hi everyone!!!

Tonite is IRC Big Chat Nite!!  So let's get acquainted with each
others.  :-)  Keep in mind that some people will show up alittle
later than the time started.     Please join us!!!   :-)

 Date To Meet On:  Friday, February 20, 1998

 IRC Server: ChatNet (Any locations)

 Port Setting:  6667

 Channel:  #apertcrouzon  or if noone is there, go to #widesmiles

 Time: 11:00pm AT/10:00pm ET/9:00pm CT/8:00pm MT/7:00pm PT/5:00pm HT

If you haven't had a chance to download the mIRC for Windows 3.x and 95
or IRCle for MAC users.  Please go to download from one of these below.

 To check out the mIRC Help Page for Windows 3.x and Windows 95 users at:
        http://www.qni.com/~kristib/mirc1.html
 You can download mIRC 5.31 there.

 For MAC Users:  Please download IRCle at:
         http://www.amug.org/~ircle/

If anyone needs help or have questions on accessing the chat on ChatNet.
please email to Kristi at either:

        mailto:kristib@qni.com

Or for a quicker assistance, you can reach Kristi on AOL IM (AOL Instant
Messenger) and she will be available to assist you - see below:

Kristi's screen-name:  LilOneB  (anytimes)

You can download the AOL IM (AOL Instant Messenger) at:
        http://www.aol.com/aim

You don't have to be a member to join AOL IM and it is free!
AOL IM is an one to one online chat.

Hugs,  Penny

http://home.earthlink.net/~hwy2heaven/
mailto:hwy2heaven@earthlink.net
mailto:phalvers@u.washington.edu
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Date:         Fri, 20 Feb 1998 14:32:35 EST
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From:         Marianne Camous <Camous@AOL.COM>
Subject:      fingers
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In a message dated 98-02-19 20:23:49 EST, you write:

<< The middle
 fingers are joined at the tips so I'm not sure what will be the end result.
>>
Evan's were like that- they were separated and have done well. We just saw our
hand surgeon and she is pleased. He will need his thumbs straightened out but
not until next year.

Marianne
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Date:         Fri, 20 Feb 1998 15:16:12 EST
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From:         Bill Murphey <WCMurph@AOL.COM>
Subject:      Sammy
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Greetings to all,

I wanted to thank you for the warm welcome many of you have given us to this
exclusive group, and pass on a quick update of my son Sammy.  Sammy will be 2
months old next week and is doing well.  He ended up spending his first 12
days in the intensive care unit at Bethesda because of a digestive problem,
but that has been long resolved.  These days he's doing all the things a
normal baby should be doing for his age--including the colicky crying at
night!  Fortunately, he hasn't had to have any surgeries...yet.

We're planning to move to the Little Rock area in July and have begun talking
with the Children's Hospital there.  Sounds like they have an experienced
craniofacial team who has worked with Apert kids before.  Has anyone ever
dealt with them?

Your support and words of encouragement have really made a difference.
Thanks again!!!

Bill, Angie, Taylor, Emily, & Sam Murphey
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Date:         Thu, 19 Feb 1998 12:21:48 -0500
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From:         Christopher Kilner <Christopher.Kilner@USPTO.GOV>
Subject:      Re: Pregnancy
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Congratulations Carol . . . this is an exciting time!  October is a
great
month as my dear daughter Ceci was born October 28!  Our Halloween
treat.

I was 37 when Ceci was born and 38 when Blair was born.  I remember the
nerves and tried to calm them with a faith that all would be well with
Blair.  Like you, though, I wasn't interested in surprises.  So nervous
was
I that I contemplated the CVS test to learn of problems as soon as
possible--I even scheduled the appt.  Then, on that morning, I reread
all
the literature on CVS and canceled.  The receptionist who took my call
said
that CVS cancellations happened a lot!  I had thought I would do the CVS
since my own OB/GYN had the same test--she was a 30-something mom too!
Anyway, I opted for an amnio.  At the particular place I went, they had
the
statistics for the procedure.  I learned that at their institute, less
than 0.5%
of the amnios resulted in miscarriages or other complications--and they
performed a lot of amnios since this was their business.  I figured I
was
in good hands.

My advice . . . if you decide to do an amnio, ask for the statistics
from the
place you are going.  Also, ask for their literature (my place supplied
reams of data and info), study it, and feel confident that you are doing
the right thing for you and your baby.

With Blair, they had just discovered a way to learn about Aperts through
genetic testing.  I didn't bother since in 1995 the test took so long
I'd be
learning the results during my delivery!  For that, back to faith!!
(However,
I've heard recently that Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore, MD, USA
has a test protocol that only takes a month or so).

Anyway, Blair was and is a beautiful, healthy baby boy who just turned 2
on
Feb 9.

So many women are having babies in those 30-something years (three of my
sisters-in-law had babies at ages 38,39, & 40!) that I focused on all
the
healthy babies I learned about and rejoiced with those women.  I think
future statistics will show that the 30s make beautiful babies!!

Enjoy your pregnancy.  In October I will rejoice with you and your baby.

Reggie Kilner
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Date:         Thu, 20 Feb 1997 15:37:36 -0800
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From:         Longshot & Darwin <Longshot.Darwin@MCI2000.COM>
Subject:      Re: Nicole
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Hello Millers,

      My name is Rachel. I am 24 and I have Apert Syndrome. If you
have any questions you can email me at
longshot.darwin@mci2000.com

    To everyone that is pregnant, congratulations.

    To everyone having surgries good luck and those who are home
from just having surgries welcome home.

      To the Harmons, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Rachel
longshot.darwin@mci2000.com
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Date:         Fri, 20 Feb 1998 14:51:51 -0800
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From:         Penny Halverson <phalvers@U.WASHINGTON.EDU>
Subject:      Please Respond!!!!!
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Hi everyone

Someone had tried to email to Kristi thru the AOL instant message.
IF you have a question you wanted to ask Kristi.   Please email
to Kristi at:  kristib@qni.com and explain what it is that you
need or have question on.    Please respond ASAP.   Thanks!

Hugs,  Penny

http://home.earthlink.net/~hwy2heaven/
mailto:hwy2heaven@earthlink.net
mailto:phalvers@u.washington.edu

---------- Forwarded message ----------
Date: Fri, 20 Feb 1998 16:44:20 -0700
From: "K. Branstetter" <kristib@qni.com>
To: phalvers@u.washington.edu
Cc: hwy2heaven@earthlink.net
Subject: HUGE HUGE Favor

Hi Penny,
While I was trying to get my crash problems solved, someone instant messaged
me from the Apert's list.  Could you post to the list and ask that person to
either email me or instant message me this evening??  I would appreciate it.
Thanks :-)

Hugs,
Kristi
"Each of us is different.. expect it, respect it, and accept it." Unknown

Email:  mailto:kristib@qni.com  AOL IM screenname:  LilOneB
Homepages:
Kristi's Place at http://www.qni.com/~kristib/
Arhinia at http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/5935/
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Dear Friends:

When Seth came home from school today he wanted to talk.  During the past
few weeks two boys in his class have been giving him a hard time.  They
poke and tease him.  Today one of the boys called him little fingers.  Seth
told me that he said, "I'm not the only person like me.  There are other
people with hands like mine."  He seemed very proud of himself.

The Parks brought Levi over a few weeks ago and Seth was very interested in
seeing Levi's hands.  He has met a few people with Apert Syndrome a few
years ago, but I don't think that he really interested.  He's ready now to
start meeting people who share common traits.  He is seven and seven is the
age of reason.

Someone mentioned that there child had said that they wish that their
parent had hands like theirs.  Seth has said the same thing to me.  I find
it interesting that he didn't say, "I want hands like yours."  Seth is very
fond of his hands.

Warmly, Dori
 
 

Dori A. Jefferson
djeff@midwest.net
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Hi,

I would like to introduce myself. My name is Judy Amerman and I have a
seven year old son with apert syndrome.
His name is Nick and we live in Morris, Il.

Nick has had 12 or 13 surgeries to late. Somehow I have lost count.
I just read about Seth being teased and thought how Nick would deal with
that. He would do one of two things. He would just walk away or else he
would say "God made me like this. What is your excuse?"
He has only had to do this a few times, but i am sure that the older he
gets, the harder it will be for him.  For the most part the kids has
accepted him the way he is. I know it won' always be that way, but we will
just take it as it comes
Hopefully you will all meet Nick and his family in a few weeks since I will
be putting together some info for Don and get Nick his web page.

Hope to meet some new friends real soon
 

         Sincerely,  Judy Amerman
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Hi Judy,

Welcome,

My name is Andrea, I'm a 20 year old with Apert.  I live in Florida, but am
originally from Northbrook, Illinois.  My surgeries were done by Dr. Michael
Schafer from Chicago - Rush Presbyterian.

Teasing is probably the hardest thing I have to deal with too.  I think Nick's
response is great, he's exactly right.

This is a wonderful group of people.

-Andrea
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Dear Granny Sherri, I am 16 yaers old and i had 18 surgies and I am from
San Antonio Texas.

sincerly Richard Montemayor
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To all,

First of all, we want to thank all of you for your warm welcomes.

Andrea,
Yes we visited Dr. Wolfe.  We were very impressed with him and his work.
Nicki has another with him on the 4th of March and that is when he and
the neurosergeon (Dr. Ragheb) will schedule her first cranial
expansion.  This will be sometime in April.  We will keep you posted.
 

Marianne,
You mentioned that Evans fingers were joined at the tips and that he had
them released and has done well.  At what age did he have this done?
Our daughter Nicki, has her two middle fingers the same way.  Our hand
surgeon suggested to release the index finger and pinky and straighten
the thumbs when she is 9 months old (around July).  Was there enough
bone to form two fingers (the middle two)??

Don Sears,
We also are gathering up a few pictures to send to you along with our
story so you can set up a web page for Nicki.  You are our Aperts
pioneer and for that we thank you!

Again, we are happy that we joined this list and together we will get
through the good and bad times.

Jack & Raquel
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What a great poem, and how true!!!!!!

Lynn
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I came across this during my reading (a.k.a page flipping) during Jordans
surgery. I thought I would pass it along. My husband feels the title should
include fathers as well..I think he is starting to feel discriminated
against..But like I told him..I just read 'em..I don't write 'em
 

A Mothers Promise

"I will let nothing hurt you,"
She told the child asleep
And wept because the promise
Was one she could not keep.
"But I will never hurt you,"
She said again and wept,
Knowing it a promise
No mortal ever kept.
"Life has deep hurts," she whispered,
"Which no one can avert.
God help me teach you strength and love
For conquering any hurt."

                           ----Jane Merchant
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Marjorie,

I'm glad to hear that you have another team coming to see BJ.  I think it will
be good for you and David to get a second opinion.  Maybe they can give you
the insight the other doctors couldn't.  Please give BJ a big hug and kiss for
me.  Tell him that alot of people are praying and thinking about him daily.
And ofcourse his parents too.  I'm glad to hear that you and David are getting
closer, because sometimes it works the reverse.  In the end it will be your
love that sees you through.

Lynn Thornquist
(Holliston, MA)
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Kelly,

Andrew absolutely adores his PT.  He gives her big smiles whenever she comes
over.  Kathy has never made Andrew cry that much from a session.  Andrew had
very tight muscles when he was younger and it took alot of stretching to
overcome it, but never did he hate a session.  After Kathy would do a little
something he didn't like, she would automatically do something he did like.
The PT should play with the child and incorporate the actual "workout" into
the play.  I feel that is what makes a good PT.  If you do not like something
that your PT is doing or says, make sure you mention it to your service
coordinator.

Good luck with your PT.

Lynn Thornquist
(Holliston, MA)
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Welcome to the Amerman family!! We are the Grahams, Joe,Jennifer, and Jordan.
Jordan is 5 mos. and has apert. He just had his first cranial surgery last
week, and we are starting on the hands soon. I just read about Nick and it
sounds like he has great self-esteem..something we are hoping to instill (sp?)
as well. welcome to the list..I am sure you will find many friends here!!

Jenn (Tampa/St. Pete)
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Marjorie,

You could never ramble too much.  You are not selfish to want to keep things
simple.  Whatever you want is what should be.  Please be assured that you are
part of us and are always welcome here at the Apert listserv.  The ones of us
who have toddlers and younger, need your wisdom, love and comfort.  Please
take comfort (if there is any) that God is doing the best he can for BJ and
that he will keep him as beautiful and wonderful as he is.....FOREVER!!!!
Please know that someone in Holliston, MA  is thinking about you daily and
hoping your doing alright.  Hang in and remember you can ALWAYS count on all
of us to be here for you (I think I can speak for everyone when I say that).

LOTS OF LOVE COMING YOUR WAY!!!!!

Lynn Thornquist
(Holliston, MA)
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In a message dated 98-02-20 19:30:14 EST, you write:

<< "God made me like this. What is your excuse?" >>
Welcome Judy and family. That's the best line I've heard in a long time. I'll
have to teach it to my son Evan (19 mo) when he gets old enough!!

Marianne Camous
San Carlos, CA
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To the Sieberts,

Andrew didn't have his middle and ring fingers separated until last, they were
also joined and they have since been separated.  Why did they do the pinkie
and index finger in two different surgeries?

Lynn Thornquist
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I agree!!
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Well you all got one thing right he is a little trooper. He is doing a little
better today. And I'll take a little better anyday. He was able to be pulled
off Dialysis and seems to be holding his own with his blood toxins. He even
seemed a little more active today, he seemed to really start moving when David
was singing him a song. I told David he was telling him to stop. BJ never did
like David's singing. He was such a music critic.  David and I seem to be
doing better too got about 4 hours of sleep in our own beds last night and
that was good. I must run need tofeed some kids and then get back.

Lots of Love,
Marjorie

I appreciate the positive responsives. I think I knew the answer but I hopr
you understand that I did have to ask.
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> Yes we visited Dr. Wolfe.  We were very impressed with him and his work.
> Nicki has another with him on the 4th of March and that is when he and
> the neurosergeon (Dr. Ragheb) will schedule her first cranial
> expansion.  This will be sometime in April.  We will keep you posted.

   Dr. Ragheb used to be here in Baltimore -- our loss is your gain.
He didn't do anything very complex at my hospital  (St Agnes), but I
was always impressed with his kindness and professionalism.  He
mostly worked out of Johns Hopkins while he was here.

Judy
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Kia ora Frank et al

>I don't know how the rest of you feel, but I'd like to suggest we do a
>little something to cut down on the amount of messages from the list server.

My two cents worth - to a point I agree (maybe I need to do what Don suggests re the digest) and we do find the same problem with getting through the mass of messages.  300 when I got back from holidays.

>By that I mean, limit the amount of replies to a message which go to the
>server by replying directly to the poster.

Hey, I want to know what others have to say!!  It could be just what I am looking for!!

I am training myself to answer people directly when I don't think it applies to anyone else but sometimes I am in a hurry and it is easier and quicker to push the return message icon and then cut out the bits I don't refer to.  Sorry about that.

However, I think it is really important that we do continue to share our thoughts and concerns.  Obviously the Harmon family updates are really important to us.  I also want to know about those families who are increasing their numbers, new surgical procedures, problems and successes with development and schooling, and all those areas that make our lives as parents so interesting and challenging, etc, etc.

As coordinators of the NZ Apert Network it is also important for us to know of the experiences of other families so that we can share them when the questions are raised that we don't know about - even when we do have personal experience it is great to include the experience of others because we all handle things differently.  With 12 families on our list in NZ we aren't exactly covering the field of experiences!

So yes, I will try to be more aware of how I make my responses (sometimes my sense of humour overrides my being sensible though, so no promises!) but when I feel my experience may be of some use to other parents, or when I want the advice and experience of others I will certainly use the Listserver.

>If we all included our personal email address at the end of our messages, the >person replying could post directly to the originator of the message instead of >to the list.

In our service the email addresses appear at the top of the screen so there is no need to include it in the text of messages.

And of course I would like to know the opinions of others on THIS subject!

Cheers,
Ann
NZ
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In a message dated 98-02-20 21:24:58 EST, you write:

<< Marianne,
 You mentioned that Evans fingers were joined at the tips and that he had
 them released and has done well.  At what age did he have this done?
 Our daughter Nicki, has her two middle fingers the same way.  Our hand
 surgeon suggested to release the index finger and pinky and straighten
 the thumbs when she is 9 months old (around July).  Was there enough
 bone to form two fingers (the middle two)??
  >>
Evan had all his fingers released in two procedures. These were delayed a bit
due to his cranial procedures followed by hydrocephalus/shunt/shunt
infection/replacement...etc His surgeon in Pittsburgh originally planned to
start soon after 6 months of age when he had his forst cranial release. As it
turned out he was 11 months old when he had his first hand surgery- releasing
the index finger and pinky bilaterally with skin grafts from the groin (a
"bikini" incision). The next finger surgery was planned for 6 weeks later but
was delayed by the fairly urgent need for another cranial release, then by an
ear infection. It was done at 15 months when he had his middle fingers
released bilaterally. Two weeks after that we literally left town on our move
to California. He now has a hand surgon at Stanford who is planning to give
him 6-12 months before tackling the task of straightening out his thumbs. From
what I've seen out here, they tend to like to do more procedures to get all
this accomplished. I'm really glad we did all bilaterally and there were fewer
surgeries!! Even snuck in a hernia repair with the second one!

Our hand surgeon, Dr Michael Bentz edited a text entitled Pediatric Plastic
Surgery which has a chapter on the Apert hand. It would be good reading if you
can find a copy. Published Aug 1997 by Appleton lange. Try for it in your
local medical library- it costs about $300.

Marianne
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Hi Jack and Raquel, You mentioned Dr, Wolfe? is that the same as
Dr.Anthony S. Wolfe? if it's the same Doctor he is one of the best in
his field.  Chip Sanchez (so.California)
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Marjorie,

Heres a liitle hoping and praying that Bj continues on whith this road of
progression! What a fighter he is!! GO BJ!!!

Jenn (Tampa/St.Pete)
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Dori,
     My daughter is 10 now. When she was 1yr. old she would become very
frustrated with her hands and try ro pull them apart. We did not have anyone
we could find until recently to do her hands. She had part of one hand done
and refuses to do the other. Children can be very cruel to ones who aren't the
same. We have been very lucky in that she has been accepted just like any
other child. She has now become interested to know that she is not the only
one with her condition.
    Diane
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Dear Marjorie:

First, I want to say that I know I feel the same as every other person on this
list, that I would truly miss your "ramblings" as you put them.  Since the day
I signed on here, your letters have been an inspiration to me.  That is not
just because of BJ, but because of the wonderful person and Mom that you are.

I would be honored, as I am sure everyone else would be, for you to continue
here with all of us, no matter what happens.

Please know during these next couple of days that our prayers and thoughts
continue to be with you and your whole family.  Also, there are no
explanations necessary for how you and your family deal with what you are
going through now or will go through.  That is a very personal, private
matter.  You don't owe us any apologies for it.

Please take care of yourself.
 

Your friend,

Janine Krebs
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Robyn:

CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU.  The date is arriving soon.  Hope you're feeling well.
Congratulations to anyone else who is pregnant.

Janine
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Good luck to Jonathan on his hand surgery on Monday.  Hope all goes well.
 

Janine Krebs
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Just out of curiosity; I was wondering if those of you who have apert sons
if any of you have also encountered hypospadias with your kids.
Nick has this and I just wondered if this is something rather consisant
with apert males.  If so please mail me back. Since this is a very private
thing, you may want to mail me direct.
Nick has seen two different doctors on this and I  was not satisfied with
either.

Judy Amerman
jamerman@uti.com
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Last Thursday we had our first appointment with Dr. Salyer in Dallas.  He
seems very nice.  What an organization!  They have a person to cover every
little detail.  Somehow though, I came away feeling like I had just been in a
new car showroom.  Mark and I both felt like we had been given a sales pitch
by all 4 people we spoke with.

I really feel like Dr. Salyer and his organization would do a good job
correcting Mitchell's craniosynostosis.  However, he wants to do two
surgeries.  Dr. Francel here in OKC says he would do it in one.  Dr. Francel
warned us that Dr. Salyer would want to "string it out" as long as possible.
Dr. Salyer says that other doctors would do it in one surgery, but he doesn't
think one is enough to do the job adequately.  Who do you believe?

Also, Dr. Salyer is not a provider for Blue Cross/Blue Shield.  He and his
insurance person say they will work with the insurance company, but the idea I
get is that they only will try to get the insurance company to pay as much as
possible.  What ever they don't agree to pay is still your responsiblity.
Since our PPO plan works on a contract with the doctors, I feel certain that
they would disallow a large portion of the bill and we would be responsible
for it.  I'm talking thousands and thousands of dollars--I'm sure you are all
familiar with the size of medical bills.

Dr. Salyer's office was very helpful with our motel reservations.  We got a
nice room for a very inexpensive price for that part of Dallas.  All his
office staff seems very well trained.

Dr. Salyer was very interested in our online experiences.  We told him we had
been talking with Blake's family and others.  He brought in his wife to see
what we thought about his web page (www.salyermd.com).  Like I say, his is
quite an organization.  It is very much a business.

Overall, I think Dr. Salyer would do a great job.  I'm just not sure that
possibly Dr. Marsh in St. Louis (who is a BC/BS provider) couldn't do just as
well for a lot less impact on our wallet.

BTW, I've got jury duty next week.  I tried to get out of it due to our
concentration on Mitchell's needs right now, but the judge said no.

Well, that's the scoop.

Resa
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When Mitchell had his first surgery, they let Mark donate 2 units blood at one
sitting.  Mark is a regular blood donor and he knows all the technicians at
the Oklahoma Blood Institute.  Since Mark is such a regular donor of all blood
components, they did not charge us for any of the services, including testing
both of us for a match.  I matched but could not give since I have had
melanoma.  Mark's blood contained several antibodies that they filtered before
giving it to Mitchell.
     We almost went into a panic when we realized that I could not give blood
for Mitchell.  The technician knew he was pushing it, but because he knew the
situation and knew Mark, he let him do it.  We were and are so grateful.
     The Oklahoma Blood Institute is a leader in blood services due to the
generous gifts of the now deceased Sylvan Goldman, the inventor of the
shopping cart.  We are very fortunate to have the advanced technology and
services that we do in Oklahoma.

Good luck,
Resa
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To the expecting mothers:

Our Mitchell was our third child and was born when I was 39 and Mark was 40.
Although his medical problems have been an added stress, he has been much
easier on our life than the other two who are now 10 and 12.  I think we are
much more mature and are more settled and accepting of the changes that
children bring.  My heart certainly goes out to those of you whose Apert's
children are not your last.  Rebecca and Stephen are perfectly healthy,
typical children.  They are very protective of their brother and seem to be OK
with our devoting so much time to his needs.  Stephen is disappointed that our
only vacation will be a trip to St. Louis to see a doctor, but he'll get over
it.

Overall, I think we are enjoying Mitchell even more than our first two.  Maybe
it's because there is so much of an age gap.  Becca and Stephen are devoted to
Mitchell and spend a lot of time playing with him and taking care of him.
It's really been joyful to watch their developing relationship.

My pregnancy with Mitchell was even easier.  However, I now think that his
craniosynostosis may have actually been the factor that did make it easier.
With the other two I had terrible back pain.  I carried Mitchell much
differently--more out in front--and had no back pain.  I wonder if it was
because of his head being shaped differently.  My doctor did notice that his
head was larger than she would expect and I had an ultrasound at about 8
months.  However, the ultrasound showed nothing unusual, and the pregnancy
proceeded as normal.  If the technician had had special training, do you think
she could have picked up the problem then?

Good luck to you with your pregnancy.  I know everything will be just fine.

Resa
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     Mitchell has been in physical therapy since he was 4 months old.
Although he has rarely acted like he hurt and has never cried, he rarely acts
like he is having a good time either.  He usually seems to be under a
tremendous amount of stress and to be really concentrating on the task at
hand.  He has made good progress.  He is 13 1/2 months old and is getting
ready to stand on his own.

     Although he has been with the same therapist for several months, I am
still very nervous about physical therapy.  I'm just so uptight about his
problems--I worry that today she's going to tell me something else is wrong.

     Sometimes I feel like Mitchell is being treated like a guinea pig.  He
has this unusual problem and the two physical therapists feel like this is
their big chance to learn all about it.  In a way, I don't blame them, yet
when it's your child, you don't want him to be the source of curiousity.  Last
time, the therapist asked if she could just feel his head so she could feel
what the surgery and the craniosynostosis had done.  I didn't know how to say
no to this person who we depended on to help Mitchell, but I was really very
offended.  Thank goodness, Mitchell didn't like it either and wouldn't stay
still for it.

     Mitchell wore a helmet for a while and they treated it with lots of
questions and discussion.  If they don't have a "need to know", I feel they
should just ignore it.

Thanks for listening,

Resa
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     My daughter is in middle school and I absolutely hate it.  The children
are out of control and the teachers and administrators have for the most part
given up.  Last week, some boys destroyed a science project Rebecca created
and all the teachers would do is say "I'm sorry."  Our public elementary
school was great, but once she started middle school, it was all down hill.

     Last year a boy whacked her on the head with his elbow on the school bus.
When we reported it, Rebecca is the one that was treated like a criminal.  The
boy was called into the office finally, but he was never made to apologize and
continued to ride the bus.

     My husband said he would be in the principal's face if this coat fire had
happened to Becca.  I don't think I would tolerate it either.  Becca knows how
to stay away from trouble most of the time, so we haven't had to go that far.
If you don't get satisfaction from the principal, I would just march myself
down to a school board meeting and at least speak my peace to them.  They
probably won't do anything, but I might put them on warning that if something
like this happens again, I will sue.

     Well, that's my two cents

Resa
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Hi Resa, you wrote:
>
>     Mitchell has been in physical therapy since he was 4 months old.
>Although he has rarely acted like he hurt and has never cried, he rarely acts
>like he is having a good time either.  He usually seems to be under a
>tremendous amount of stress and to be really concentrating on the task at
>hand.
 

Could be the nature of the child himself -- he's his own person and has his
own way of approaching things, like an innate personality characteristic --
that's what came to mind when I read your post.

snip
 

 Last>time, the therapist asked if she could just feel his head so she could
feel
>what the surgery and the craniosynostosis had done.  I didn't know how to say
>no to this person who we depended on to help Mitchell, but I was really very
>offended.

 REsa, at this point I urge you to be assertive about your feelings.  A
simple and direct reply such as "name, I understand that you must have
questions about Mitchell and his  condition.  However, I also need you to
understand that Mitchell has his own feelings and sensitivites, as do I.  I
feel offended when I see someone approaching him as though he is a specimen
instead of a the little boy that he is. Please focus on this PT while you
are here.  If you would like more infomation about his condition,  perhaps
you or your supervisor could do some library research about it."
 

or something to that effect.

>     Mitchell wore a helmet for a while and they treated it with lots of
>questions and discussion.  If they don't have a "need to know", I feel they
>should just ignore it.
 
 

I don't know much about physical therapy, but I would guess that the more
they understand about Mitchell's condition (I'm sorry I can't remember if he
has Apert syndrome)  the better they will be able to help him as the whole
child, knowing any other related issues that he has to face.

Still, I also understand your need for privacy, and it seems that privacy is
something you might want to address with Mitchell's therapists and also with
their supervisor.  You need to be comfortable with the people coming into
your home.

I know you didn't ask for advice, but I decided to throw my two cents worth
on this one anyway.

Pat
mom to the Peach (4 yo, Tessier facial cleft)
email to: bluenose@telusplanet.net
IM: onlypeach
shake and shake the ketchup bottle. none will come and then a lot'll ... unknown
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     As the parent of a child with a difference, I found a book my 12 year old
was asked to read for school very offensive.  Since some of you also have
older children, I thought you might like to know about it, because I think it
is very popular with teachers of children in middle school.

     "The Giver" is a science fiction book about a futuristic society that
disposes of anyone with a difference or problem.  The elderly, the sick, and
those that think for themselves are "released."  Most disturbing to me was the
"release" of and identical twin newborn baby.  The baby was executed because
it would be confusing to have two children just alike.  The book describes the
injection of poision into the babies soft spot and then graphically describes
the baby's physical reaction to the poison and his subsequent death and the
disposal of his body.

     I continue to be upset by this book that I read in August.  I can't
believe they want sixth and seventh graders to read and discuss this book for
a grade.  I objected, and the teacher changed her lesson plan.  Be alert to
your child's being asked to read this book.  Be sure you read it first and you
decide if you think it's appropriate for your family.

Resa
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At 06:00 PM 2/21/98 EST, Resa wrote:
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>     "The Giver" is a science fiction book about a futuristic society that
>disposes of anyone with a difference or problem.  The elderly, the sick, and
>those that think for themselves are "released."

Hmmmm--interesting that the author's take on non-comformity is that
inclusive--not everyone "gets it" that there is a connection between
discrimination because of physical difference and because of non-conformist
"ideas."  They are intricately related, though . . .

As a person with a facial difference (bilateral cleft lip/palate), my take
is that the way this book is **taught** is what matters more than anything.
 It sounds, IMO, as if it's the kind of book that could really serve as a
vehicle for deep discussion about difference (in the hands of a competent
teacher . . . In the hands of an incompetent, insensitive teacher, well,
admittedly, things don't look good . . . . social disaster for anyone
different in *any* way . . . Sounds as if there are some REALLY deep themes
in the book that anyone who tackles teaching it should be prepared for . .
. including taking inventory of their OWN prejudices around difference . .
.  )

Reminds me of an experience that I and many of the adults I know with
clefts have had--Most of us remember having cringed and wanted to crawl
under our chairs in shame during discussion of the classic, _Huck Finn_ in
high school literature classes. For those who don't remember, one of the
many characters that Huck tries to swindle is a young girl with cleft (in
keeping with the time period, Huck refers to her as "the Harelip.")

The trouble in my English class, in retrospect, was not at all the book,
but the fact that *my* cleft was not dealt with openly and without
shame--in any part of my life--not at home or at school.  Had my family
been more open about my cleft, and willing to discuss the heavy-duty ideas
that having *any* difference naturally brings up, I feel fairly certain
that my high school English teacher could've handled the discussion
sensitively, and my life might've been slightly easier because of it. I
think, though, that she knew better than to tackle the subject, though,
because I was incapable of talking about my cleft at all without shame . .
. I probably wouldn't have been ready . . .

Years later, when I re-read the book, I was struck by the educational
opportunity that was missed by avoiding discussion of "the Harelip's"
character.  In reality,  _Huck Finn's_ actual characterization of "the
Harelip" was  WAY ahead of its time--the character was sharp, an excellent
judge of character, and her ability to read people's intentions/true
characters almost blew Huck's cover. She saw Huck for the sham that he was,
while her more "ladylike" sisters fell for his scam hook line and sinker .
. . (Many of the fellow adults with cleft who I know, BTW, will attest that
the ability to read character like that may be a survival skill that some
of us gain of necessity, but that later on in our lives  serves as
attributes . . . )

In any case, the real idea that should've been given a chance to settle
into the brains of my high school classmates was--In contrast to the
stereotypes about people with clefts during the timeperiod Twain was
writing about, Twain created a character that I think is a credit to
cleft-affected people then and now--she was one sharp cookie, despite
Huck's attempt to categorize her, to label her . . . The stereotype of the
day, though, was that people with clefts were slow-witted and simple.
Joanna ("the Harelip") was nothing of the sort! :)

In other words, _Huck Finn's_ portrayal of people with clefts was every bit
as revolutionary  IN ITS DAY as it was with regard to Black people (despite
use of the "H-word" and the "N-word")  The book succeeded in both
humanizing Jim and allowing Joanna a keen intellect.  Amazing, for its day.
Non-PC language, but you can't miss the real idea . . .

All that to say,  I don't think that censoring literature that provokes
discussion of "big" issues is necessarily the best way to go--Finding
teachers competent enough to sensitively address those issues is.
Just my .02,
Lark Jarvis, LMT
Portland, OR
(who'll be looking for _The Giver_ next trip to the bookstore--sounds very
interesting!)
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Congratulations to all who are pregnant.  We just had our third child,
Jessica Emily Jones on Jan. 27.  Needless to say we were also very anxious
to see if she would be healthy after having Jacob (19 months old now) with
Apert syndrome.  We did not have any special prenatal testing done except
for a detailed ultrasound.  I was  never real worried  about another child
with Aperts just concerned about how I would handle two little ones and a 4
year old.  Still trying to figure that out!!  I think the doctors and
nurses that delivered Jessica thought I was a little nuts when I started
asking if she had fused sutures or any craniofacial problems.  They kept
saying she looked good and she is a cutie.  Still thinking about trying to
have a PA get together sometime.  Jim and Kelly when you get a chance give
me a call (717)837-1752 and we can get the kids together to play.  I know
Julianne would enjoy playing with your 4 year old too. Hope everyone does
well with surgeries and pregnancies.  We have a bit of a break, Jacob's
palate surgery was cancelled in Feb due to URI and not rescheduled until
April. Will keep you all posted.
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Hi everyone

I wanted to drop a note talking about what the doctors said today. Well as
everyone knows we had a special teams of doctors flown in from Califironia,
They spent the day examing BJ and reveiwing his chart and talking to his
doctors and nurses. We finally sat down to talk with them tonight. I guess
David and I were looking for a miracle. Well they said that they were positive
that BJ had received the best care available and that all options had been
pursued. They even told us that if BJ had been at their hospital (Children's
Hospital of Oakland) they would have never even attempted several of the
surgeries that have kept him alive this long. They said that we could of
course seek another opionion and even have BJ flown to another hospital. But
they said they doubt if he could survive the flight.

We thanked the doctors for coming and then spent several hours talking to BJ's
doctors from here, we also sat down with the members of the CF team and his
pediatrician. It was a bit intimidating their were 30 doctors Me and David. We
talked about all the procedures that BJ has had performed since this crises
began (21 operations) they also detailed all the possible procedures they
could attempt. They then went into all the criseses that BJ has now,
respiratory and kidney failure,  being the main ones, and they also gave us
lots of options for pain management.

The doctors have told us that they will pursue whatever option that David and
I wish. But they need us to make a decision and inform them tommorow at 3.  We
went home for the night to think and talk this over. David and I haven't even
tried to talk about it yet, we are waiting till we get the kids to bed. I keep
putting this off hoping it will get easier the longer we put this off. I am
tryng hard to be objective as to what the doctors said, but this is a decision
that rests more with my heart than my mind.

Well I will need to go I need to try and reach the rest of my and David's
family and give them the info. Then David and I will have to sit down and
start talking, Guess we won't be sleeping much tonight. I am not sure when I
will be able to give our next report so bear with me.
Marj Harmon
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I would just like to welcome everyone new to the list!  This is coming from
the other Graham's in Tennessee!ha...ha

Diane,
        Glad to see that you and Malorie are on the list.  I hope we can
get together soon!  Call me sometime.

Let's all continue our prayers for Marjorie, David and all of their
children.  They are a special family and have been such a blessing in my
life.

                                        Denise Graham
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Kia Ora

There was an interview on the radio today with a lady by the name of Gail Norton from Advanced Tissue Sciences in the USA during which she stated something about "growing joints" - of course my ears pricked up.  Their website is www.advancedtissue.com - one of these annoying ones where the text continues outside the range of my computer screen (which involves shifting the "page" left and right to read a line) and I can't shift further down the icons on the side so don't know if I have missed something.  And of course they don't give an email address where I could ask about it.

Does anyone know anything further about this?  I know the subject of joint transplants has been raised previously, but I don't recall anyone talking about "growing joints".

Ann
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