|Cathie and I met in college in 1978, at a satellite campus of the University
of South Carolina in my hometown of Sumter, SC. We hit it off immediately.
Near the end of our first date, I told her, "You know we'll probably
get married." She said, "Yeah, I know." Which we did, after
dating each other exclusively all through school.
We had lots of fun, lived in Sumter for a year, then followed my job
to the "big city" of Columbia. We lived in an apartment for three
years, then bought our house. We had all of the things we had said we wanted
before having a child - a house, stability in our jobs, and stability in
our marriage. Even so, I guess we were just having too much fun - traveling,
buying toys, and we began to become more involved in our careers, so we
put off starting a family until, in 1991, we began to realize there was
more to life, and something was missing in our lives.
Cathie wanted to be free of birth control pills for six months before
becoming pregnant, which we managed to accomplish. Then she became pregnant
right away. We got all the right prenatal care, and Cathie's was considered
by her doctor to be a "no-risk" pregnancy. We enjoyed all the
things all parents do - planning the nursery, becoming very excited. Health
problems with the baby was the furthermost thing from our minds. We had
ultrasounds at 8 weeks and again at 3 months, which showed us a very active,
healthy little girl. We could not have been happier!
Along about her sixth month, Cathie began to rapidly gain weight and
size. We had no experience with pregnancies, and Cathie was seeing the
doctor at the recommended times, with no problems. Then on the next visit,
the doctor began to show some concern for the accelerated weight gain.
We had some tests and it was determined that Cat was borderline for gestational
diabetes, so the doctor put her on a very low sugar diet, and told her
to rest. Well, rest was not to be had - appointments with the doctor to
get the test done, then follow-up, then the dietitian, then the family
doctor - all really took a lot of energy out of Cathie.