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Hi Patty!

We have a 17 month old son, Jake with Apert Syndrome.  We also have a 3 ½
year old girl named Taylor.  We absolutely LOVE this Listserv!!  It's a
great place, whether your 24 or 4.  Please don't hesitate to contact us when
you need a little support.  You sound like a wonderful person!  As parents
with young Apert children, we rely on you for your input and insight.  You
are wanted and needed here.  Please don't forget that!

Liz, Steve, Taylor and Jake Niemi

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        From:   Patricia Mc Donald [SMTP:goofy@WCOIL.COM]
        Sent:   Thursday, April 22, 1999 12:59 AM
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        Subject:        Searching for a friend

        Hello Everyone!
                 My name is Patty McDonald. I am 24 years old and have Apert
Sydrome. I have just recently joined the list serv,and have found it very
interesting. I have read many of your letters talking of different
difficulties as well as accomplishments with Aperts! I feel as though I know
all those with Aperts..I have gone through almost everything they have. Now
as I'm older I still find it hard sometimes to live with it. Lonliness and
depression. So I am looking for anyone around my same age to form a
friendship with. If you are interested please e-mail me at goofy@wcoil.com
<mailto:goofy@wcoil.com>  would love to hear from you!
                                                 Sincerely,
                                                                Patty
McDonald-from Ohio
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From:         "MARK E. DUBAS" <Murphy@PLATTEVALLEY.NET>
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Patty...

   Just wanted to say hello and welcome to the group.
   I am Mark, 35yr old single person with Aperts.please feel free to =
email me privately if you wish.
 Take care...
    Mark
  I'd also like to extend a welcome to Susan, glad you and Patty found =
us.
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<<File: ATT00000.htm>>
Hello Everyone!
         My name is Patty McDonald. I am 24 years old and have Apert =
Sydrome. I have just recently joined the list serv,and have found it =
very interesting. I have read many of your letters talking of different =
difficulties as well as accomplishments with Aperts! I feel as though I =
know all those with Aperts..I have gone through almost everything they =
have. Now as I'm older I still find it hard sometimes to live with it. =
Lonliness and depression. So I am looking for anyone around my same age =
to form a friendship with. If you are interested please e-mail me at =
goofy@wcoil.com would love to hear from you!=20
                                         Sincerely,
                                                        Patty =
McDonald-from Ohio
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Hello....

  I feel along with God being excluded in school, another factor is the =
programming that is on television these  days, parents need to be much =
more selective about what kids see, as there is alot of violence. The =
movies etc.. "make it all look cool" when quite obviously, that type of =
behavior has no place in society.
  Mabe a five minute session( quiet time...prayer time..which ever) both =
at the beginning and at the end of the day at school would be the =
answer, so kids could have time just to think or pray..spending the time =
quietly, but as they choose.
 =20
 Mark
=20

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From:   Chad & Denise Graham
Sent:   Wednesday, April 21, 1999 9:01 AM
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Subject:        SHOOTING IN COLORADO

We always have had kids in schools that were not athletes or in the =
popular
crowd or were even teased by the in-crowd, but they made it through =
without
violence and they became stronger adults with compassion.  I feel a lot =
of
our problems is we have taken GOD out of our schools!  Kids have no were =
to
turn like prayer.  There are many other contributing factors, but this =
is a
big one.  What do you think?
 

                                                Denise
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I'm intrested in what they say about the sore today, Email me when you
here,

Nicki, mum and fostermum to 3 great kids,Lachlan 4, jamie 3, (heart
healthy) and Katie 16 months, post fontan for tricuspid atresia, completion
due following Cath sometime after June 1999. Newly diagnosed CDLS, Reflux,
peg fed, Nissen fundo op end of March.
Awaiting the arrival of little Laura, 16months, Apert syndrome. count down
has begun!!!!!!!!!!
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now that our adoption of Laura is going ahead, we really want to be
involved with the picture exchange, I have listed our address on the
exhange list, I just can't wait to be able to send Laura, first photo as
our daughter back to you guys, hopefully this will be by the end of May or
early June.

Nicki, mum and fostermum to 3 great kids,Lachlan 4, jamie 3, (heart
healthy) and Katie 16 months, Awaiting Laura also 16months(apert syndrome)
coming to us though the miracle of adoption.
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Thanks so much for the info.  Hope everyone is doing better and that Teeter's
ear infections have healed.  Jonathan has tubes in his ears and the left ear
is draining.  It is infected but because he has tubes it doesn't settle
behind the drum but drains out.  It has been a few days now on the antibiotic
and his ear is still draining.  I think it's time to go back in and take a
better look see.

Anyway, I am going to work on reservations this week end and hope to get in
at the Crown Reef.  Hope they aren't filled up yet.  We look forward to
meeting everyone in person.  It's going to be a really special time for all
of us.

Brenda
Houston
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Hi'

My name is Jeany Pak I'm 27 year old girl who live in Canada and has 4
sisters and two brothers I'm youngest and the only one has apert's
syndrome.I hope to hear from you soon.
               Jeany Pak
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

--- Patricia Mc Donald <goofy@WCOIL.COM> wrote:
> Hello Everyone!
>          My name is Patty McDonald. I am 24 years
> old and have Apert Sydrome. I have just recently
> joined the list serv,and have found it very
> interesting. I have read many of your letters
> talking of different difficulties as well as
> accomplishments with Aperts! I feel as though I know
> all those with Aperts..I have gone through almost
> everything they have. Now as I'm older I still find
> it hard sometimes to live with it. Lonliness and
> depression. So I am looking for anyone around my
> same age to form a friendship with. If you are
> interested please e-mail me at goofy@wcoil.com would
> love to hear from you!
>                                          Sincerely,
>
>    Patty McDonald-from Ohio
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My name is Patty McDonald. I am 24 years old and have Apert Sydrome. I
have just
recently joined the list serv,and have found it very interesting. I
have read
many of your letters talking of different difficulties as well as
accomplishments with Aperts! I feel as though I know all those with
Aperts..I
have gone through almost everything they have. Now as I'm older I still
find it
hard sometimes to live with it. Lonliness and depression. So I am
looking for
anyone around my same age to form a friendship with. If you are
interested
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I agree with those who have stated that a lack of religion may be a
factor...but how about GUNS! Until Americans realize that the right to
bear arms is a MAJOR CONTRIBUTING FACTOR to people getting shot...the
senseless violence will continue. Each day in the USA hundreds of people
are shot..why..people have guns!

I haven't heard one word from the US media...including the President
...that maybe there are too many guns in circulation?

Thank GOD..for Canada's approach to gun control.  If you really care for
your citizens who are dying everyday because of guns....ask your
politicians to reverse a senseless "we must have a gun" attitude that
seems to be so prevelant in the USA!!

You cannot legislate or keep from some nut from doing harm if they
really want to..but perhaps a tighter control on guns would be a start.

If you don't beleive me ...look at the stats between Canada and the US
on crime, murder and assaults where a gun was used!
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Shocked is a good adjective to use to explain how I am feeling today.  I
feel for you Karin, you live really close to where the shooting took
place.  One of my coworkers brought up something I thought about but
haven't pinpointed how I feel about it.  She said the parents of the
suspects are going to live not only through their grief plus with the
torments from the community.  At first I hearing that the suspects were
killed, I wanted to hold their parents accountable for the crime.  I
forgot they lost too.  Then I think about the suspects lifestyles.  What
kind of relationship did they have with their parents?

Earlier this week two parents went to jail here in Ohio for keeping their
4 children (4-17 years old) locked up and secluded from the outside
world.  Along with their nutritional problems and psychological problems,
the kids cannot speak English.  They have developed their own language.
They have been deprived of their childhood and their life.

Something is wrong somewhere.  I believe whole heartily lacking a
relationship with God is a huge part of the problem.

Joanne
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Dear Everyone on the Apert Listserv,

I wanted to take an opportunity to thank each of you for the warm welcome and
kind notes.  I have enjoyed reading the daily digest and the stories on
Teeter's Page as well as seeing pictures of kids that resemble me in some
fashion.  The stories on the listserv have brought back many memories for me.
 Both good and bad.

While I hated attending all those doctor's appointments and sitting in those
clinics (which lasted all day),  I have to say those were definite bonding
opportunities for me and mom.  She would always treat us to White Castle
hamburgers when we ventured to sneak away from the clinic knowing my name
would likely not be called for hours.

I will continue to enjoy reading the digest daily and chime in from time to
time if I have something to add.  After having experience on both sides of
the health care fence, my advice to each of the parents is to stay informed,
ask lots of questions, take notes, and don't assume the doctor's are
infallible.  I also want to stress the importance of taking care of
yourselves.   For example, if your child is going to the hospital for
surgery, try not to stay 24/7.  Plan a break by having another family member
or friend stay with your child so you can get an occasional good night sleep,
a solid meal, shower and do something relaxing to regenerate yourself.  This
is so hard for the families I work with but so very important.

Please feel free to ask questions on the listserv or email me directly.  I
will be honest in my answers.  I am in a good place in my life but it took
love, willpower and lots of tears.  My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Take care.
Sincerely,
Dana White
Louisville, KY
Danabrger@Aol.com
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Hello out there!

Hey Lisa, I admire your efforts to have stuff ready for Samantha if and
when she wants it.  I wish my parents had some stuff.  There are very few
pictures of me as an infant and almost nothing about what I went through.
 I called my pediatrician a few years ago and he sent me some pictures of
my hands before they separated my thumbs.  It's interesting to me and
gives some degree of identity.

Hello and welcome to the newcomers.  My name is Joanne and I'm 34 with
Aperts.  Patty, feel free to e-mail me whenever.  I can relate with you
about the loneliness and depression.  I hope I can help.  By the way..
I'm in Ohio too!  Where are you?

My mom and I are walking in the March of Dimes Walk America.  We are
competing against each other to see who raises the most money.  My goal
is $500.00.  I had it at $100.00 but that was almost too easy.  I have a
feeling I'm "cashing in" on my disability.  They see me and hear "March
of Dimes" and wallet comes out.  With the risk of being presumptuous and
having someone yell at me about soliciting.. I am taking any and all
donations I can get. I need the donation by April 30 please.

Hope all is well!
Joanne
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I just wanted to ask everyone to say a small prayer tonite for Jordan (and us
as well) as he is heading BACK in for hand surgery tomorrow morning. This
will be our final finger release and its to separate and create the middle
and ring finger on the left hand.

I am nervous, and not sure why....the older he gets the more anxious I
become...

Thanks in advance for adding us to ya'lls prayer list

Jenn(Tampa/St. Pete)
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Jenn:

We wil be sending out prayers for Jordan for a successful surgery and speedy
recovery.  You're probably more nervous because you have 18 different things
going on with moving and packing and worrying about Jordan.

Take care of yourself, too.
Janine
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HAPPY 5TH BIRTHDAY RYAN!!

Welcome Peck family.  We are the Krebs,  Brian, Janine Nicholas and Emily (21
month old with Aperts).  We live in New York.  I am sure you will find this
list to be as helpful and informative as we have.  It's a great group of
people.

Best wishes,

Janine Krebs
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Jenn,

We will be praying for Jordan tomorrow and all of the others who are having
surgery in the up comming weeks. Try to keep your spirits up and soon this
to will be behind you. Let us know how things go.

Brenda,

Sorry to hear Jonathan is having so much trouble with those ears. When Billy
had both of his ears infected a few months ago they got so bad that the
draining was so bad I could not keep up with them. There was even some blood
streaks mixed in with all of the other yuk. After the first round of
antibiotics they were no better so we took him to an ENT up here who is a
kind of stand by since his ENT is down Hershey. He said when the ears get so
bad the antibiotics are not enough and he drained them right there in his
office and gave him some drops for his ears along with the antibiotics. I
was worried about the tubes comming out while he suctioned them and of
course they didn't. What a big difference it made.Within a few days the
draining was gone. When I took him back they were healed. The ENT said he
still wanted him to take another week of antibiotics because they have found
that it seemed to stop them from becomming infected again after they were so
bad. It worked. he has had a few more since then but no draining. Just
thought maybe it might help you in some way. By the way the antibiotic was
Augmentin.(not sure of the spelling)
 
 

Hope everyone else is well and happy.
 

Karen(PA)
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Jenn,

We will keep Jordan and your family in our prayers for his upcoming surgery.
Hope all goes well. When things settle back down, let us know how he is doing.

Cristy
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Hi Christy

>They gave us some bandages to put on the area, called DuoDerm.

Great stuff - I used to work for the company that developed and marketed it.  Hope it works for Carlee.  And you're right to be concerned about that raised spot.
 

All the best
Ann
NZ
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Hi

This ears business is current (and ongoing!) for us.  Checked Tuesday morning - wax with blood - off to the GP - grommet blocked.  To the specialist Thursday PM - no longer blocked - told off for using cotton buds (cottonwool on end of pliable stick) - thought light infection present, but also tissue regranulating too quickly can be cause of blood with wax - onto steroidal drops instead of antibacterial to slow down the regranulation.

Amy was also told that she is not to yell at Mum when she puts in the eardrops because Mum is only doing what he tells her to.  She is to ring him and complain, not complain at Mum.

Isn't it wonderful when the doctors stand up for us!!

Good luck to all those dealing with these issues plus those going in for surgery.  Sorry Jenn, I didn't get your message early enough to send best wishes for Jordan's surgery - I trust it has gone well and you will both be back home soon.

And Dana, Howard and I have a routine of me staying in hospital during the week and him during the weekend so that one of us is always with her.  During the time she was in hospital for 6+1/2 weeks we had three nights at home together, but that stopped when another mother told me that Amy cried for over two hours one night and the nurses weren't able to placate her.  It is a real drain on my emotional and physical energy, but I believe it is the least I can do for her, and hopefully she will be a more secure person through knowing one of us is always available.

Having said that, we have no other children, and I have the sort of job that I can drop for a term when Amy has surgery.  I can fully appreciate this issue is not so straightforward for other families.

Re Augmentin (augmented penicillin) - though this was thought to avoid the problems caused by other antibiotics, it appears to cause more.  Amy had a rash on it at one time, but as she had been on a range of different things we just didn't use it again for a couple of years and she has been okay with it since then.  However, I don't think it is a particularly effective antibiotic.

Regards
Ann
NZ
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        Hey everyone...I hope you are all fine!  I have a question.  Friday
the 30th Daryl is going to have a tendon transplant.  We have continued to
have trouble with his thumbs growing back together after 2 seperations
each.  His bones were all fused at the tips and after surgeries the thumbs
grew back together with the skin grafts.  Believe me... I was very
aggressive in dressings, but after 2 months of re-injuring his hand I would
have to let it heal without wraps.  The doctors say that it is like that
with the real severe hands sometimes.  After discussing our options of
something new we agreed that we would try the transplant of the extensior
tendon to the side of the wrist to the midshaft of the thumb.  We are
hopefull that this will allow him to have a wide space between his thumb
and fingers and have some mobility.  Has anyone heard of this?  I am under
the ipression that this is the first time it will ever be done on aperts
hands.  Let me know what you think.

        Dana, I am looking forward to meeting you and your mom.  Do you
need specific directions once into Lexington?  If so, let me know.

        I have been praying for Jordan and all of the others that have been
having surgeries lately.  Hope Carlee is doing better.  I am sorry I don't
get to respond more, but I do try to keep up with everyone.  I will be
sending out pictures of Daryl soon.  Thanks for the pictures you have sent
already!
God Bless you all!
 

                                        Denise Graham
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Hi friends,

Tony and I would like to thank everyone for there support with our adoption
of Laura, as yet we haven't had any finale letters, but thats typical of
our social service system, I suspect we will get a couple of days notice of
Lauras arrival*smile*

I would also just like to say, Tony and I don't consider ourselves  that
special, its the kids that deserve that praise.

We really think there is a high power at work,, we have been trying for 4
years to have another baby, but God has other plans! First he sent us
another wonderful son all be it a foster son, but he has become a major
member of our family, and know his Bio family want us to adopt him, then
where lent our little treasure Katie, she has taught us soooooo much. I
totally believe she was sent, to prepare us for Laura, or another child
with special needs (I don't want to get to sure of ourselves until she's in
our arms). For the list members that have a hard time with this concept,
sorry, I have to admit we to have struggled with God and the whole religion
thing in our lifes to, But what made me pick up a public phone and ring the
special needs adoption section, while I was waiting to see one of Katies
doctors one warn Tuesday afternoon!!!!!!!!!!!! Hmmmmmmm And why at a time
when Laura's SW was the first to answer the call, Something is at work
don't you think.

We are looking forward to become parents again with so much excitement I
really have a hard time containing my self at times,,, We also know that we
are entering a life long commitment to Laura, just as you do with any
child. I really don't think we are doing anything that special, We could
have a Bio child with Apert/special needs etc, and be going in blind, how
many parents get a Medical report, before the kids are in there arms. LOL.

Once againg I would like to thank you all for your support, can't wait to
send those photo's out!!!!!!!!!!
Nicki, mum and fostermum to 3 great kids,Lachlan 4, jamie 3, (heart
healthy) and Katie 16 months, post fontan for tricuspid atresia, CDLS, etc
etc. Awaiting the arrival of Laura, also 16 months, with Apert syndrome (
the count down has begun to her adoption)
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Hi!!
Jenny from Georgia here...
WELCOME to all of the new families... This is a wonderful group and a great
resource for Apert's people!

I am 32, born with Apert's ... can also relate to loneliness and such...
There is a great book out called "Playing the Tuba at Midnight" by Roberta
Barnes (I Think)
that has helped me get through those rough stages.  It's a quick read and
packed with humor and great advice about "singlehood" and all the schtuff
that goes along with that.

I am also just as shocked and dismayed with goings on of Colorado.  Why
tragedies like this happen overwhelm me with sadness and concern for our
country.

God bless alll the little ones and their surgeries.  I pray that Teeter is
feeling better and that Don and Cathy are on the mend as well.

I had a sleep study done (FINALLY!!!!) and am going to be fitted for a C-PAP
machine today.  I have always had problems with snoring, and the study
revealed a "moderate O2 impairment with chronic obstruction of my airway"
The Dr. thinks that a CPAP thingy will do the trick.  Anybody got any advice
about this?  Pro's and cons of CPAP?  I was really impressed by this Doc as
ghe actually knew what Apert's was and I didn't have to go through the whole
schpeeel over and over again.
God Bless Have a GREAT weeekend everybody.... can't wait for June!!!

Jenny in Georgia
 

Have a great weekend everyubody.
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Joanne,

My family is also walking in the March of Dimes Wonderwalk this Sunday here
in Minnesota.  This was something we started even before Jake was born (he's
17 months now).  I HAVE reached $500.00 !!!  I'm not sure of the reaction
I'll get to Jake on Sunday, but I don't care.  I'm excited and I really feel
it's such a great thing to experience with our children.  I'm happy to hear
of others involved in this wonderful event!!

Liz Niemi and Family

        -----Original Message-----
        From:   J. G. Lindamood [SMTP:chanan8@JUNO.COM]
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        Hello out there!

        Hey Lisa, I admire your efforts to have stuff ready for Samantha if
and
        when she wants it.  I wish my parents had some stuff.  There are
very few
        pictures of me as an infant and almost nothing about what I went
through.
         I called my pediatrician a few years ago and he sent me some
pictures of
        my hands before they separated my thumbs.  It's interesting to me
and
        gives some degree of identity.

        Hello and welcome to the newcomers.  My name is Joanne and I'm 34
with
        Aperts.  Patty, feel free to e-mail me whenever.  I can relate with
you
        about the loneliness and depression.  I hope I can help.  By the
way..
        I'm in Ohio too!  Where are you?

        My mom and I are walking in the March of Dimes Walk America.  We are
        competing against each other to see who raises the most money.  My
goal
        is $500.00.  I had it at $100.00 but that was almost too easy.  I
have a
        feeling I'm "cashing in" on my disability.  They see me and hear
"March
        of Dimes" and wallet comes out.  With the risk of being presumptuous
and
        having someone yell at me about soliciting.. I am taking any and all
        donations I can get. I need the donation by April 30 please.

        Hope all is well!
        Joanne
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I am fairly neutral on the subject of gun ownership.  I do not own any
guns.  Yes there are lunatics who own guns and misuse them, but there
are also thousands of responsible gun owners who should not lose their
privleges because of the acts of others.  I look at even larger acts of
senseless violence that do not involve guns - consider the Oklahoma City
bombing - no guns used - must we now seek to ban fertilizer and diesel
fuel?  The bottom line in my mind is that responsibility lies with the
parents.  The buck stops there.

> -----Original Message-----
> From: Robin MacDonald [SMTP:macdonal@GOLDEN.NET]
> Sent: Thursday, April 22, 1999 8:52 PM
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> Subject:      Shootings
>
> I agree with those who have stated that a lack of religion may be a
> factor...but how about GUNS! Until Americans realize that the right to
> bear arms is a MAJOR CONTRIBUTING FACTOR to people getting shot...the
> senseless violence will continue. Each day in the USA hundreds of
> people
> are shot..why..people have guns!
>
> I haven't heard one word from the US media...including the President
> ...that maybe there are too many guns in circulation?
>
> Thank GOD..for Canada's approach to gun control.  If you really care
> for
> your citizens who are dying everyday because of guns....ask your
> politicians to reverse a senseless "we must have a gun" attitude that
> seems to be so prevelant in the USA!!
>
> You cannot legislate or keep from some nut from doing harm if they
> really want to..but perhaps a tighter control on guns would be a
> start.
>
> If you don't beleive me ...look at the stats between Canada and the US
> on crime, murder and assaults where a gun was used!
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Hi Every one ,

Thanks for all the welcome messages, I really nice to read all the messages,
it helps to know that ther are other people out there is the situation.

Is it a regular problem with Aperts to have ear problems?  Richard has been
having ear problems since he was born, he's had grometts twice he now has to
wear 2 hearing aids .

Its terriable about the shooting in Colorado, i'm glad we have such a good
gun law over here, its almost impossible for  kids to get any kind of gun. We
had one incedent a few years ago  where a man entered a nursery school and
shot 16 children and their teacher
it shocked the whole country . My thoughts are with all the people in
Colarado .

Richards Doctor have said they will be doing surgery on his mid face etc when
he's 11yrs old at what age do they operate where you are?

Best wishes to everyone,

The Jones Family
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Hi Jenny....

   As an owner and user of a CPAP...her's my views on it...
  One of the best things about it, in my opinion, it alowed me to go =
without surgery to have my airway "widened", as the machine itself is a =
much cheaper alternative.It's pretty easy to get used to.(having it on =
at night)
 A major drawback, however, you must obviously sleep where there is =
electricity...and if your sinuses get stuffed occasionally, as mine do, =
it's useless.( It'd be a very good idea to have so fast acting sinus =
medication on hand) It is soley dependant on breatheing thru your =
nose.If you have to have surgery for anything, your apnia has to be =
addressed at that time also, as I had hernia surgery a coupleyears ago, =
they had to put a tube down my throat,(done after I was put to sleep for =
the surgery, and removed before I woke up) which to me, was no big deal, =
sounded MUCH worse than it ended up being..I had no problems after with =
a sore throat, or anything associated..but gotta admit I was scared to =
death over the thought of having a tube in my throat.
  The CPAP has parts that must be replaced occasionally, The mask, =
harness, hose from the machine to the mask.. can all wear out..It's not =
cheap to replace them, but not that bad either.The last time I replaced =
everything, it cost around $120.
  Hope I helped you...Have any more questions, feel free to ask, you may =
also email me privately also if you wish.
  Take care...
  Mark

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Hi!!
Jenny from Georgia here...
WELCOME to all of the new families... This is a wonderful group and a =
great
resource for Apert's people!

I am 32, born with Apert's ... can also relate to loneliness and such...
There is a great book out called "Playing the Tuba at Midnight" by =
Roberta
Barnes (I Think)
that has helped me get through those rough stages.  It's a quick read =
and
packed with humor and great advice about "singlehood" and all the =
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Hi everyone!  We've been remodeling 2 bedrooms this week so I've not been
reading the email too well (had 90 msgs when I checked today!) I hope all
who are having surgery are doing well.  Sara Younkin also had a sleep study
done last week--we've been saying for months that she's working too hard at
night to breathe.  At 2AM during the study the tech came in to put her on
O2.  He said that she has episodes where her sats are down in the 70's.  Her
doc went over the results with me in the morning.  Apparently she not only
has episodes of obstructive apnea but also something called hypopnea(sp?)
which as I understood it is when she would relax in REM sleep her muscle
tone was not enough at times to breathe effectively.  Bottom line is, she
needs more O2 at night or she's at severe risk for pulmonary hypertension.
None of us thought she'd tolerate the CPAP so for now we're using nasal
prongs to bring her baseline up so when she desats she doesn't go as far
down.  He seems to feel that her best bet is a midface as soon as her
surgeon can arrange it--which we weren't planning on having to deal with
until at least next year.   So we're off to Children's Hospital of
Philadelphia on 5/6 to make the arrangements.  Hope everyone is well!  Kelly
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Well, thanks so much for the thoughts and prayers for Jordan. he came through
like a trooper, got home at a Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwich, played, ate
some tasty treats from Boston Market (chicken, sweet potatoes, creamed
spinich for iron of course and cornbread) then fell fast to sleep by
6:30........so far on regular tylenol, but the strong stuff is standing buy
for tonite if he needs it.

Surgey itself was a success, and we FINALLY hae all 10 fingers completly
separated!!!! Hopefully, we'll get to take a breather for a while....at least
until we get moved to Columbus and can find some new docs!!!

Good Luck to Emily next week on her surgery, and any others my fatigue brain
can't think of at the moment. Our thoughts are also witha ll of ya'll dealing
with mid-face surgery decisions.....these choices come around far too often

As for the shooting, who can even begin to make any sense of it. All I can
imagine is that these two boys had some real problems; that people found it
was easier to look the other way as opposed to addressing them. How a
teenager can build an arsenol of weapons in their own garage and no one ever
went out there to say hello, and see what their kids were up to amazes me.
But then nothing should amaze anyone anymore. As triumph as our children here
prove to turn out to be, a handful of others turn in the wrong direction. As
my husband said last night, "Kinnda makes you really wonder what "normal" is
anymore." If thats normal, I'll take my "abnormal", loving, caring,
considerate of others child anyday of the week.

As for gun control, I don't know what the answer is on that one. I don't have
one, and will not allow one in the house as long as their are children
present. Its a very personal decision, and hopefully all parents choose based
on the good of their children. I would rather a burgular come in and shoot
me, then have Jordan get a hold of a gun and accidently shoot himself, or
someone else. Its a risk I am willing to take. Some are not.

And theres my 2 cents worth, or rather 2 dollars worth

Thanks again for thnking of Jordan today

Jenn(Tampa/St. Pete)
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Christy and Carlee,

Glad to hear everything went well. I got Carlee's pictures in the mail
today. What a cutie. I will try to send you a picture soon.

Kelly Spadini
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Hi Susan,

My name is Kelly Spadini. I am 17 years old from California. I have had
a lot of surgeries just like Ryan has had. Wow fracturing his arms at
the elbows sounds very painful. I have been through pretty much
everything you can expect a "different" person to go through so if you
have any questions jus ask. I don't really know what to tell you about
his elbows but I know you will get plenty of advice from other people.

Kelly
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Hi Patty,

My name is Kelly Spadini. I am 17 years old with Aperts Syndrome. I have
been through just about everything that you'd expect a "different"
person. Fortunately I have  been accepted at school and I  have a
wonderful group of friends who I'd be lost without. I get depressed
sometime and ask myself "Why did this have to happen to me?". Most of
the time, I try not to think that way. I set high goals for myself and
feel great when I achieve them. My friends never laughat me and I know I
always have the beside me. I honestly think having Apert Syndrome and
going through all that I have gone through has made me a better person.

I love the listserve, although I lurk more that I write. I am so glad
this is available for new parents. As far as I know, all my parents got
when I was born was photocopied pages from a book.

I look forward to hearing from you soon.

Kelly
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Jenn,

I'll be thinking about Jordan. Please let us know how everything goes.
Hope all goes well.

Kelly in California
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Hi Brenda:

Hope the antibiotic is working on Jonathan's ear.

Just wanted to know the dates on the get away to Myrtle Beach. I have a
friend who is interested and I haven't keep track of it since we are
expecting twins in May, and we won't be doing much traveling. Our daughter
Michelle is 8 and has Aperts, she is very excited about being a big sister.
 

Welcome Patty & Susan.
 Jordan is in our prayers.
Thanks again.

Martha Bradley
Algonquin, IL
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HI PATTY, WHERE IN OHIO DO YOU LIVE? I'M FORMALLY FROM WEST FARMINGTON IN
NORTHEASTERN OHIO, ABOUT 75 MILES FROM   CLEVELAND.     I NOW LIVE IN FLORIDA
AND HAVE FOR ALMOST 40 YRS. MY DAUGHTER-IN-LAW SAID SHE WROTE YOU, HER NAME
IS CRISTY AND THEY HAVE A DAUGHTER WITH APERTS NAMED CARLEE. CRISTY IS A GOOD
PERSON TO HAVE FOR A FRIEND. HOPE YOU TO GET ALONG. YOUR NEW FRIEND MARILYN
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KELLY,

CARLEE AND I WOULD LOVE A PICTURE. CARLEE IS DOING GREAT, AFTER HER FIRST
CRANIAL SURGERY.

LOVE,
CRISTY AND CARLEE
IN FLORIDA
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Hello everyone!  I was going through and updating some of Jake's things in
his baby book, and came across this card which was given to us by Jake's
great Aunt right after he was born.  It brings tears to my eyes everytime I
read it.  I thought I'd share it with you because I know many of you can
relate.  Hope you enjoy and cherish it as I do!

Liz Niemi & Family
 

"A New Baby To Love"

"All children need love, understanding, and care, someone they can count on
to always be there...

But God knew some children would need more than others, and that's why He
chose special fathers and mothers.

They have unique challenges right from the start, so the Lord holds these
families close to His heart.

He gives them His strength and the patience to wait...they learn that small
steps bring rewards that are great...

And they come to know joys that they'd never dreamed of, when their hearts
have been touched by a special child's love!"
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Hello Shirley Tanner,

My name is Stacey Jobe (Tyler's mother) we met in Dallas the other day.  I
hope Collin  and you came threw your apointments just fine!  Tyler's doing
great we have all five finger's on both hands  and were just waiting and
praying they will heal really fast.  Those bandages really get in his way.
He's also getting very moody.  You can't sit him on a table, hold his hands,
or go in to a room with a tile floor with out him throwing a walleyed fit,
because  I sit him on a table to change his bandages, he does not like to be
restrained and his doc. office has a tile floor. Is he smart or what!

I read a e-mail from somebody asking about a second opinion!  Well  Tyler's
hand surgeon that did all three of Tyler's hand surgery's was the second
opinion.  Dr. Genecov in Dallas has done the best job.  Of cource all the
credit goes to the Lord because he was bathed in prayer the hole time he was
cutting on Tyler.  Genecov seperated Tyler's Thumb and little finger first,
then the ring , and on April 8th  his middle and pointing fingers had grew
enough he was able to successfully seperate them.  Tyler hand the rosebud
hands with a solid finger nail across the middle three fingers.  I'm going to
try to get picture's out to everybody.

It depends from person to person  on what I tell them about Tyler's
condition.  I have more trouble with older adult  drilling me with question.
I know there just nosey or concerned, but when you have had a long day of
appointments and your tired of chasing your son it's hard to be nice. But, I
do answer there questions honestly and just tell them that the lord has great
things  planned for my wonderful little boy. He's already changing my hard
headed daddy.  Well i think i've typed to much already, good night

Stacey Jobe  (Tyler's mom) 18 months
Cisco, TX
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Thank you for sharing this. I see that love everytime Tyler looks at me
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Date:         Sat, 24 Apr 1999 01:02:08 EDT
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Hi Jeany, my name is Mary and I do not have Apert per se.  I have a cleft
palate.  I live in Florida and have one sister.  She is normal and she live
in Florida.  I had multiple surgeries to correct my cleft.  I also had one
surgery to reconstruct my face.  Hope to hear from you and you can e-mail me
privately if you want.  Mary
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I hear you Don, but you've got to admit that if there were no guns then this sort of things wouldn't happen - not with guns anyway, they would probably create something else.

>The bottom line in my mind is that responsibility lies with the
>parents.  The buck stops there.

In NZ not long ago it did.  The father didn't secure his gun cabinet and he and a number of others were killed by his son.  The Mental Health services are again under review, but it is not an area that gets a lot of funding.

The Tasmania situation wasn't "just" a regular kid gone crazy either, there has got to be something else going on to make the gunman (isn't it interesting how it isn't ever "gunwoman") go on his rampage.  A loved child from a secure background without glitches in his/her genetic mental makeup isn't likely to do this sort of horrific action.

Another ghastly tragedy and I have had to avoid the TV news all week.  That AND Kosovo is just too much for me to handle.

Regards
Ann
NZ
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Hi Stacey,
     So glad you remembered our names & that we are on the listserv. It was
so nice meeting & talking with you guys at the hospital!  After setting off I
told Larry I wished I had gotten your names/address, etc.  My memory is
really bad!
     Happy to hear Tyler has 10 digits now!!  He is such a cutie!  I remember
how bad Collin was with taking his bandages off.  We were constantly putting
them back on & trying to figure out how to put them on so he couldn't get
them off.  I think we finally put adult size "tube socks" over the bandages
that went all the way up his arms & legs (we had toes done at the same time)
& then safety pinned the top to his shirt sleeve to keep them from coming
off. It helped & kept the bandages cleaner too. Just had to watch for
sweating underneath. We didn't have any  problems there though. Collin was
still a Hudini sometimes!  You will get very good at "dressings". :)
     Our appointments were hectic to say the least.  The orthodontist was the
worst! The CAT scan went fine after they gave him the "goofy juice".  He
didn't care what they did!  All the others were pretty uneventful. Out trip
back was another 14 hours ride and VERY long.  We were all happy to be back
in our own beds that night.  Next time we are going to go a day or two early
for our bodies & minds to rest before doctor appts. begin.  We will probably
be travelling back down about May 28th. Surgery is on June 2nd for his
mid-face/RED placement.  Trying not to worry about it right now though.
     Have you placed your address on the "address page"?  I am still working
on sending out pictures to everyone. Have been very busy since our return. My
husbands sister, husband & 3 kids came to visit (are still here) and my
Mother in law, other sister & brother-in-law, their daughter & 4 children
came Thursday for the day.  I promise to get those pictures of my cutie out
soon!!
     I am showing off the pictures of Seth, Emily and Carlee that I have rcvd
so far! Thanks - they are all beautiful kids!  Looking forward to getting
more.

Gotta go for now.
Take care all,
Shirley
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Denise,
Where will Daryl's surgery be performed?  I am not that familiar with
Lexington but I am sure someone around here can give me directions.  We will
be coming from 64East.  Mom and I are looking forward to meeting you as well.
 Will keep Daryl in our prayers for a smooth surgery and speedy recovery!

As far as tubes in the ears.
I believe I had 4-5 sets of tubes.  Those things seemed to fall out so
easily.  (They looked like a microscopic spool for thread).  After my last
set (age 9), the doctors decided I had quite a bit of scar tissue (from the
multiple surgeries to place the tubes) and would not put any more in.  I do
have hearing loss, supposedly secondary to the scar tissue, but not severe
enough to need hearing aids.  I haven't had my hearing checked in about ten
years.

Sincerely,
Dana
Louisville, KY
Danabrger@aol.com
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From:         Judy Amerman <jamerman@UTI.COM>
Subject:      Hannah Brown
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Hi,

I spoke to Martha Bradley's friend today about the beach trip and she is =
going to try to join us.
Her name is Lauri Brown, and her daughter is Hannah, nine years old with =
aperts plus trach.
She hopes to have her husband convinced very soon about getting online.

In the meantime she would like to be on the picture exchange,  I have =
added her and Don should have her added soon.

I will add  her here as well.

Lauri Brown
912 Ski Hill Rd.
Fox River Grove, Il. 60021
Daughter Hannah age 9 with aperts.

She is really excited about what Don has created.  She really wants to =
be a part of our "elite"  club.
She has also been to several Faces events so maybe she will also have =
alot to share with us!!

I have to take Nick to the orthodonist on May 7 and she and Hannah are =
planning on joining us for lunch after Nick's appt.

Laurie Bailey, are you still with us???????   Didn' you meet her at one =
time??

Things are good here. Nick is excited.  His Dad is coming home next Sat =
for five days and will be here Nick's Ninth birthday on May 3. He will =
really be excited when his dad comes home for a month in June!!!
Me too.
I am tired of being alone so much!!

guess I had better run, have to fax Lauri a copy of the picture exchange =
list.  Which reminds me.
I plan to take some pics  then Bill gets home.  I will set the self =
timer on the camera and try to get a decent family pic to send out.

Judy
jamerman@uti.com

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<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>I spoke to Martha Bradley's friend =
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the picture=20
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soon.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>I will add&nbsp; her here as =
well.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Lauri Brown</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>912 Ski Hill Rd.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Fox River Grove, Il. 60021</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Daughter Hannah age 9 with =
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Hi Denise,
Zach's hand doc has mentioned this to us.  Zach has a thumb and 3 "digits"
on each hand and some work better and different  than others. He is quite
good at doing the vulcan peace sign. His doc has mentioned doing this in the
future the same as you mentioned. I did not ask alot of questions because
had digit seperation on his left hand 2 wks ago so I wasn't real interested
in hearing about more surgery so soon after this one.  It sounded quite
simple and not a big surgery in the scheme of things.  After  Daryl had his
thumbs released, did they put splints on to keep the thumbs away from the
hand?  Zach got them almost immediately and wore them daily for a week and
then every night for several months.  Let me Know.
Judy Stroupe
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From: Chad & Denise Graham <cgraham@INFOAVE.NET>
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Date: Friday, April 23, 1999 3:17 AM
Subject: TENDON TRANSPLANT
 

>        Hey everyone...I hope you are all fine!  I have a question.  Friday
>the 30th Daryl is going to have a tendon transplant.  We have continued to
>have trouble with his thumbs growing back together after 2 seperations
>each.  His bones were all fused at the tips and after surgeries the thumbs
>grew back together with the skin grafts.  Believe me... I was very
>aggressive in dressings, but after 2 months of re-injuring his hand I would
>have to let it heal without wraps.  The doctors say that it is like that
>with the real severe hands sometimes.  After discussing our options of
>something new we agreed that we would try the transplant of the extensior
>tendon to the side of the wrist to the midshaft of the thumb.  We are
>hopefull that this will allow him to have a wide space between his thumb
>and fingers and have some mobility.  Has anyone heard of this?  I am under
>the ipression that this is the first time it will ever be done on aperts
>hands.  Let me know what you think.
>
>        Dana, I am looking forward to meeting you and your mom.  Do you
>need specific directions once into Lexington?  If so, let me know.
>
>        I have been praying for Jordan and all of the others that have been
>having surgeries lately.  Hope Carlee is doing better.  I am sorry I don't
>get to respond more, but I do try to keep up with everyone.  I will be
>sending out pictures of Daryl soon.  Thanks for the pictures you have sent
>already!
>God Bless you all!
>
>
>                                        Denise Graham
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Hi Everyone,

Does anyone know about the following:

When I look at the kids pictures off of Teeter's page  I only get one photo
of each.  The rest are boxes with another little box on the corner.  I try to
click the little boxes but I get nothing.  Also on Teeter's page I get a
picture here and there and then a bunch of those little boxes.  (Hope this
makes sense).

Also I've only been able to register to the chat room, but can never find how
to get on.  I click on Chat now, but nothing seems to happen   Is everyone
else able to get to the chat room?   Does anyone still do the Sunday AOL?

Thanks for your help in advance,

Love, Lisa (Samantha 5 1/2 mo mom)
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Hi all...Just wanted to let everyone know that Talitha underwent a LeForte
III with the RED System on Monday, April 19th, in Dallas.  We got discharged
from the hospital on FRIDAY!!  Her recovery was excellent!!!  I can't begin
to describe the change in her appearance!  She's happy, we're happy...I
can't express enough the success we've seen with this device!  It's
absolutely fantastic!!  We were the 13th patient of Dr. Fearon to undergo
this procedure.  We're so pleased, and recommend this to anyone who is
eligible to undergo the procedure.  Folks,  THIS IS FANTASTIC!!
 I'm in the process of putting together a website concerning this.  We'll
have pics, etc. during different phases of growth.  We'll keep you
informed!!
Michael Sharrow (Talitha's dad)
http://www.crouzon.org
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Dear Friends,

It has taken me a week to regroup since we returned from Miami.  I just
realized that Seth has had five surgeries since September.  No wonder we
are feeling fried.  Hopefully, he won't have any for a while now.  I
don't believe that he could emotionally cope with another (I know that I
can't, I am just barely hanging on by a thread).

Thank you all for your well wishes.  We really enjoyed spending time
with the Miller's again.  Nicole's fingers look great!!!  She's a an
endearing child.  When she smiles, her whole face smiles.

I am going to be late sending pictures this time.  I have finals coming
up and papers due, plus our only daughter is getting married in May and
I haven't really taken care of business.  I think we invited more people
than the reception hall can legally hold.  Oh, my, what shall I do? I'll
think about it tomorrow, today I have paper that must be finished.

My love to all of you.  I know and understand what you are going
through.  My prayers go to all that have just had surgery and those that
are facing it and especially those that are having to make difficult
decisions concerning their child's treatment.

Peace, Dori
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Stacy:
God does have wonderful things planned for your little boy.  I was so glad to
read your reference to Him.  I don't know how some of us make it through
without His strength in our lives.

Believe it or not, there is a reprieve from surgeries after separating the
fingers and taking care of the fused sutures in the skull.  Shirley ( 5 yrs.
old with Apert's) had 8 surgeries during the first 2 years of her life and
hasn't had another one since then.  I don't mean to say that this is always
the way it goes, but at least it doesn't seem that the surgeries come so
close together after those two areas are taken care of.

Much love and may God continue to bless you:
Alice in Orlando, Florida
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Hi everyone~
I just wanted to share something and see if anyone else kind of had
anything similiar happen.
Courtney an I were having lunch one day, a girls day, of shopping and
everything. We were talking as usuall and I told her I was going to have
to call Children's Hospital to make some appointments for her. She said
No that she was fine, she wasn't sick. I said I know but what she needs
to go see them anyway just like always. Then I said, what if they want
to do surgery to fix her fingers,( a few are bent the wrong way) she
said No they are just fine, see then she moved them. I said I know but
they might want to make them straight, well she wasn't to sure about
that. Then I said well what if they want to do something to, and I was
trying to think of a way to put it when I touched my head, she said My
Head?  I said yes, she sai  NO!!  I giggled  I said What?  she said That
would hurt!  I told her Mommy would not let them hurt her, but she kept
saying No.......  as in  I don't think so!! it was kind of cute, but
then I was thinking how grown up she is, because we have never had to
talk about this before, and she has Never been affraid to go to the
doctors before, But she has had nothing done for gees I think going on 3
years now, all she ever does is go to the family doctors if she gets
sick.
what I was a little concerned about is how things might go if and when
we do go to the Hospital this time and they want to do something. How am
I going to help her through this with out her feeling as if I am being
the mean mom...    I guess all I can do is wait and see.
But if anyone else kind of went through the same thing I would like to
hear how you handled it  :)
thanks,       Dawn
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Well, here's my two cents if anyone is listening.

For all the new people, my son, Mitchell is two and was born with
craniosynostosis, not Aperts.  I really appreciate being allowed to be on
this listserver.  Although I mostly lurk, it has been such a comfort to our
family.  I also have an 11 year old son and a 14 year old daughter.

This is my opinion.  The problem is not God in the schools.  The problem is
God in the home and God on Sunday morning.  So very, very many of my
children's friends do not attend church regularly or have religious education
in their home.  The girl down the street couldn't figure out a toy of
Mitchell's.  My son explained that it was a model of Noah's Ark.  "Who's
Noah?" she asked.  WHO'S NOAH????  I still can't believe it.  She comes from
a very nice family who has a perfect lawn, nice cars and everything else we
expect in middle class America.  Is it the schools that have failed her?  NO!
 It's her parents.

My children get so much from their contacts at church.  They have many, many
adults that take a personal interest in their lives and really act as role
models and mentors.  Of course they get the religious education and have
gained a faith and all the "perks" that go along with it.  If these troubled
children were in church on a more regular basis, I think we would see a lot
less trouble.

Now for my second point.  We have a program in our schools called "Love and
Logic."  The school district administrators have presented it to us as the
latest thing since sliced bread.  In my opinion it is wrong, wrong, wrong.
It has taken the assertive discipline techniques that were popular when my
older children were babies and distorted them to the point that they are
absolutely ludicrous.  One of the main points is "natural consequences."  Now
this is fine to a point.  However, when the natural consequences are allowed
to go on until a kid lands in jail or worse, it has gone too far.  A parent
has a responsibility to step in and be a parent.  You are not your child's
friend.  You are his parent and you must accept the responsiblity that goes
along with it.  A parent must be involved in his child's life and spend both
quantity and quality time with him.  You have the right to expect certain
behaviors and the responsibility to enforce the rules to acheive those
behaviors.

Another bogus theory is "Don't make rules you can't enforce."  The example
given by my daughter's middle school was "You are not allowed to smoke pot in
my home," meaning that you could enforce that rule, but you couldn't enforce
the "You are not allowed to smoke pot anywhere" rule.  Can you believe that?
This was actually published in a newsletter by by daughter's school.  This
advice once again lets parents off the hook.

I think many parents have fallen for this lame advice because it makes
parenting so easy.  You just let your kid screw up--he'll learn.  I can't
know what my kid is doing all the time (making bombs, shooting up a school)
so I won't try to prevent him from getting in trouble.
Really taking responsibility for your children and teaching them is very time
consuming and difficult.  I would have so much more free time, if only my
kids would just take care of themselves.  But they don't--they're kids.

A whole other subject is the example set by parent's behavior, but I'll let
you off the hook on hearing my soap box on that one today.

Just my two cents,
Resa
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Just in case you didn't get your money's worth from my last post, here is my
two cents on TV violence.

A little over four years ago, the Murrah Federal Building and 168 lives were
destroyed in downtown Oklahoma City by a bomb.  As a lifelong resident of the
Oklahoma City area and someone that drove by that building on a regular
basis, I was absolutley devastated.  Although I knew no one in the building,
it is impossible to describe how this changed the lives of everyone in the
area.  Many of my friends were in the downtown area and did have minor wounds
from falling down stairs, being bounced out of chairs, etc.  Many other
wounds were not visible.

The Friday after the bomb, my husband and I attended a church service where
the ministers working at the recovery site spoke to the public.  Our
minister, Dr. Robert Allen, was in charge of all ministers at the site.  He
appeared on national television several times.

Another one of the speakers was Dr. Solomon, then bishop of the United
Methodist churches in the state of OKlahoma.  He said that someone had to
stand up to the violence on television and just turn it off.  He then
challenged the congregation to be the ones to do it.  My husband and I took
him up on this challenge.  We immediately banned Power Rangers, Teenage
Mutant Turtles, etc. for our son.  We banned ourselves from R rated movies.
We have never watched NYPD Blues.

Our son wasn't happy at the time, but now I can say he really doesn't mind
missing Batman and other cartoon violence.  He knows it's just a family rule.
 Instead, he learns from Histeria and Wishbone.  And I am really proud not to
be participating in the culture of violence.  I feel that our home was
"cleansed" and keeping it clean is important.

I challenge each one of you to ban TV violence from your home.  You'll never
be sorry.

BTW, Mitchell's middle name is Allen, after Dr. Robert Allen.

OK, I'll be quiet.
Resa
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Lisa,

I too am having problems getting into the chat room I have been able to
chat only twice.  Last week I tried and tried and all I got was opening
Applet whatever that means, but nothing happens.  Don if you are reading
this before tonights chat maybe you can assist in some way.  I will try
again tonight though.  As far as Teeters page goes I'm not having a
problem..

Raquel Miller....
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Dawn,
We still have a while yet to get to the stage you are in.  However
everything we as Apert parents do for our children is to help them in the
future and to improve their quality of life.  I know it will be hard and no
matter what, you are and will always be her loving mom.  Just think of it
this way, when it's time to go to the doctor's and get their shots, you take
them there, they scream and fuss and might even give you a dirty look, but
driving home it's mommy this mommy that.  All is forgiven....My thoughts on
all that we and our children will have to go through is that at the end it
will all be worth it and they will thank us for it. Of course don't get me
wrong we are not doing for the thanks, but I guarantee you that if we don't
the outcome won't be the same.

Best wishes,

Raquel Miller

Apert Mail wrote:

> Hi everyone~
> I just wanted to share something and see if anyone else kind of had
> anything similiar happen.
> Courtney an I were having lunch one day, a girls day, of shopping and
> everything. We were talking as usuall and I told her I was going to have
> to call Children's Hospital to make some appointments for her. She said
> No that she was fine, she wasn't sick. I said I know but what she needs
> to go see them anyway just like always. Then I said, what if they want
> to do surgery to fix her fingers,( a few are bent the wrong way) she
> said No they are just fine, see then she moved them. I said I know but
> they might want to make them straight, well she wasn't to sure about
> that. Then I said well what if they want to do something to, and I was
> trying to think of a way to put it when I touched my head, she said My
> Head?  I said yes, she sai  NO!!  I giggled  I said What?  she said That
> would hurt!  I told her Mommy would not let them hurt her, but she kept
> saying No.......  as in  I don't think so!! it was kind of cute, but
> then I was thinking how grown up she is, because we have never had to
> talk about this before, and she has Never been affraid to go to the
> doctors before, But she has had nothing done for gees I think going on 3
> years now, all she ever does is go to the family doctors if she gets
> sick.
> what I was a little concerned about is how things might go if and when
> we do go to the Hospital this time and they want to do something. How am
> I going to help her through this with out her feeling as if I am being
> the mean mom...    I guess all I can do is wait and see.
> But if anyone else kind of went through the same thing I would like to
> hear how you handled it  :)
> thanks,       Dawn
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 >         Grains of Sand: Parents Certainly Are Misunderstood
 >
>You thought you were happily smiling at your child from a hard stadium
>seat or a hot packed auditorium, but your child looked at your face and
>saw approval of him and joy in what he was doing.
>
>You thought that you were just patting him on the back or on the head,
>or just ruffling his hair, but your child cherished the warm loving =
touch
>and his heart was brightened.
>
>You thought you were reading a bedtime story with all the funny and
>scary voices, but your child enjoyed the fact you read every word even
>though he had heard them a hundred times before.
>
>You thought you were letting your child help paint the house even =
though
>the paint got kind of runny and drippy in places, but your child knew
>that you were working together as a family and felt a sense of
>accomplishment as a family.
>
>You thought you were singing silly songs or counting cows on a long
>boring trip, but your child learned that it was fun being together no
>matter where you were.
>
>You thought you were spending a few minutes of your time by throwing a
>ball in the back yard or baking some cookies, but your child, who
>realized that your time is precious, knew you were investing in him.
>
>You thought you asked your child's opinion about something that
>wasn't too important, but your child thought you asked because
>his opinions and thoughts were important.
>
>You thought you were being a good host by inviting your child's friends
>in for a cool snack on a warm summer day, but your child knew that his
>friends were important to you and always welcome in your home.
>
>You thought the tears in your eyes went unnoticed when your child
>accomplished an important goal in his life, but your child knew that he
>was deeply imbedded in you heart and you sensed his accomplishment.
>
>You thought that the refrigerator was as good of a place as any for
>hanging all the art work and "well done" papers that came home from
>school, but your child felt important when he came home from school =
each
>day with something to show you and tack up in his personal hall of =
fame.
>
>You thought you gave your child some simple chore or job to do and told
>him, "Well done," with a smile when he did it, but your child learned
>responsibility and began to realize he could tackle even tougher =
things.
>
>You thought you were helping a troubled restless child get some sleep =
by
>fixing a cup of hot cocoa, but your child felt you were opening
>you heart around a kitchen table and making all the problems a lot
>smaller.
>
>You thought the vacation wasn't much of a success because the fish
>didn't bite and the sun didn't shine, but your child still remembers
>everything that happened and he still laughs at all of the funny parts.
>
>You thought you were just pointing out the words in the church hymn =
book
>with your child's finger as he tried to sing along, but your child
>learned that singing praises to God in worship was important.
>
>You thought that you were just giving him a quick hug at a special =
moment
>or "just because," but your child carried it with him for a long time,
>because what you really said was, "I'm proud of you! I love you!"
>
>You thought you were just giving him a little kiss on the cheek to tell
>him good bye as he left for school, but your child felt warm and loved
>because he knew there would be another one waiting for him when he got
>home.
>
>Come to think of it, there are a lot of times when parents really are
>misunderstood!
>
>Written by Steven Staats
>Submitted by John Rovegno
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Resa,

All I can say, is my hats off to you.  I don't believe I could have ever
put it better than that.  What you said is exactly what our pastor
preached today in church, it's like you were there and repeated his
every word.
Jack and I feel the very same way you do and try to involve our children
in everyway we can with our church, believe us it helps and they are
different kids for it.  The  love of God is in their hearts and it
really really makes a big difference.

Greetings,

Raquel Miller....
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Hey, anyone!
I was just wondering what the RED System is.  I have been reading most of the
emails, but I must have missed what it actually is.  My son, Mason, is 2 1/2
months old.  We live in Denver and we are going to Medical City in Dallas  on
Thursday, April 29th to get a consultation from Dr. Salyer's office.  We are
meeting w/ Dr. Eric Hubli because Dr. Salyer was busy.  Has anyone had
surgery done by either of these doctors?  I don't know what they'll have in
mind for Mason, but he has all of the classic Aperts things, like the bones
fused in the head and the slowed growth of the midface.
Is there anything we should know about this scary procedure before we make a
decision on the doctors?  I just want my son to have good results.

Thank you,
Karin Pittman
Denver, Colorado
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Thanks for sharing this with everyone.  Mary
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Hello Amy!

Please send my get well wishes to Alex and your mom.  I can relate to the
recuperation phase!  Also, please take your time with getting back to me.
 We have all the time in the world.

Hope all is well.
Joanne
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Hi Alice.

My plans for my trip to Fl.  are in the making.  My Aunt and Uncle are
planning a vacation too and my grandmother, who lives in the same home,
wants me to come when they are gone to keep her company.  Well, my aunt
wanted me to go to the beach with her.  So many conflicting
possibilities.  All I know for sure is that I am able to take off
sometime towards the end of May.  I was wondering if you would be able to
do Disney or Epcot with me?  It has been a cow's age since I had the
opportunity to go.  If it's just me and grandma, I doubt she will want to
go.  I'm just checking out my possibilities.  I will let you know as soon
as I know what's going on!

Joanne
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Michael,

Glad to hear that Talitha's surgery went so well. How old is Talitha? Sure
sounds like she is a trooper.
Let us know when you get this web page on the RED system done.

Thanks,
Cristy
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i'm interested in this RED system also.  My son Tyler is 18 months old and
has had one crainal vault remodeling surgery done back in may 98, by Dr.
Salyer  with Dr. genecov assisting.   They are both very nice and will answer
any questions you have  I know this because i drill them very time i see
them.  Tyler has to go wed. for a 3d CT scan and we will see Salyer again in
July.  Dr. Genecov has done all three of Tyler's hand surgury's and I've been
very pleased with him and the way he cares about Tyler.  Hubli,  I've only
talked to on the phone but he seem's ok.  There all located in the same
office.  hope this helps.

stacey jobe (tylers mom)
cisco, tx
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Happy 5th  Birthday Ryan!  Hope you have a wonderful day.  We will be
thinking of you in Houston.

Brenda, George, Melissa and Jonathan
Houston
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Karen,

We are still having some drainage but not as bad.  Jonathan is on Augmentin
(his second antibiotic in 3-4 weeks).  If the drainage doesn't stop
completely in another day or 2 we will be going back in.  It was interesting
to learn what they did for Billy in the office.  I wonder if that's what we
will have to do.  Our ENT appt. isn't until May 10th but if the pediatrician
doesn't like what he sees we may just have to get an emergency appt. with the
ENT.  The next couple of days will tell.

Thanks for your concern and input.   Hope Billy is feeling well.

Brenda
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Martha-

Thanks.  We are planning on around 6/11 and 6/12th.  Congratulations and good
luck with the twins.  Our daughter  is now almost 10 and was 7 when Jonathan
was born.  She absolutely adores her brother and is a great big sister.  I
know your family will experience the same wonderful feelings.

Brenda
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Hi Dawn, Pat here in Calgary.  My daughter Evajessie (The Peach) and I
participated last year in the picture exchange.  You may remember us.
EvaJessie is now nearly six and has had ten generals so far for nine
surgeries.  The most recent was last September to build her new cheek.   I
can relate to your thoughts about talking to the kiddos and trying to get
some buy in from them for the procedures they have to endure.

For the new folks, I should introduce us again.  We have been on the
listserv since it began thanks to Don, although my daughter does not have
Apert syndrome, but was born with an extensive facial cleft.  I'll post her
pages at the end so you can have a peek at what a Tessier 4 cleft involves.

Anyway, we were surgery free for about three years also following palate
repair at age ten months.  Then all we had to deal with were PE tubes for
the ears.  But as she turned four, it was time to prepare for her orbital
osteotomy (similar to an advancement).  I explained to her that Dr. Doug was
going to move her eye (up and forward).  Later she told her aunty that Dr.
Doug was going to move this eye over there next to that one!  Then we had to
re-explain what we meant.

 For this ten hour operation, we prepped in several ways, one of which was
autologous blood donations weekly (the blood donation rules are different
here in Canada from what they are in the States and since her dad and I
could not give her blood, she had to donate her own.)  This means she got
stuck at least twice a week for the month prior to surgery, and we had to
get her to buy in to it.  Since she has a future of medical interventions
ahead of her, I decided at the beginning that she had to come willingly, and
I would never allow her to be restrained for any procedures, never allow
anything to be done TO her.    Well, that all went pretty well.  She came
along and did her thing and was so wonderful about it.  What a peach!

But then, a year later, we began to look at tissue expansion. She remembered
the previous year's surgery pretty clearly at that point.  I talked to her
(she was just past five) about it and she said the same as Courtney:  "Nah,"
she said, "I don't want to."  Well, we did have a choice of doing this
process in a few years time, but we were anxious to get it done before she
began Kindergarten.  So we began to work on planting the seed, and finding
her 'motivation'.  We came up with the idea that she would be able to wear
swim goggles once she had her new cheek.  She seemed excited about that, and
so we chatted it up wuite a bit.  She asked a lot of questions about how Dr.
Doug would make her new cheek, and I explained the process of putting in a
'balloon' and that it would be blown up (expanded) every couple of days and
get bigger and grow new skin so Dr. Doug could build her new cheek.  As she
asked questions, I tried to frame it for her in simple terms -- will they
put air in?  No they'll put in salty water.  Will it hurt?  It may feel
tight.  And then we would practice blowing up our cheeks and feeling how it
felt.  How do they put the salty water in?  It goes in through a needle.
Oops, there's that word.  But we can use EMLA.  Oh, she knew EMLA.  It was
her best buddy for the blood donations and the sticks the previous summer,
so she was a bit apprehensive, but pretty cool nonetheless.

We went in June for the expander to be put in.  She remembered the sleeping
medicine and the presurgery cocktail (Versed).  She remembered the playroom
at the hospital.  She knew where to find the videotapes in the pre-op area
so she could watch a movie while awaiting the call for hte OR.  She was
pretty familiar wiht the process.  She knew where to look for the slippers
they give her to wear, and she knew she could take Flopsy the bunny with
her.  She knew she would have an IV on a pole (we called it George).

We had talked it all out.  We were extremely well prepared. We are always
allowed right into the OR with her while she is put under, and we are always
in recovery as soon as possible with her.  She knew that we were going to be
there.

After the balloon was inserted, we had to go twice a week for saline to be
injected into the port which was just in the temple region forward of her
ear.  Again, she knew the process, and it became very predictable for her.
The EMLA went on, we went to the doc, he did the expansion (approached from
outside her field of vision so as not to cause any more anxiety), she got a
sticker and we went home.  Because of vacation times, we saw five different
surgeons for the expansions, and after the first few (EvaJessie even slept
through one injection), she even expressed a preference for the butterfly
needle because she could move around a bit during the expansion.  So she
began to make her own decisions about how this was to be done.  That gave
her a measure of control over the situation and she handled them like a
trooper. (I'm humbled by her strength and her resilience and her attitude --
I'm amazed and proud).

While I was stewing over how to do all this and keep her spirit intact and
keep her whole, I stumbled on an excellent book which I have talked about
here before, but bears mentioning again.  The book is called A Child In
Pain.  You can check it out at amazon.com   The book was written by Dr.
Leora Kuttner who was responsible for a lot of the pain management for the
oncology department at BC Children's Hospital in Vancouver (where we travel
for surgery).  When I began reading it, I recognized all sorts of techniques
and tricks of the trade that our nurses had used on EvaJessie to gain her
confidence and cooperation.  I began to understand how important it was (is)
to get her to buy in to the procedures, to come to the table.  I began also
to understand that she had gained a lot of confidence in her own ability to
handle the scary stuff.  It isn't easy going into the procedures, but I
think EvaJessie also knew that she could do this, that we could do this
together.   I recommend this book to anyone who has to help thier child
endure procedures which may cause them anxiety and pain.  It has been a
lifeline for me the mom who worries about everything.  It has helped me be
stronger  getting through this stuff, but also I gather strength from the
fact that we are helping her to learn what she herself is capable of.  I
think that must be quite empowering for a little kid -- even though they
probably don't process it in those terms.

Sorry I've been so long winded, but I feel that we've really done pretty
darn well in the prep department.  I credit our hospital for being so child
friendly and our medical caregivers for being so compassionate.  I credit
our family for handling things in a matter of fact way.  But most of all, I
credit my daughter for being the extraordinary person that she is.

I have an entire preparatory regime that we swing into when facing any
surgery. If anyone is interested, I'd be happy to share that too.

Anyway, Dawn, the short story is that when something needs to be done, we
explain it as a have to do, but EvaJessie makes a lot of decisions about how
it is done to her.  Last time she asked if Dr. Doug could use dissolving
stitches instead of staples to close the bicoronal incision.  Her choice.
He complied.  She asked if she could please have the iv on her right hand
because she is left handed.  No problem.

When you look at the tissue expansion pictures, you'll see us laughing en
route to the OR.  Part of that was the Versed.  But the other part is that
the whole process is predictable to her and that has a lot of comfort in it
-- for all of us.

Anyway, hope this helped.  Gee, you probably didn't need that much of an
explanation.  :-)

Here are EvaJessie's URLs

www.widesmiles.org/gallery/peach/
http://www.widesmiles.org/gallery/peach/tissue.htm     not linked
www.widesmiles.org/gallery/evajessie/   not linked
 

bye for now
Pat (proud mommy to The Peach)
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Hi Resa

>I challenge each one of you to ban TV violence from your home.  You'll never
>be sorry.
I agree.  Another thing that needs to be looked at - and we actually have a television commercial going at the moment about this - is the behaviour we demonstrate to our children.  How many times have we seen children shrink inside themselves because of how they are spoken to by their parents.  Even when a child has done something wrong they can be reprimanded, privileges withdrawn, whatever, without actually putting the child down so they then feel bad about themselves, and take their own bad feelings out on someone else.  They may have done something wrong, but that doesn't make the child a bad child.
And if we are not managing our own frustration and anger, and let it explode on our children when they put a step out of line, then what are we modelling for them.

Hey, how come we didn't get textbooks before we became parents - maybe we need a degree in parenting before we are allowed to be one!! :-)

My 2c worth.
Regards
Ann
NZ
 

>
>BTW, Mitchell's middle name is Allen, after Dr. Robert Allen.
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>OK, I'll be quiet.
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Hi Dawn

We have been dealing with this with Amy over the past year, as she has had no Apert-related surgeries since she was 4+1/2 (she is now 8yrs).  I have learned that telling it to her straight in language she can understand is the best way.  I waffled in the early days and put more onto her than she could handle.

Once I had become clear on it in my own mind the discussions took a more direct turn.  I asked her if, when she was 5, she could make the sort of decisions that she makes now.  She initially said yes, but once we talked about it she agreed she didn't know enough then to make the sort of decisions she makes now.  I then used that to lead into the talk about Mum and Dad looking at a lot of information and talking about it, and having decided the head surgery was something that needed to be done so that she won't get teased so much when she is older.

Once I let her know that we were making the decision, and it was not something SHE had to decide about, she was quite relaxed.  We talked a lot about it and in the early stages there were tears, and later there was anxiety, but she is okay now.

I also assured her that she will be asleep when it happens, so she won't know anything about the operation.  I am very careful how I phrase that, as we have now had two pets "put to sleep" and she knows what THAT phrase means!!  She has also seen one of "our" children in NZ with the distraction device in, and we have had a number of chats about the photos his mother copied to us.

She is keen on the idea of not having to go to school.

The mistake I made was saying that if her surgeons couldn't come up with a good reason we wouldn't go ahead with it.  That put her into a state where she didn't know what was going to happen.  Once she was given clear information she was okay.

Good luck.

Regards
Ann
NZ
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Michael:

So glad to hear that Talitha did so well with the surgery.  Boy, you sound
great.  I can't wait to see and hear more about it.

Thanks for informing us.

Janine Krebs
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For those who were asking about the RED system, I found this note in my
archives which explains it quite nicely...thanks Michael!!

Liz Niemi & Family (Jake - 17 mos. w/Apert's)

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Hi all...Just thought I'd re-post this information for LeForte III questions
and for those who missed it in the first post:
Here is an explanation for the RED System (Rigid External Distraction):
This information was sent to me by Dr. Jeffrey Fearon, The Craniofacial
Center, Dallas, Texas
RIGID EXTERNAL DISTRACTION SYSTEM (RED SYSTEM)
The use of a halo-distractor is very new in craniofacial surgery.  As of
February 1, 1999, I have treated ten patients with this system over the past
year, and I know of two or three other cases which have been done around the
country aside from my ten.  In my opinion, it represents one of the greatest
advances in craniofacial surgery since I have been in practice.  This system
consists of a frame which is affixed to the skull through screws on either
side of the head.  From a perpendicular bar is attached two screws which I
ask the parents to tighten twice a day.  These screws are attached to wires
which are in turn attached to a dental splint which is secured to the upper
teeth.  When I first saw this device I was quite hesitant to place it on a
child, however, in my experience they are very easily tolerated by children
and many children have not wanted the device removed because of the extra
attention they received while wearing one.  This device is used to bring the
mid-face forward in an operation called a LeFort III.  With a traditional
LeFort III, cuts are made across the nose, underneath the eyes, and down the
sides of the cheekbones so that the upper jaw can be slid forward.  The
upper jaw is then held forward by wiring the teeth closed and bone grafts
are then taken to fill in the spaces left by the advancement.  With the RED
system, the same cuts are made for a LeFort III, however, the mid-face is
not immediately brought forward; therefore, the teeth never need to be wired
closed.  More importantly, it is not necessary to take bone grafts to fill
in the gaps left by the typical LeFort III advancement so the operation is
shorter.  Instead, as the face is slowly brought forward by turning the
screws twice a day the body fills in the bone by itself.  After distracting
twice a day over a three to four week period, the device is left on for an
additional three to four weeks to make sure all the bone is well healed;
then it is removed with a five minute brief anesthetic.  Almost all the
children report absolutely no discomfort when the screws are turned to
slowly bring the mid-face forward.  Perhaps this is because each complete
turn of the screw brings the mid-face forward only one-half (0.5) millimeter
(by comparison there are approximately twenty-five millimeters to one inch).
Perhaps the best thing about the RED system is that the mid-face can be
brought forward much further than with a traditional LeFort III, and it is
my hope that by using this device I may avoid ever having to repeat this
operation in teenage years (which is the standard).  Patients who have had
both operations say the procedure with the RED system is easier.
The patient will be in the hospital for approximately six days and would
need to stay in Dallas for several days after discharge.  Postoperative care
instructions and a tracking sheet will be given at this time.  The patient
would then return seven to eight weeks later for removal of the splint and
RED system under anesthesia.
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Michael,

You sound great!!! We're so glad that Talitha made a wonderful recovery and
that she is doing great.  Both you and Melanie have been so upbeat that it
takes some of the apprehension away for me!!

Take care.  Keep us updated!  Gail
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Joanne:
Thanks for the e-mail.  We would love to do Disney or Epcot with you and will
be glad to try to work within your schedule (I do work full time, however.
Mon.-Fri. 7-4).  Just keep us posted on the details as they materialize.

Much love and may God bless,
Alice
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Hi Michael,
     So glad to hear about Talitha's surgery going so well.  It really makes
me feel excited about Collin's upcoming surgery. Dr Fearon is doing his also.
 He is a great doctor.   I am very happy to hear that the results are so
wonderful.  We met the Howingtons when we were in Dallas the beginning of the
month.  Leigh Ann is such a beautiful little girl.  The distraction sure made
a big difference in her appearance.  Looking forward to seeing the results of
Talitha.
     I have a question: You said she was in from Mon to Fri. How many of
those days was in PICU? Private room? Is there a place to sleep while she was
in PICU? When Collin had his last cranial surgery (1992) we slept in a
waiting room especially for parents of surgery patients. There were pillows &
blankets then. Do they still have these things?  He was only in PICU a couple
of days then. I am trying to be prepared  for our next trip.  I sure hope
Collin does as well & will be in the hospital only 5 days! Another question:
Did ya'll have to hang around Dallas for a day or two after released from the
hospital?
     Thanks for sharing - your email made my day!  Hope Talitha continues to
do well.

Take care,
Shirley Tanner
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From:         Patricia Mc Donald <goofy@WCOIL.COM>
Subject:      Saying Hi to friends!
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TO: All who have sent e-mails directly to me,

Hello! I have recieved many wonderful letters and am very excited about =
the number of friends I have recieved, However I am having  promblems =
responding to them. Many of you did not enclose your e-mails,and I don't =
know how to get on the "address page"? So if you would please send me =
your e-mail addresses,I would love to keep in touch with all you! I =
would greatl appreciate it.

TO: All those with Aperts,

Being someone who has Apert Sydrome,I can relate to many of the =
situations you are faced with,surgeries and the aches and pains. I would =
just like you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers,,and if you =
need a friend or would just like to talk please feel free to e-mail me =
at goofy@wcoil.com,I would love to hear from you! God Bless each and =
every one of you!

Your friend in Ohio,
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Hi Everybody, Welcome to all the new people, My name is Maxine Reed and I
have aperts. Iam happly married to a wonderful man for going on 16 years
this June. We have a very healthy and normal 15 year old going on twenty
teenager. Iam so glad you new comers have found this place. It's really a
great place to make new friends and get alot info. Patty and the other new
comers if there is anything you would like to ask me just E-mail me here or
at: rreed@cableone.net privately. Joanne what is your home address so I can
send you a donation? I would love to help you make your goal! Nicki and Tony
congradulations on your new arrival. I hope all goes well for you. I'll be
praying for you.Thanks Carol for the Grain of Sand: We parents are certainly
misunderstood.I feel Iam more each day now that I raising a teenager. I
agree with Resa when she said that the problem is God in the homes. My
daughter is going to a public High School because she promise her Mom and
Dad that if she slipped uped, she would have to go to a Christian High
school. She was raised in a Christian home and went to a christian grammer
school until she graduated from 8th grad. Then when she found out that her
friends from Christian school were going to a public high she wanted to go
too. So we made her keep her promise, so far she has and and her attuded
hasn't changed yet. It pays to have the parents get involve with their kids.
We too keep violent movie's and shows out of our home. I think that if
everyone would not watch movies and shows and if we tuned into cleaned and
good moral shows maybe the television net works would get the idea that
people want to watch good moral value shows and then they'll take off the
trash thats now on. Dawn I just wanted to say is I know how Courtney is
feeling I felt that way from time to time when ever I had my surgerys when I
was little. I even felt that way when I was 21 and was going to have my
facial surgery. But with the support of my family and with good friends who
said that it would inprove my looks and help me get along better in life and
with alot of prayer and prayers from friends and family I knew in my heart
it was the right thing to do. I'll be praying for Courtney    and you I know
its hard on you both. I will tell you that I haven't regreated it since. I
want to ask the Florida friends are any of you living near the fires. I sure
do hope not. I'll be praying for you all who might be near the fires and for
the friends in and around Littleton,Colorado.My daughter and I draged my
husband in to up dated our family photo. ( He hates to get his picture
taken) They will be ready on May 5 then I'll have some copys made and send
them out as soon as I can to all the people on the photo exchange.Kelly you
certainly do have a true and great friend in Sarah Davis hang on to her!Well
I better close it's getting late and my daughter says she wants me to spend
a little time with her before she goes to bed. Take Care. My prayers are
going out to all who are having surgery and to those who are recovering from
surgery. Iam also praying for you parents. Get some rest. The little ones
need you. You're no good if you are overly tired. So get some rest. Maxine
or Max in Sunny Modesto, Calif.
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Dear all:
Mitchell has been scheduled for his first craniofacial clinic in May, a year
after his cranial reconstruction.  I know that several of you have mentioned
going thru these clinics, but I never realized they were such an involved,
structured process.  If any of you have some helpful hints on making it thru,
things I should avoid, things I shouldn't forget, that you could  share, I
would really appreciate hearing them.

Congratulations to Carlee and all the others whose surgeries are memories.
Good luck to Emily and all others with upcoming surgeries.

Thanks,
Resa
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JUDY,

        Yes, we did have the splints, several different kinds infact, but
to no avail after 3 months they would tighten up together.  Eventually the
skin would adhere together.  In surgery the doctor can usually pull it back
apart, but if he was awake it would be to painful for him.  I will let you
know how this goes.  I think it is only an 1-2 hour surgery, but they
always say that and it ends up being 4-5 hours.  Thanks!

        I will be sending out our pictures in 2 weeks because of Daryl's
surgery this week.  I have some good news.  We have been driving 6 hours
one way for his hand surgeries.  I have not been able to drive more that
two hours without falling asleep with my eyes wide open.  I have to pull
over and take a power nap to get me to where we are going.  An organization
called angel flight is going to fly us to Kentucky.  This is going to be
such a big help for me.  Please pray for us that we arrive safely and
Daryl's surgery goes O.K.

Dana,
        We are looking foward to meeting you and your mother Friday.  When
you get to the hospital, you can come in the back door and ask someone to
guide you to the patients rooms.  Then ask the nurses desk for our room.
There are few rooms so it shouldn't be hard.  If you need to talk to me
before Thursday morning, call me at 931-684-4899.  Talk to you soon!

                                        Denise Graham
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Hi Denise!  My name is Joni Stephens and my son, Joseph, has Aperts.  He
is six years old and has been through more than 25 surgical procedures.
I haven't heard of this procedure, but I am very interested in the
results.  Joseph has very limited use of his hands, and is at an age
where he is beginning to realize that, which is frustrating for him.
Also, where do you live?  I saw that you mentioned Lexington; is that
Lexington, Kentucky?  We live in Richmond, about 25 minutes from
Lexington.
Also, just want to say hello to everyone else.  I am new to the
listserv, and have found it very interesting, to say the least.  To the
older girls with Aperts who have also recently joined the listserv, just
want you to know what a blessing it is to have input from someone who
has been where our children are now.  Not many people can understand the
fears, pain, hopes, and joys of living with Aperts;  thank you for
sharing with us.

                                        Joni M. Stephens
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Jim and Kelly Younkin wrote:
>
> Hi everyone!  We've been remodeling 2 bedrooms this week so I've not been
> reading the email too well (had 90 msgs when I checked today!) I hope all
> who are having surgery are doing well.  Sara Younkin also had a sleep study
> done last week--we've been saying for months that she's working too hard at
> night to breathe.  At 2AM during the study the tech came in to put her on
> O2.  He said that she has episodes where her sats are down in the 70's.  Her
> doc went over the results with me in the morning.  Apparently she not only
> has episodes of obstructive apnea but also something called hypopnea(sp?)
> which as I understood it is when she would relax in REM sleep her muscle
> tone was not enough at times to breathe effectively.  Bottom line is, she
> needs more O2 at night or she's at severe risk for pulmonary hypertension.
> None of us thought she'd tolerate the CPAP so for now we're using nasal
> prongs to bring her baseline up so when she desats she doesn't go as far
> down.  He seems to feel that her best bet is a midface as soon as her
> surgeon can arrange it--which we weren't planning on having to deal with
> until at least next year.   So we're off to Children's Hospital of
> Philadelphia on 5/6 to make the arrangements.  Hope everyone is well!  Kelly
Kelly and others:
        My son, Joseph, has had three sleep studies.  He was having such a hard
time breathing at night, that he was on three liters of O2 and it wasn't
helping.  His SAT's were dropping into the 70's, sometimes the 60's.
The doctors had done every kind of operation possible, removing his
adenoids and tonsils, some palatal surgery, nasal surgery to increase
his nasal passages, removing growths in his throat, even a midface
advancement, nothing helped for any length of time.  He has not growing,
because he was burning off all his calories while he was sleeping (or
trying to) at night.  He began to have these coma-like spells where he
would vomit and sleep, and vomit and sleep, for DAYS.  His CO2 levels
were increasing, causing his cranial pressure to increase.  After three
years of dealing with this, we finally had a trach put in, and he is
doing GREAT!!  We cap it during the day, because he only needs it when
he is sleeping.  What a difference it has made.

                                                Joni
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Lisa, sometimes that happens to me with the little boxes,don't know why.Don
cn probaly tell us.
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Pat,

Robyn, Brenna's mom here.  Just wanted to say, Peach, I mean EvaJessie, is
growing up to be souch a beautiful young lady!  I can see a lot of you in
her sillouette.  Where did the time go!  She was just a little girl not so
long ago.  Now my little Plum is getting to be such a big girl too!   Where
does the time go?

Hugs, Robyn
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Hello everyone,

Robyn J. here,  Brenna's mom (just shy of 3, born with Crouzons).  I have
mostly been lurking these days.  I was just getting around to sending our
pictures out when I just checked the list and realized that I never hit the
send button to deliver our address back in March.  OOPS!  :- (   I  hope it
is not to late to join you all.  I had so much fun sending and receiving
everyones photos last year.  I can't wait to see how much everyone has
grown in a year.  Sorry for the delay.  Hope everyone is doing well.  We
keep all the kiddo's getting ready for, and returning from surgery in our
thoughts and prayers.

I sent my address to Don to add, but just in case...

Robyn & Brenna Johnston
PO Box 25633
Eugene, OR 97402
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From:         tony zieth <zieth@HOTNET.COM.AU>
Subject:      Mad, Mad, Mad, I'm close to the edge!!!!!!!
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This is going to be very long, sorry.
I so upset, I'm having trouble writing this post,
yes I knew it was to good to be true, The weight thing has raised its ugly
head again.

I rang the SW, to check it was okay to go and see the latest photos, of
Laura, while I was on the phone, I could tell something was up, Anyway,
when I had finished talking, The SW, very carefully told me that Tony
needed another DR letter to say he was what the GP(family doctor)
considered healthy, this is no problem, our GP is more than happy to do
this, but she then went on to say that Tony should also get a sugar and
colestrole test done. This was the final straw, I nearly lost it, I told
her that, I thought she should find someone else to adopt Laura, she asked
why, I said, well if this weight is going to hold up the adoption anymore
then We owed it the Laura, to let someone else adopt her, and give her the
forever family that she so rightly deserved, The SW, went quite, for a
second, then said very carmly, if Tony only would get these test done I
promise things wont be held up anymore.
Well I'm not dumb enough to beleive that it won't be held up anymore, but I
said fine, Tony will have the test done.
I then dropped into the GPs office, he was really mad, he couldn't beleive
it, he told me that he would almost bet his life on Tony's test coming back
okay, and handed me the test form.

Well off my darling husband went this am, to have a fasting colestrole and
surgar test done, My darling husband is such a trooper, he said that we
will fight to the end this time, and they(the department) will not win. For
those of you that are new, Tony and I went for an ethiopian born child last
year and the same thing happened, but we ran out of money, and our
fertility hopes won, so we decided to back down, and went tough another 6
months of hell on IVF.

I can hear some of you saying, well just lose the weight. This is what I
think, I have know my lovely husband for 6and half years, we have been
married for 5, in that time, my husband has seen a doctor 3 times, he has
had a handful of sick days, couple of which were for me, he has had the flu
1 time. in other words I consider him pretty healthly.His weight has not
cahnged in that time.
We both have tired to lose weight on several occansions, but it just
doesn't move (I'm also over weight but nothing is been said about that)
Plus we are know happy with our bodies, we both play competitive sport, in
fact Tony plays indoor soccer which is so fast, he walks our dogs, 2 crazy
huskies every night, we as a family, go camping, off road driving, fishing,
take the kids to the park, play chasy and basically do all the things,
people of the right weight do.
I tried to chase this issue up with the human rights commission, but
because these laws where made before the human rights laws, we have no
legal standing.
The joys of living in Australia.
Anyway, I have decided to nominate myself as the avocate for all over
weight people trying to adopt, I will change the laws, along with my lovely
ever suffering husband.
Poor Tony, first he couldn't give me the second child we both wanted sooooo
much (although the problem is mine he blames himself, must be a man
thing!!!!!!) then we have to pull out over weight issue, though lack of
money, now with my hubby in a great job, as a manager of a big hardware
warehouse. he still is battling, good job he rarely takes anything
personally!!!!!!!!.
Last night he joked to me, can any of your friends in america, give us a
home and a Job for 12 months, and we could have adopted that baby 4 times
over if we lived in the USA.
I could see the heart ache he's going though over this in his eyes. I know
he has even asked his boss if there is a possibility of transfers, to the
USA, but the business aren't run as one, so there's no chance.

Anyway in a perfect world, the beautiful Foster kids I have in my house
would have been born to me, not to mothers that don't want them (in one
case at least)
Please pull out all prayers, chants, spells, that Tony's test come back
okay (that would just be our luck! if they didn't) and on Friday I can walk
into that SW and hand over the key to our future as Laura's parents. And
say when does she move in!!!!!!!!!!!
 

Nicki, Mum, fostermum, soon to be adoptive mum, wife to 3 (nearly 4) great
kids and and fantasic husband.
CDLS, Tricuspid atresia, hemi fontan, Reflux and soon Apert syndrome are
just some of the things we deal with!!!!!
Queensland Australia.
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Hi Joni

>advancement, nothing helped for any length of time.  He has not growing,
>because he was burning off all his calories while he was sleeping (or
>trying to) at night.

Really interested to hear you raise this issue.  One of the support contacts I have had recently was for a child with a CF anomaly and one of the issues the family was told was part of the condition was short stature.  I connected with a local family with a child with the same anomaly and she said her son had started growing once he was on CPAP, and in his early teens has already reached the height they were told would be his adult height based on the height-at-2yrs-times-two calculation.

There is a lot to be said for throwing away those old medical textbooks - they don't include the innovations that are benefitting our modern day children.  The worry is that so many of our doctors haven't got past those old textbooks, and in this case it appears the doctors of the family that contacted me have not yet caught up with the benefits of CPAP.

Hope that makes sense!

Keep smiling.
Ann
NZ
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From:         "Allison's: GO USA, Inc" <gousa@GOUSAINC.COM>
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Hi Nicki!

I can still remember the Post you made at Easter.

"HOPE ALL YOUR EASTER WISHES COME TRUE.
++++++++++++++++++++++

AND DON'T FORGET WHY WE HAVE EASTER!!!!!! (no not for the easter bunny!!)

This is what I read, given to us in the Bible:

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds,
because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.
Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete,
not lacking anything.:: James 1: 2-4

I sent that verse because it sounds like you have been thoroughly tried.  I
admire your dedication, and determination to give Laura a good home.
Although many of us our blessed by our situations with our children, it is
not every family that could look at the adoption of a special needs child,
and call it a blessing from God like you do.

Also, do not be misled.  Although we may not have the same set of rules in
the United States as Australia, it is usually still a very difficult
procedure.  Many families attempt adoption and are turned down again and
again in our country.

If God meant it to be, and you pursue it, it is yours.

If God has other plans for Laura, you can be sure she is in good hands, and
the LORD will have other blessings for you.

I do hope all goes well and Laura becomes a part of your family!  Don't
give up the faith.
 

Cheers,

Mike Allison
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Hello Everyone,

Just wanted to let all know that Carlee and I are going to be on our local
news tonight.  We had been talking to an agency trying to get help with
funding for the June trip and a man called today and said that the director
of the program was friends with one of the newscasters. So they came out and
done a story on Carlee. It airs tonight at 11pm. We hope everyone is doing
OK.

Cristy and Carlee
in Florida
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If any of you have some helpful
hints on making it thru,
things I should avoid, things I shouldn't forget,

Resa~
it can take all day sometimes, and you can get pretty worn out if you let
yourself. Brings munchie things..... for you and your little one.... and remember
to bring favorite toys and books. There usually is a lot for them to do, but
sometimes your sitting a room waiting.
One thing I did was write down little notes the doctors would say on my
appointment paper I got next to the docs name so I knew who said what  :)

Good luck.  I know you will make it through just fine  and it gets easier and
easier,the next time you go.

Dawn
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Nicki,

Hang in there.   It really saddens me that you have to go through so much.
Don't let the United States fool you though.  My friend couldn't adopt
because they found out that her husband had bounced one $10 check 25 years
prior.  Everything else checked out perfectly.   My prayers and hopeful
thoughts are with you.   I am so blown away how you know all having this baby
entails and you are fighting for her.  What a wonderful thing to be able to
tell Laura.   I wonder if my daughter Samantha will ever ask or wonder if we
were disappointed (we're not), Laura will know you knew a head of time and
wanted her very badly.   All I can say is that if Adoption was based on just
wonderful loving strong people you would have her right now.

Christy I hope the news show went well.  The power of media is wonderful.   I
posted once before about a teenager in our support group that was on Rosie
O'Donnel.  He got so much needed help after that, and it introduced him to
our community.  Two months later I witness two woman reconize him and shook
his hand.   I hope you get to go on trip.Florida.

I hope you all do another get-to-gether next year.  I will be there with
Samantha.  This year will be surgeries and I'd rather take her on a plane
when she's a little older, but I can't wait to hear about the time you all
have

I made an eye doctor appointment today, Samantha's left eyeball is jiggling.
It doesn't bother her and isn't extremely noticeable unless you are looking
closer.   Now I'm just in the swing of all of this and make appointments.
But I remember five months ago hearing about all this was so overwhelming.
Now I just make the call.   Love of a child is tremendous.

Well got another ten pictures out, well do ten more this week.  I look
forward to receiving pictures from exchange for Samantha's scrapbook.    She
is reacting to photographs now and I've started to show her her friends from
Listserv.   She has cooed at everyone.

Love,Lisa Guyette, mother of Samantha 5 1/2 months Aperts that includes cleft
palate
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Dear Robyn, well there's a few of  'em growing like little flowers in God's
garden.  Yes, it was over two years ago that we were gearing up for that 10
hour surgery.  Time has flown.  It was two years ago that we met at the Tim
Horton's here and Brenna was just wee thing.  Looking forward to seeing all
thenew pictures of all the kids.

Speaking of, we recieved Emily's and the Krebs pictures today.  So nice to
see the whole family.  Gee, Emily is so big already, and last year she was
just a peanut.

WE haven't done pictuers yet, but Peach's party is coming up in a few weeks
so that'll be my excuse to get out the camera.

Night all
Pat
 

>
>Robyn, Brenna's mom here.  Just wanted to say, Peach, I mean EvaJessie, is
>growing up to be souch a beautiful young lady!  I can see a lot of you in
>her sillouette.  Where did the time go!  She was just a little girl not so
>long ago.  Now my little Plum is getting to be such a big girl too!   Where
>does the time go?
>
>Hugs, Robyn
>
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Dear Nicki  this must be so hard and frustrating to have to jump through the
hoops.  I hope all is well that ends well.  Thinking of you and your family
and sweet Laura waiting for her forever family.  Hope you are all united soon.
Pat
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>From: flgirl@gbso.net
>To: vpps@hotmail.com
>Subject: Slow Dance
>Date: Mon, 19 Apr 1999 22:42:12 -0500
>
>Be sure to read the end of this message.
>
> S L O W D A N C E
>
> Have you ever watched kids
> On a merry-go-round
> Or listened to the rain
> Slapping on the ground?
> Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight
> Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
> You better slow down
> Don't dance so fast
> Time is short
> The music won't last
>
> Do you run through each day on the fly
> When you ask "How are you?"
> Do you hear the reply?
> When the day is done,
> Do you lie in your bed
> With the next hundred chores
> Running through your head?
> You'd better slow down
> Don't dance so fast
> Time is short
> The music won't last
>
> Ever told your child,
> We'll do it tomorrow
> And in your haste, not see his sorrow?
> Ever lost touch,
> Let a good friendship die
> 'Cause you never had time
> To call and say "Hi"?
> You'd better slow down
> Don't dance so fast
> Time is short
> The music won't last
>
> When you run so fast to get somewhere
> You miss half the fun of getting there.
> When you worry and hurry through your day,
> It is like an unopened gift....
> Thrown away...
> Life is not a race.
> Do take it slower
> Hear the music
> Before the song is over.
>
> PLEASE FORWARD THIS TO HELP THIS LITTLE GIRL
>
>PLEASE pass this mail on to everybody you know.
>It is the request of a little girl who will soon leave this world as
>she has been a victim of CANCER. Thank you for your effort, this
isn't a
>
>chain letter, but a choice for all of us to save a little girl that's
>dying of a serious and fatal form of cancer.   Please send this to
>everyone
>you know...or don't know. This little girl has 6 months left to live,
>and as
>her dying wish, she wanted to send a chain letter telling everyone to
>live their life to fullest, since she never will.  She'll never make
it
>to
>prom,graduate from high school, or get married and have a family of
>her own.
>
>By you sending this to as many people as possible, you can give her
and
>her family a little hope,because with every name that this is sent
to,
>The
>American Cancer Society will donate 3 cents per name to her treatment
>and recovery plan.
>
>One guy sent this to 500 people!!!! So,I know that we can send it to
>atleast 5. Come on you guys.... and if you're too selfish to take 10-
15
>minutes scrolling this and forwarding it to EVERYONE, then you are
one
>sick person. Just think it could be you one day.  It's noteven your
>money
>just your time!!!
>
>         PLEASE PASS ON
>
>
>to: IN:wjbaldwin1@home.com
>cc: IN:princessa@c-gate.net
>    IN:bdickinson@poeandbrownaz.com
>    IN:gbhall@mailexcite.com
>    IN:KNCHESSIE@AOL.COM
>    IN:vpps@hotmail.com
>    IN:VESHEPPARD@AOL.COM
>
>
 

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Marilyn Williams wrote:
>
>     ---------------------------------------------------------------
>
> Subject: Fwd: Slow Dance
> Date: Sun, 25 Apr 1999 20:15:56 PDT
> From: "pearl parrish" <vpps@hotmail.com>
> To: MBwill43@aol.com
>
> >From: flgirl@gbso.net
> >To: vpps@hotmail.com
> >Subject: Slow Dance
> >Date: Mon, 19 Apr 1999 22:42:12 -0500
> >
> >Be sure to read the end of this message.
> >
> > S L O W D A N C E
> >
> > Have you ever watched kids
> > On a merry-go-round
> > Or listened to the rain
> > Slapping on the ground?
> > Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight
> > Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
> > You better slow down
> > Don't dance so fast
> > Time is short
> > The music won't last
> >
> > Do you run through each day on the fly
> > When you ask "How are you?"
> > Do you hear the reply?
> > When the day is done,
> > Do you lie in your bed
> > With the next hundred chores
> > Running through your head?
> > You'd better slow down
> > Don't dance so fast
> > Time is short
> > The music won't last
> >
> > Ever told your child,
> > We'll do it tomorrow
> > And in your haste, not see his sorrow?
> > Ever lost touch,
> > Let a good friendship die
> > 'Cause you never had time
> > To call and say "Hi"?
> > You'd better slow down
> > Don't dance so fast
> > Time is short
> > The music won't last
> >
> > When you run so fast to get somewhere
> > You miss half the fun of getting there.
> > When you worry and hurry through your day,
> > It is like an unopened gift....
> > Thrown away...
> > Life is not a race.
> > Do take it slower
> > Hear the music
> > Before the song is over.
> >
> > PLEASE FORWARD THIS TO HELP THIS LITTLE GIRL
> >
> >PLEASE pass this mail on to everybody you know.
> >It is the request of a little girl who will soon leave this world as
> >she has been a victim of CANCER. Thank you for your effort, this
> isn't a
> >
> >chain letter, but a choice for all of us to save a little girl that's
> >dying of a serious and fatal form of cancer.   Please send this to
> >everyone
> >you know...or don't know. This little girl has 6 months left to live,
> >and as
> >her dying wish, she wanted to send a chain letter telling everyone to
> >live their life to fullest, since she never will.  She'll never make
> it
> >to
> >prom,graduate from high school, or get married and have a family of
> >her own.
> >
> >By you sending this to as many people as possible, you can give her
> and
> >her family a little hope,because with every name that this is sent
> to,
> >The
> >American Cancer Society will donate 3 cents per name to her treatment
> >and recovery plan.
> >
> >One guy sent this to 500 people!!!! So,I know that we can send it to
> >atleast 5. Come on you guys.... and if you're too selfish to take 10-
> 15
> >minutes scrolling this and forwarding it to EVERYONE, then you are
> one
> >sick person. Just think it could be you one day.  It's noteven your
> >money
> >just your time!!!
> >
> >         PLEASE PASS ON
> >
> >
> >to: IN:wjbaldwin1@home.com
> >cc: IN:princessa@c-gate.net
> >    IN:bdickinson@poeandbrownaz.com
> >    IN:gbhall@mailexcite.com
> >    IN:KNCHESSIE@AOL.COM
> >    IN:vpps@hotmail.com
> >    IN:VESHEPPARD@AOL.COM
> >
> >
>
> _______________________________________________________________
> Get Free Email and Do More On The Web. Visit http://www.msn.com
I didn't think we were to send chain letters on the listserver. Doubtful
if this is even true...so many of them are not.
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>THIS IS A TEST and this is the ONLY year it will work so
enjoy it
> >>> while
> >>> > >you can and spread it around.
> >>>
> >>> DON'T CHEAT BY SCROLLING DOWN FIRST!  It only takes 30 seconds.
Work
this
> >>> out as you read.  Don't read the bottom until you've worked it
out!
> >>> 1. First, pick the number of days a week that you would like to
eat
> >>> out.
> >>> 2. Multiply this number by 2.
> >>>
> >>>
> >>> 3. Add 5.
> >>> 4. Multiply it by 50.  (I'll wait while you get the
calculator)
> >>> 5. If you have already had your birthday this year, add 1749.
> >>> If you haven't, add 1748.
> >>>  >6.   Now subtract the four digit year that you were born.
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>
> >>> SEE BELOW
> >>>
> >>> You should now have a three digit number:
> >>> The first digit of this was your original number (i.e., how
many
times
> >you
> >>> want to go out each week).
> >>> The second two digits are your age
> >>> This is the only year (1999) it will ever work, so spread the
fun
around
> >>> while it lasts!
 

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I won't even start on my stories with health care since I started my
fight with breast cancer last year but it hasn't been pretty.  I know
you ALL can relate since you are also dealing with it for your
children.  SO, I thought you might get a kick out of this article that
my Dad sent to me.  It is SO TRUE!!

Take care, Christine
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Dear Christine,
Thought you'd enjoy this column that was on Dr. Dean Edell's website.
It's all so true.
Love, Dad
 
 
 

              Health Care To Offer Personal Touch?
                 Really And Truly?

                 A recent AP news story came across my desk with
                 the headline, "Hospital Patients Get The
                 Customer Treatment: Hospital employees offer
                 the personal touch."

                 The article described how the University of
                 California at Irvine Medical Center had gone in
                 for a crash program of improving customer
                 relations.

                 This translated into:

                 --When a sick person in a bed presses the call
                 button, somebody will answer.

                 --When a customer arrives on time for a doctor's
                 appointment, they will not be forced to wait 15
                 minutes to two hours (the current range of typical
                 times).

                 --Everybody on the hospital payroll has to attend
                 customer-service workshops.

                 --A covered golf cart stands ready to whiz older
                 customers about the labyrinthine campus.

                 Good. Great stuff. Glad to hear it.

                 But imagine, for one moment, that you are a
                 newspaper editor, and this thing comes down the
                 AP pipe. Ask yourself: Is this news? Should I put
                 this in the paper? What makes it news?

                 The answer: Yes, it is news.

                 What makes it news is not the fact that UCI is
                 doing it. What makes it news is the fact that it is,
                 indeed, news. In 1999 you can still make
                 headlines by declaring that you are going to treat
                 patients like human beings, let alone that
                 exalted form of homo sapiens known as the
                 "customer."

                 It’s this kind of thing that makes people like me
                 go ram our heads into the nearest convenient
                 brick wall.

                 I think I wrote my first "patient-as-customer"
                 piece in hieroglyphics on papyrus. Planetree, the
                 San Francisco thinktank that is the mother church
                 of the "patient-as-customer" religion, has been
                 preaching its gospel since sometime in the reign
                 of Vespasian.

                 I could fill screens with scores of examples of
                 institutions designed around this idea, from North
                 Hawaii Community Hospital on the Big Island to
                 Mid-Columbia Community Hospital in The Dalles,
                 Oregon - and I am sure there are scores more
                 that I do not know about.

                 But the reality is that these remain very much the
                 exception. The average experience is far
                 different. In fact, in no other retail experience is
                 the customer treated as badly as in health care.

                 Using health care is not picking up a fish
                 sandwich or a pack of Rolaids. The costs of the
                 average transaction ranges from about what it
                 would cost to buy a boombox (going to the
                 Emergency Room with the flu) to an Armani suit
                 (one night in a hospital bed) to a Lamborghini
                 (being treated for AIDS).

                 But when I walk into my local stereo store,
                 Nordstrom's, or auto showroom, a salesman
                 immediately greets me and asks what I would
                 like to see. My favorite local roastery greets me
                 by name, and has my latte all set up, just the
                 way I want it (double shot, in a tall glass mug) by
                 the time I get to the counter - because I am the
                 customer.

                 The contrast with my experience when I have to
                 enter the world of health care could not be more
                 stark. I gird for battle on my own behalf, or on
                 behalf of a sick child, spouse or friend. I
                 encounter long waits, bureaucratic forms, opaque
                 instructions, lack of communications,
                 unnecessary pain ... the recitation could be
                 endless.

                 And this is normal.

                 This is normal precisely because, whatever the
                 intentions of the individual caregivers, most of
                 the health care industry does not really see the
                 patient as a "customer." Customers engender
                 profits.

                 For most health care providers - clinics, hospitals,
                 even doctors - you are not a potential profit but a
                 cost. At best, you are a dicey profit possibility:
                 the organization will make a profit from your case
                 only if they keep costs extremely low.

                 So I'll put on my futurist hat. I have several, in
                 fact. Today I'll try the "Pollyanna" model - it's
                 pink, with lace trim and a fake sunflower on the
                 band. I will imagine a "customer-centered" future
                 for health care.

                 In this "Pollyanna hat" future, health care is
                 organized to make money by providing its
                 ultimate product: the care, technology,
                 knowledge, and close attention that lead to
                 greater health and better lives for its customers.

                 How do we get there? Let's talk about it. I am
                 convinced that it can be done. I am convinced
                 that there is no simple answer. And I am
                 convinced that almost any answer would be better
                 than the way we do it now.
 
 
 

                  Joe Flower, Healthcare Futurist
 

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You may also want to ask each doctor for a business card so if you have
questions later, you can go back and ask.  Also, be sure they send you a
copy of the overall write-ups and findings on your child.

Liz Niemi

        -----Original Message-----
        From:   Apert Mail [SMTP:apertmail@USWEST.NET]
        Sent:   Tuesday, April 27, 1999 10:48 PM
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        Subject:        Re: Craniofacial clinics

        If any of you have some helpful
        hints on making it thru,
        things I should avoid, things I shouldn't forget,

        Resa~
        it can take all day sometimes, and you can get pretty worn out if
you let
        yourself. Brings munchie things..... for you and your little one....
and remember
        to bring favorite toys and books. There usually is a lot for them to
do, but
        sometimes your sitting a room waiting.
        One thing I did was write down little notes the doctors would say on
my
        appointment paper I got next to the docs name so I knew who said
what  :)

        Good luck.  I know you will make it through just fine  and it gets
easier and
        easier,the next time you go.

        Dawn
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Good evening!

I've been out of town the last few days, so I'm sorry about not getting
Jake's pictures out for the exchange. Rene, I also promised you copies of
mid-face advancement articles and haven't been able to get to that either.
I'll try working on them this weekend.

I've been out of town because my father-in-law suffered a severe cerebral
hemorrhage this past Monday.  My husband and I have been together for twelve
years, so we're very close.  He's in ICU about 150 miles away.  I just got
back today, but my husband is still there.  This is devastating news because
we've been told his outcome is not good.  This morning, they had to go in
and relieve some of the pressure on his brain with a suction catheter.
After surgery, I got quite a shock!  Here's my father-in-law with a large
bandage around his head, with a drain sticking out of it.  Reminded me too
much of Jake after his cranial surgeries.  Interestingly enough, Jake's
middle name is the same as my father-in-law's!

Then, Jake came down with a 103 temp today, and was vomiting all last
night...and of course, I wasn't around to take care of him due to being at
the hospital with my husband and his family 150 away.  My poor mother was
watching him, so I had to rush home.  Can't quite figure out why he has the
temp.  The doctor ran a lot of tests, and can't figure it out either.  He
thinks Jake has the flu.....boy, it's been a tough week.

Anyway, hope all is well for those having surgeries or recovering from them.
Please say a prayer for us, thanks!

Liz Niemi & Family